1: Just because someone identifies as a submissive or slave does not mean they are your submissive or slave.

2: Demanding someone submit (or dom/me!) you without even a hello or more than a small conversation is never going to go well.

3: Before you think about asking someone to submit or dom/me to you, get to know them as a person and then make sure your kinks match up as well.

4: Don't demand, pester or threaten someone to send you pictures, audio, videos...

This year I am staying home for Christmas (rather than travelling across the country to visit family). That means it is the first Christmas with just Asslvr and I. That means we get to spend a lot of time relaxing, watching tv, cuddling, and and LOTS of kinky things. I think most of the gifts under our tree are kink oriented. It is also the first Christmas that I get to spend some time being Little over Christmas. To say that I am excited is an understatement.

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As part of a new, and temporary rule, I've effectively got to blog about something I'm uncomfortable talking about for the next 3 days...most of the blogs so far have focused on things I have done but this one's something I haven't...sex!

Ah sex, the ultimate passionate expression of 2 people's love for one another...or at least something better to do rather than watching rubbish TV. That feeling of closeness to another human being that doesn't find you utterly repulsive, to feel their...

Disclaimer: This is no request for PMs or visitor messages by slaves desperately looking for a dominant. I am nevertheless aware that I attract those with any blog post and action, especially with such a topic as this.

So alias wrote about his opinion on what makes a good dominant and inspired me to do the same here.


1. Responsible and reasonable. We are all too eager, emotional and aroused to take up tasks and p/funishments and get off. That's alright. But the subs...

As part of a new, and temporary rule, I've effectively got to blog about something I'm uncomfortable talking about for the next 4 days...today it's the rather cliched getting caught experience

No matter how careful you are it's almost impossible to totally guarantee not being walked in on while in the middle of a play session; that heart racing moment of getting caught and the shock in the innocent bystanders face as they see you at your most vulnerable. Is that a look of disgust? Shame...

It has been a little while since i have posted a report, so I thought I would share about our sexy times last night.

We have been putting this off for a few days because it is a busy time of the year, so we were MORE than ready to get down to business when we got home from work last night. Even more so, because Asslvr made my touch my clit in the bathroom at work yesterday, based on the number of people who said "Merry Christmas" or similar greetings.

It may...

The Pain of Too Little Self-Control

As part of a new, and temporary rule, I've effectively got to blog about something I'm uncomfortable talking about for the next 5 days (thanks Cassandra for the unexpected extension)...today it's my lack of self-control

I have such little self-control it's embarrassing, but also probably explains why I'm naturally submissive and am able to embrace that. That voice that should stop me from doing something, be that either vanilla ("Don't...