I love this so much. I especially laughed at the insisting she is 4 thing.

And you should really hear the things she says about you behind your back ... :P

Yes, interesting, but I always have in mind the value of their submission if they submit to me and I hope they do too. So whilst I think you can treat someone as having no or little worth, or make them do things that might lead them to believe the same in some ways, the reality is somewhat different.

Mhh,.. interesting analogy but i disagree.

I would say that the less worth my pet allows herself to be with me, the more value and strength she has in rl.

So like almost every blog you and Icey write I really like this one.

This is very well put into words I must say. I always wondered myself how to properly explain the (power) dynamics of D/s. Miss and I are equals, and yet we are not. Now I know how so.
Thank you for enlightening me!

Very well put especially about as Caring Master How you..." do carefully consider her happiness, and of course her safety, and while these considerations obviously impact my decisions regarding her use"

Since my reply got a bit long, i decided to write a blog myself.

Thanks for the blog.
Thoughts on this have been floating through my mind for a long time

Very good blog! I don't understand sadism either. But I don't understand masochism, which I enjoy, either. Maybe masochism IS a little easier to understand, but still. Why would someone willingly have oneself be tortured?

And why would you, if you care for someone, torture them?

It is really strange.

All of BDSM is really strange if you think of it.

But people are strange.

Life is strange.

But lets not get too philosophical now and just continue to beat each other up!

I have recently come to the realization that I am a sadist. I guess I have probably always known I had that part in me. I used to love watching things like fear factor where people would have to do something so scary and gross and they would be an emotional wreck. I can't say it turned me on, but I loved the thrill of it! It has taken me a long time to accept it and embrace it, but I too cannot understand it.

I have to say that sometimes I struggle with the thought, but I have been trying to just do it and enjoy it rather than obsess over why I enjoy it. And I found that makes it easier to embrace.

But like Aimee said .. if you ever find the answer, please let me know!

I never wondered, I just knew that I enjoyed both seeing it (yay, porn!) and imagining that I was the girl getting the torture / punishment. (I'm weird.)

I agree for the most part. Indeed, it can be annoying when you've taken the time to write a blog and someone knowingly goes off on a tangent.

I've had it happen to me too, with blogs I've written. Though I don't mind it so much when the person doing it is someone who is normally a serious contributer. It may be done for fun, as a joke. Which again, I don't mind when the person doing it is normally serious. It could also be because someone had misunderstood the intention of the blog that was written.

Sometimes asking for clarification helps. Or simply telling someone you don't like it. It could clear up an honest misunderstanding and may even prevent someone from doing it on the future.

If a person knowingly, repeatedly does do this. Yes, I would be annoyed as well.

We all go off topic sometimes and if you start with saying something like, great writing or I agree with you etc. Then I think people take less offence. And of course if it brings up other related topics that are interesting, I think that is awesome too. I love when a blog can turn into a discussion, as long as the discussion is closely related. For example, if you wrote about denial and I commented about how I prefer chastity devices, that it an ok tangent. If I started to babble on about how pegging is fun, it might be better for me to just start my own blog since it isn't really related.

Or even worse, if I don't comment on your writing at all, but instead I only respond to Jaro or start to assign him tasks without acknowledging you or your topic.

The reason people don't use that subforum is because they cannot edit their lists after a super short amount of time. Hopefully in the future we will see that fixed, as I too would rather have sub categories for blogs.

It is my love for the blog section that has made me monitor it more closely the past few months and anything that has a place in the forums, and that isn't designed to be linked in a signature, I have been trying to remove it and ask the owner to repost in the proper forum.

Now that I have taken care of my own agenda ... I guess I should comment on the actual blog. Well said AM. You know from privat3 discussions that I find this particular issue infuriating and rude. When I write a blog, and somebody posts comments without even addressing the topic I discussed or to only respond to their friend or partner, it is rude and discouraging.

Ouch, i feel a bit adressed given an earlier comment. I can assure you i have no intent of stealing a blog. With my last comment in fact i was in some doubt.
But...
Just saying "good job" i would see as a bit boring, not doing Justice to the blog. Telling thoughts the blog triggered i would see as "interesting".

At the end, i think its a fine line between having a contentfull comment versus going completely off-topic.

Technically, theres this subforum for such lists, but with how hidden it is, blogs are used for it much more.

I do agree that the "clutter" in the blog list is annoying, mostly because it quickly drowns out older "real" blog entries.

So what I hate the most about blogs is not enough gD members contribute. I love reading reports and advice of others. I truly enjoy reading rants too; they make me giggle.
I really wish the blog tab had sections so people could post their PM dare blogs and likes and limits list in a separate area, as they're not really blogs as lists people need to link to their profiles.
I try my best to blog at least once a month, it's my own personal goal. Imagine the amount of wonderful or not so wonderful but still funny content we could have added to the site if every active member blogged at least once a month.


In all seriousness it annoys me a lot when members do this too like it's not hard to just write your own blog on a shared topic.

I know! I really did channel my inner squishy dom to write this.

Oh gosh butterfly you're so fantastic at bringing AM's inner thoughts to the public eye.