As A Female Sub...
So, this was inspired from Tink's posts which you can find
Here and Here
Let's start with the first one. I used to post a lot on the forums before I started sticking to just chat and private messages.
And even so, I get messages from so many people who have seen me in chat yet never spoken to me, or people who don't even go in chat (or at least haven't been there when I am) so fuck knows why they decide to PM me.
Yes, I may be a switch..or mostly sub for the last few months...just because I am a sub does not mean I am YOUR sub. And if you message me demanding things, shock horror: chances are I am not going to be that polite to you. Chances are I will tell you to fuck off, or if I am feeling mischevious I may even troll you *whistles*
Just because I do not currently have a Dom, does not mean I am seeking one or that I will play with you. Yes, I do enjoy the occasional odd session with friends that also happen to be Doms...but that's precisely because we ARE friends, because I KNOW them, because I trust them enough to participate in said session. Because we spoke first and developed a friendship before anything else- I know, right? Who ever heard of such a thing?!
Seriously guys...the genuine female subs are gonna tell you to fuck right off...start being a decent human being before demanding things from strangers..being a sub does not mean we are everyone's sub!
Now let's go the second:
Demanding pictures from me? Is going to get you NOWHERE.
Anyone who has read my previous blogs from subbing to Pupil and Tease will see how shy I am/how difficult I find cam/mic etc. If you read the ad I posted several months ago you will also notice I made it abundantly clear I will share pictures/go on mic/cam when I am ready.
You know why this is? Because it's MY choice, because sharing any of those make me vulnerable and because..let's repeat this together: trust is earned.
Being a sub does not make me stupid or a pushover. In fact, one of my r/l friends recently brought up my sub side to me...she'd always known about it as I do not hide it with close friends but she didn't know about in detail, and after reading/watching 50 shades she became very curious. One of her comments to me was along the lines of : "I just don't understand how you can/are a sub to anyone, because you're the bluntest person I know, the most upfront person I know, direct, honest, in control, know what you want...and most of the time...you really want your own way." (I'll skip by that last part HAHA.)
I did explain it to her as best as I could, as did a close friend when she asked us both questions and she said she understands a little better now the dynamic of D/s...but my point is: Just because I may give my submission either constantly to one person or in said sessions mentioned above... it is still MY choice. I CHOOSE to give this gift, and when, and to whom. And constantly demanding or telling me send me this right now etc...well, that's most likely going to activate my inner bitch mode.
There's a reason I have been on mic with only a handful of people, sent face pictures to just a few and been on cam with even less. It's not because I have anything to hide, it is because trust is earned and if you do not know me and demand these things I am going to think only one thing: Get your wank material elsewhere.
I am a person first, sub second. As are all other genuine female subs. Get that through your heads. Thank you kindly.
Here and Here
Let's start with the first one. I used to post a lot on the forums before I started sticking to just chat and private messages.
And even so, I get messages from so many people who have seen me in chat yet never spoken to me, or people who don't even go in chat (or at least haven't been there when I am) so fuck knows why they decide to PM me.
Yes, I may be a switch..or mostly sub for the last few months...just because I am a sub does not mean I am YOUR sub. And if you message me demanding things, shock horror: chances are I am not going to be that polite to you. Chances are I will tell you to fuck off, or if I am feeling mischevious I may even troll you *whistles*
Just because I do not currently have a Dom, does not mean I am seeking one or that I will play with you. Yes, I do enjoy the occasional odd session with friends that also happen to be Doms...but that's precisely because we ARE friends, because I KNOW them, because I trust them enough to participate in said session. Because we spoke first and developed a friendship before anything else- I know, right? Who ever heard of such a thing?!
Seriously guys...the genuine female subs are gonna tell you to fuck right off...start being a decent human being before demanding things from strangers..being a sub does not mean we are everyone's sub!
Now let's go the second:
Demanding pictures from me? Is going to get you NOWHERE.
Anyone who has read my previous blogs from subbing to Pupil and Tease will see how shy I am/how difficult I find cam/mic etc. If you read the ad I posted several months ago you will also notice I made it abundantly clear I will share pictures/go on mic/cam when I am ready.
You know why this is? Because it's MY choice, because sharing any of those make me vulnerable and because..let's repeat this together: trust is earned.
Being a sub does not make me stupid or a pushover. In fact, one of my r/l friends recently brought up my sub side to me...she'd always known about it as I do not hide it with close friends but she didn't know about in detail, and after reading/watching 50 shades she became very curious. One of her comments to me was along the lines of : "I just don't understand how you can/are a sub to anyone, because you're the bluntest person I know, the most upfront person I know, direct, honest, in control, know what you want...and most of the time...you really want your own way." (I'll skip by that last part HAHA.)
I did explain it to her as best as I could, as did a close friend when she asked us both questions and she said she understands a little better now the dynamic of D/s...but my point is: Just because I may give my submission either constantly to one person or in said sessions mentioned above... it is still MY choice. I CHOOSE to give this gift, and when, and to whom. And constantly demanding or telling me send me this right now etc...well, that's most likely going to activate my inner bitch mode.
There's a reason I have been on mic with only a handful of people, sent face pictures to just a few and been on cam with even less. It's not because I have anything to hide, it is because trust is earned and if you do not know me and demand these things I am going to think only one thing: Get your wank material elsewhere.
I am a person first, sub second. As are all other genuine female subs. Get that through your heads. Thank you kindly.
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Tink's blogs on these are perfect (as is Tink, but don't tell her I said that), and I'd like to add that your perspective adds to, and compliments them very well. This should be the norm, not something that has to be hammered home over and over again by all the subs who are constantly annoyed by these troglodytes.
I love your definition of 'wank material' toward the end of the blog, Ice, and would like to add a cautionary note for all subs in that another common motivation for trying to prise nude pictures/videos from you is for porn sites. Once they're out there, they're out there forever.Posted 02-28-2015 at 12:50 AM by Wardell 
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I got mentioned in your blog! I am so chuffed right now (and Wardell, I can read, you know :P). I think some people hop on gD, within the first half hour realize there are people who are just thrilled to hand out pictures or video of themselves (which is great, just not my thing), and their overloaded little brains think, oh my gosh, every chick on this site is just dealing it out like a deck of cards! And it takes a rather strong slap upside the head to snap them out of it and make them realize not everyone is the same. Then there are the people who are simply devoid of character and have committed themselves to a life of douchbaggery.
Here's what I don't get, and I'd love for someone to explain it: with so many people and porn sites online nowadays (it's insane), why do people still get fixated on trying to manipulate pictures, etc., out of one particular person who does not want to give them?Posted 02-28-2015 at 02:54 AM by naughtylittlegirl
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@Tink - I believe there's a 'fresh meat' mentality that motivates some 'doms' (spellcheck just tried to make doms into dims; make of that what you will), and the images they might get from someone who hasn't done it before will be a trophy to them. And they're unlikely to hide their trophies.
Posted 02-28-2015 at 04:40 AM by Wardell
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It is truly sad, from how people you don't know or have never chat with you before. Expect that you will jump to there order! That they think, they can get you weak from working on you with words. You must earn that big word "TRUST," and understand it! Stop and think what goes into that word? Stop and think what it truly means? Just stop and not use your horny side take control of you. If you must, then you need major help! Show respect, and remember that word also!!Posted 02-28-2015 at 06:49 AM by MasterDaddy02
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I hate it when people demand something from me or pm me something along the lines,"ur m slv nw"
Transilation:You're my slave now.
It doesn't work that way. And the same with pictures. "w cn snd pcs & stff"
Transilation:We can send pictures and stuff.
You're blog describes it perfectly. And then there is people who say you're a bad sub if you don't give into their demands.
I like this blog and it hits the nail on the head.Posted 02-28-2015 at 07:19 AM by LitDarkness
