So, these last few weeks, I've been able to play around with several different women. A few of them wanted to become my Domme, and a few just liked doing a scene.

I thought I was ready to have a serious D/s relationship. I really did, so I said yes to some of the offers, but after a few days, I realized I was wrong.

My last dom taught me a lot. Taught me a lot on what D/s relationships should not be and since I have been single, I've really been learning a lot.
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So, the amazingly kind An Jon gave me a dare a little while back, and, unfortunately, I had to modify it quite a bit. He gave me permission to still write a report on it, even though it is no longer really his dare. His dare was super amazing and well thought out, I simply couldn't do many of the things involved, but the person who receives the full dare is very lucky.

The dare (not really a dare, but whatever) is as follows. PS. I am so so sorry An Jon for totally butchering your original...

This is going to be a pretty detailed list, simply because I tend to be an overachiever (and so humble too)

Loves:

• Humiliation (More condescending than degrading. Being talked down to is lovely)
• Loss of Control ( Feeling owned and powerless)

Likes:

• Orgasm Control
• Being Watched
• Hypnosis
• Anal (I love it, I really do, but I am so lazy and it takes so much work. Keep in mind, I only really have anal plugs so fucking my ass isn't really a good idea)
• Pain (Nothing too

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100% Brat
78% Submissive
76% Daddy/Mommy
76% Degradation receiver
60% Pet
59% Switch
58% Experimentalist
55% Dominant
53% girl/boy
47% Primal (Prey)
46% Vanilla
44% Bondage giver
41% Owner
41% Master/Mistress
38% Non-monogamist
37% Brat tamer
35% Bondage receiver
30% Masochist
25% Slave
25% Ageplayer
23% Degradation giver
21% Exhibitionist...

Now, some people will say, "Dominants have all the power in a scene. They are the dominant for a reason. *Cue eye roll*"

Some people will say, "Dominants only have power because the submissive gives it to them. *Cue condescending laugh*"

Reasons can be made for both sides of the argument. The sub can end the scene with a word (because safe words are important!) but then again, so can the dom.

The sub is the one giving control to the dom,...

Limits are the things you will not do. Ever.

Some categorize their limits as Soft Limits and hard limits. Soft limits are things they strongly dislike, but can be persuaded to try or push or even do as a punishment in the right scenario.

Hard limits are things you will not do ever, under any circumstances. Hard limits are where you draw the line.

Now, I personally don't categorize my limits in these two categories, but maybe I should. My 'hates' group would...

And no, I'm not talking about the brief adrenaline rush you have when someone jumps out and scares you. And I'm not talking about the anticipation you feel when you know you're about to be punished.

I mean the fear you have at 3am when you hear something creak in your silent house and you're suddenly very aware of every move you make. The fear that makes you remember every terrifying movie you've ever scene. The fear that stays with you and leaves you unsettled for days.

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