Brat taming : expectation VS reality
Posted 09-27-2022 at 08:22 PM by pluky
Quickly I just wanna start by saying this is only my initial observations, from the pov of someone who just got into online BDSM or any serious-ish BDSM of any kind less than 2 months ago, I just like to share my raw thoughts as I go, they might be lacking, inaccurate to the real definitions or how things work, I'm still reading and learning about all of these stuff at my pace, but it doesn't mean I can't communicate in text form where I'm at with my understanding at any point, simply cause I find it fun to write and just be transparent with my journey.
𝔗𝔥𝔢 𝔅𝔯𝔞𝔱 𝔗𝔞𝔪𝔢𝔯
Expectation : severe, stoic, mean, unforgiving, scary, harsh, close minded and doesn't want to listen to your excuses. Someone who will punish you for every failure, won't take a no for an answer, doesn't want to know if you really wanna do it, and how it felt. Only real threats and physical limitations will be considered a valide excuse, everything else is something to learn to get over. They will teach you that it's a bad idea to voice your opinions and feelings, you should learn that those are unworthy for the receiving end and so should they become to you. When you put up resistance against them you'll be faced by a bigger resistance and end up having to bend.
Reality : patient, forgiving, caring, open minded, a good listener and a sharp observer, someone who always tries to understand you more and adapt their expectations to your needs and comfort zone. They encourage you to be in touch with how you feel and voice it, they have your best interests in mind and put it above their own desires. You aren't compelled to defy their authority because it's never unreasonable, it cares about how you feel so you can drop your guard and don't need to be so defensive. They make you feel like you're working together rather than against each other, which makes you more willing. The lack of resistance from their side leads yours to dissolve completely.
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Posted 09-29-2022 at 10:33 AM by HH Maybe -
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Posted 10-04-2022 at 05:10 AM by pluky