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Looking for a new sub!
Posted 06-06-2018 at 05:22 PM by Butterfly
Are you confused? Me too!!!
I don't recall ever posting an ad looking for a sub. I don't remember ever telling anybody that I needed to find another outlet for my Domme side ... maybe I fell and bumped my head and I forgot???
Do you remember me saying that? No? Hmm ...
It just doesn't make any sense.
50% of the people who reply to my ad end up asking me to be their Domme. For some this happens right away .. maybe they just don't know how to read. I really do feel bad for them. I mean in this day and age reading is SUPER important. How can you find the porn you like if you don't know how to read?
The worst is the people who pretend they want to be my Dom, and then after some time chatting they start to ask me questions about how I Domme, or what types of tasks I give to Jaro. They get off on knowing the things I make him do. But when that thrill is not enough, they scrape up all their courage and hit me with the big question: "I know you have Jaro, but are you interested in maybe taking me on as another sub?".
Why do they think they are the exception? What makes them special?
I am NOT interested in taking on another sub. Why? Well not that I owe you an explanation ... but ...
1. I am a very busy person
I have a full time job which I work at 5 days a week. I have a husband who I love and enjoy spending time with. I have a house that requires cleaning and maintenance to keep it running smoothly. I have a sub (and partnership with Icey) who I try to devote a few hours a day to (even if it is just talking). I have a busy social life, keeping me out late at least a few days a week. I have family and friends who I need to care for. I am a mod and I am working hard to make getDare fun for everybody. It would also be nice to sometime just relax. And of course with any free time I have, I am looking to fill with things to satisfy my subby side.
2. I am loyal to Jaro
As I have mentioned, I don't have a lot of free time. I actually feel guilty a lot of the time that I don't devote enough attention to Jaro. There is no way that I could take on another sub and split my time evenly between them. I do not want Jaro to have another Domme (other than Icey), so I can't take on another long term sub.
3. I do not have the energy
I take being a Domme seriously. I have spent a lot of time getting to know him well enough to feel comfortable in my decisions. I spend a lot of time thinking about the tasks that I give Jaro. I do not have the energy to devote to doing that for somebody else and I would feel as though I was letting them down, and not living up to my full potential. Which means I would feel like a failure, lose confidence and not be a very good Domme to you.
4. I want to be subby.
I already have an outlet for my Dommey side. Actually, I have a few. I am currently looking for an outlet for my subby side. I want to feel subby. I need somebody who is going to be able to commandeer control of me, so that I can get pulled out of Domme mode and feel subby.
5. I cannot swtich
I cannot switch with the same partner. That is why I consider myself a sub who likes to Domme rather than a switch. I cannot feel subby towards somebody who I am Domming. It has not happened thus far, and I don't see it happening anytime soon. If I were to Domme you or give you tasks, it ruins all chances of you being my Dom.
6. ****I DO NOT WANT TO****
And that is all that should matter!
#6 is the only reason that should matter. The point is: I DO NOT WANT TO BE YOUR DOMME!
You are not the exception. You are not special. We do not have a connection that puts you above all of my feelings and rules.
I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A NEW SUB!
I don't recall ever posting an ad looking for a sub. I don't remember ever telling anybody that I needed to find another outlet for my Domme side ... maybe I fell and bumped my head and I forgot???
Do you remember me saying that? No? Hmm ...
It just doesn't make any sense.
50% of the people who reply to my ad end up asking me to be their Domme. For some this happens right away .. maybe they just don't know how to read. I really do feel bad for them. I mean in this day and age reading is SUPER important. How can you find the porn you like if you don't know how to read?
The worst is the people who pretend they want to be my Dom, and then after some time chatting they start to ask me questions about how I Domme, or what types of tasks I give to Jaro. They get off on knowing the things I make him do. But when that thrill is not enough, they scrape up all their courage and hit me with the big question: "I know you have Jaro, but are you interested in maybe taking me on as another sub?".
Why do they think they are the exception? What makes them special?
I am NOT interested in taking on another sub. Why? Well not that I owe you an explanation ... but ...
1. I am a very busy person
I have a full time job which I work at 5 days a week. I have a husband who I love and enjoy spending time with. I have a house that requires cleaning and maintenance to keep it running smoothly. I have a sub (and partnership with Icey) who I try to devote a few hours a day to (even if it is just talking). I have a busy social life, keeping me out late at least a few days a week. I have family and friends who I need to care for. I am a mod and I am working hard to make getDare fun for everybody. It would also be nice to sometime just relax. And of course with any free time I have, I am looking to fill with things to satisfy my subby side.
2. I am loyal to Jaro
As I have mentioned, I don't have a lot of free time. I actually feel guilty a lot of the time that I don't devote enough attention to Jaro. There is no way that I could take on another sub and split my time evenly between them. I do not want Jaro to have another Domme (other than Icey), so I can't take on another long term sub.
3. I do not have the energy
I take being a Domme seriously. I have spent a lot of time getting to know him well enough to feel comfortable in my decisions. I spend a lot of time thinking about the tasks that I give Jaro. I do not have the energy to devote to doing that for somebody else and I would feel as though I was letting them down, and not living up to my full potential. Which means I would feel like a failure, lose confidence and not be a very good Domme to you.
4. I want to be subby.
I already have an outlet for my Dommey side. Actually, I have a few. I am currently looking for an outlet for my subby side. I want to feel subby. I need somebody who is going to be able to commandeer control of me, so that I can get pulled out of Domme mode and feel subby.
5. I cannot swtich
I cannot switch with the same partner. That is why I consider myself a sub who likes to Domme rather than a switch. I cannot feel subby towards somebody who I am Domming. It has not happened thus far, and I don't see it happening anytime soon. If I were to Domme you or give you tasks, it ruins all chances of you being my Dom.
6. ****I DO NOT WANT TO****
And that is all that should matter!
#6 is the only reason that should matter. The point is: I DO NOT WANT TO BE YOUR DOMME!
You are not the exception. You are not special. We do not have a connection that puts you above all of my feelings and rules.
I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A NEW SUB!
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*rolls eyes*
I knew there would be at least one.Posted 08-25-2018 at 08:47 AM by Butterfly 
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Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.Quote:Originally Posted by Slave_on_skype
I can be your sub miss on Skype and Kik now if you want try me outPosted 08-25-2018 at 08:48 AM by IceMaiden
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WOW! Just WOW!Quote:Originally Posted by Slave_on_skype
I can be your sub miss on Skype and Kik now if you want try me out
Posted 08-25-2018 at 09:40 AM by pet monkey
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Oh wow. Well played Ma'am. I read the title and was like "Yeah! She does want another sub." and then I read the text. Oh well. At least I can keep the pictures I had from the title.
Posted 01-24-2019 at 09:57 AM by kaylessa
