Aftercare

[Butterfly]

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In the near future, I would like to see a completely new section devoted to getDare Mentorship & Education. My hopes is that this will be a section devoted to discussing important topics and answering questions that people may have, no matter their experience level is. I also think it would be a great place to share resources that may be scattered throughout getDare, as well as in other places on the internet.

In the meantime, I am going to create designated threads in the advice section that will focus on one topic. Each topic will have discussion questions, as well links to any resources that I have found. People are encouraged to answer their questions, share their opinions, definitions or experiences as well as link to any resources they have found helpful. You may also ask questions relating to that topic and others can help answer them.

The only rules (other than the getDare posting rules) is that everybody be respectful to others. No personal attacks will be tolerated.

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TOPIC: Aftercare
This thread is going to be specifically used to discuss Aftercare.

What is aftercare?

How important is aftercare to you?

What type of aftercare do you need/provide?

What are your experiences like with aftercare?

[Butterfly]

Here are some blogs from the lovely members of getDare

Aftercare, the pet Burrito (http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=85603) by little pet

Aftercare (http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=84007) by Iheartfun

On Aftercare (http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=76145) by Colosubguy

What I've Learned About Aftercare (http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=73541) by Naughtylittlegirl

Aftercare part II (http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=73581) by Naughtylittlegirl

[kila]

OMG AFTERCARE. ALL OF YOU SHOULD KNOW THE GREATNESS AND IMPORTANCE OF AFTERCARE. CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH. Sorry, that was a little alarming to those reading... here we go!

What is aftercare?
Aftercare is literally taking care of you sub/bottom/slave/pet/toy/etc. after you play with them. It is usually done after some rough sessions involving pain and bondage but can be done after any play session with your partner. Basically, it is making sure that your partner is A-ok and taking care of them.

How important is aftercare to you?
Extremely important. As many of you may or may not know, I have been here for quite some time. When I turned 18, I became more active and found myself in a lot of times where I was used but never taken care of afterwards. I was extremely naive and trusted the wrong kinds of people. I felt crummy, pathetic, and just not happy. Because of that, I’d often disappear from gD for several years and come back when I felt I was ready. Then it happened over and over again. I never learned about aftercare until last year when a nice dom told me about it and actually took care of me. Made all the difference.

For those tops out there who actually look at stuff, thank you. For those that don’t know, please take some time and do a little research so that your partner can recover from your session with them. Not only does it make you a decent human being but it also makes them feel loved and appreciated. Drops are a thing and without the proper care, both partners can feel shitty coming down from the high. All I ask if that you take care of each other if you choose to play with each other.

What type of aftercare do you need/provide?
Usually after my sessions, I’m extremely dehydrated so my Daddy tells me to drink lots of water. If he had been really degrading or was humiliating me, he usually lets me wash off while telling me how much he loves me. One of my favorite things is when I’m all comfy in bed, (we usually play at night before bedtime), he brings out the little in me and reads me my bedtime story. It is THE BEST and I always feel so loved even after some intense sessions. While we were together, he would hug me and help clean me up after using me.

Since I RARELY every get to top my Daddy, I don’t provide much care but I always tell him how much I love him. Doms can have drops too and it is important to make sure they are ok! I love giving him forehead kisses and reassuring him.

What are your experiences like with aftercare?
I feel like I have answered this so I’ll just write something short: without it, I felt terrible. With it, I felt special, loved, and needed. It makes a huge difference. Everyone has different aftercare they need so make sure to communicate with your partners what you need and happy playtime~