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RiskyFlame · 12-21-2017, 04:00 PM

BM - Blackmail
pBM - Play blackmail
rBM - Real blackmail

Only partake in BM activities when the submissive brings up the idea. A dominant shouldn't use BM as a means to keep the submissive in check or to make sure the submissive does as you command. When a dominant brings up the idea and not the submissive, it's clear that the dominant wants to use it or otherwise the BM content shouldn't have to exist.¹

Play blackmail - Consensual - The idea behind this is actually rather stimulating but ground rules must exist and boundaries to which must be adhered must be set. The idea that someone has a certain 'power' over you that others do not have can 'force' you to do things that you normally wouldn't do is mentally stimulating. The fear of being exposed to those you wish to be kept in the dark about certain aspects of your life can be thrilling as long as the actual 'threat' never reaches fruition.²

Real blackmail - Non-consensual - The concept is frightening, hidden in a shell made of one's fantasy. Some fantasize about being blackmailed, seeing only the imaginary shell which hides the unpleasant truth. There are no boundaries to which the blackmailer must adhere and no assurance that the compromising information will be kept secret. Blackmail is a downward spiral that may result in depression, money loss, anxiety and fears which should be prevented by not playing into the hands of the blackmailer. In the case of real blackmail, local authorities should be contacted for further information on how to deal with the blackmailer. Report to getDare Staff to take action against blackmail users.

Methods of coercing without blackmail
Fears are part of blackmail. Fear is the part what compels you to listen to the blackmailer, thus the method of the blackmailer to 'force' you to do something. So what if you pluck the element of fear away from the entire concept of blackmail and use it otherwise? Something as simple as "if you don't listen to me, I will never talk to you again" can instill fear.³ Threatening the submissive to take something valuable away caries a significant lower chance of causing long-term damage to the social life of the submissive.

Some argue that the above is not as effective a pBM. pBM contains mainly empty threats (unwanted exposure) whereas taking something valuable away can legally be done with the prior consent of the submissive. Valuable things to take away from the submissive may be social media accounts, gaming accounts, electronic equipment or access to devices or services. Before pBM starts, the submissive could give the blackmailer account details or access to a device for the blackmailer to use as 'a hostage' that will be released only when the blackmailer so desires.

It's relatively safe. However, you still risk not getting back what you gave to the blackmailer. And more importantly, whatever you give to your blackmailer; be sure that it does not contain sensitive information such as e-mail addresses, names, phone numbers, dates of birth and such things. Additionally, take your common sense into account and don't give anything away that contain purchased products, a balance (virtual money) or access to bank details.

Real blackmail stories
There have been several occasions (a lot more than several) when someone used rBM on another user on getDare. Unfortunately, these events could've been prevented. The victim usually made a few wrong decisions resulting in a blackmailer seizing the opportunity to BM the victim. Some of the victims didn't even give pBM a thought or never wanted to approach the concepts of BM. So be careful with sensitive information regardless of what you believe another person wants it for.

The following short stories happened on getDare and are not made up. Anonymousity is my priority so all users are refered to as a male.

Some users like to get drunk before they log in on getDare so they worry less about the consequences of doing kinky things. This resulted in letting a blackmailer obtain nude pictures of the drunk person. Of course, the person didn't expect the other user whom he sent pictures to would rBM him. Once sober again, I heard about what happens and the first thing I thought was: don't get drunk.

A user thought it would be fine to send someone pictures of himself that neither included his face nor anything identifiable so the pictures can be linked to him. Later on, he gave his getDare account details to the other user as well (for fun I presume) and by doing so, the other user obtained his e-mail address used to register on getDare. This e-mail address contained his full name which resulted in the other user finding out who he really is. The other user started to rBM him. Luckily, in the end, it all worked out and the blackmailer regretted trying to rBM him. Don't share accounts.

In case you didn't know, lots of users on getDare are horny while they spend time here. Unfortunately, horniness can work to your disadvantage. Usually applied to people of the penis, you think more about the thrill and less about the consequences. This resulted in rBM and once the user orgasmed, his clowdy mind became clear again and he knew that he made a mistake. Don't make hasty decisions when horny.

Some users sign up using application forms just to have someone BM them. Quite a bunch of them sign up without talking to the blackmailer in advance. As you guessed, it turned out bad for the applicant and the pictures were spread over the internet. Except for banning the blackmailer, there was nothing I could do to stop the spread of the pictures. Establish trust before anything else.

My view on blackmail
Even though BM is illegal, I want people to experiment or enact it if they so desire. But consider everything that could happen when you might be blackmailed. And more importantly, think very long and hard about the person that will be the blackmailer rather than filling out any BM application form you come across. Try to minimise the risk of damage by taking everything into account before you do anything else. The bolded lines found in the short stories above are examples of the things you should follow up before you decide to start anything involving BM.

My experiences
I have some experience with pBM and fortunately no experience with rBM. But I know very well that pBM can change into rBM at any point, regardless of whether you know, trust or love the one who blackmails you. I have always kept these thoughts in the back of my mind when I took a leap of faith and let someone blackmail me. Additionally, I have experience with short-term blackmail period in which I was the blackmailer and both parties (I and the blackmailee) liked the experience.

Aside from direct involvement in the blackmail relation, I have had people come to me with the problem of ongoing rBM. Before I had a nice tag under my username, I was not aware that such problems exist on getDare. That is why I created this thread; to make people aware that -even when everything is consensual- blackmail always can have a huge negative impact on your life.

I hope that you found this thread useful. Comment below if you disagree with anything that I have said or if you have any questions. Or just comment anyway.

¹ Source: no title by Big_Joe
² Source: "Play Blackmail vs. Real Blackmail" by Ch3rry B0mb.
³ Source: "Fear and Blackmails/Threats" by LillianCabell

12-21-2017, 04:00 PM	#1
RiskyFlame Longtime User Join Date: Mar 2014 Posts: 3,292 Blog Entries: 17	Dangers of Blackmail BM - Blackmail pBM - Play blackmail rBM - Real blackmail Only partake in BM activities when the submissive brings up the idea. A dominant shouldn't use BM as a means to keep the submissive in check or to make sure the submissive does as you command. When a dominant brings up the idea and not the submissive, it's clear that the dominant wants to use it or otherwise the BM content shouldn't have to exist.¹ Play blackmail - Consensual - The idea behind this is actually rather stimulating but ground rules must exist and boundaries to which must be adhered must be set. The idea that someone has a certain 'power' over you that others do not have can 'force' you to do things that you normally wouldn't do is mentally stimulating. The fear of being exposed to those you wish to be kept in the dark about certain aspects of your life can be thrilling as long as the actual 'threat' never reaches fruition.² Real blackmail - Non-consensual - The concept is frightening, hidden in a shell made of one's fantasy. Some fantasize about being blackmailed, seeing only the imaginary shell which hides the unpleasant truth. There are no boundaries to which the blackmailer must adhere and no assurance that the compromising information will be kept secret. Blackmail is a downward spiral that may result in depression, money loss, anxiety and fears which should be prevented by not playing into the hands of the blackmailer. In the case of real blackmail, local authorities should be contacted for further information on how to deal with the blackmailer. Report to getDare Staff to take action against blackmail users. Methods of coercing without blackmail Fears are part of blackmail. Fear is the part what compels you to listen to the blackmailer, thus the method of the blackmailer to 'force' you to do something. So what if you pluck the element of fear away from the entire concept of blackmail and use it otherwise? Something as simple as "if you don't listen to me, I will never talk to you again" can instill fear.³ Threatening the submissive to take something valuable away caries a significant lower chance of causing long-term damage to the social life of the submissive. Some argue that the above is not as effective a pBM. pBM contains mainly empty threats (unwanted exposure) whereas taking something valuable away can legally be done with the prior consent of the submissive. Valuable things to take away from the submissive may be social media accounts, gaming accounts, electronic equipment or access to devices or services. Before pBM starts, the submissive could give the blackmailer account details or access to a device for the blackmailer to use as 'a hostage' that will be released only when the blackmailer so desires. It's relatively safe. However, you still risk not getting back what you gave to the blackmailer. And more importantly, whatever you give to your blackmailer; be sure that it does not contain sensitive information such as e-mail addresses, names, phone numbers, dates of birth and such things. Additionally, take your common sense into account and don't give anything away that contain purchased products, a balance (virtual money) or access to bank details. Real blackmail stories There have been several occasions (a lot more than several) when someone used rBM on another user on getDare. Unfortunately, these events could've been prevented. The victim usually made a few wrong decisions resulting in a blackmailer seizing the opportunity to BM the victim. Some of the victims didn't even give pBM a thought or never wanted to approach the concepts of BM. So be careful with sensitive information regardless of what you believe another person wants it for. The following short stories happened on getDare and are not made up. Anonymousity is my priority so all users are refered to as a male. Some users like to get drunk before they log in on getDare so they worry less about the consequences of doing kinky things. This resulted in letting a blackmailer obtain nude pictures of the drunk person. Of course, the person didn't expect the other user whom he sent pictures to would rBM him. Once sober again, I heard about what happens and the first thing I thought was: don't get drunk. A user thought it would be fine to send someone pictures of himself that neither included his face nor anything identifiable so the pictures can be linked to him. Later on, he gave his getDare account details to the other user as well (for fun I presume) and by doing so, the other user obtained his e-mail address used to register on getDare. This e-mail address contained his full name which resulted in the other user finding out who he really is. The other user started to rBM him. Luckily, in the end, it all worked out and the blackmailer regretted trying to rBM him. Don't share accounts. In case you didn't know, lots of users on getDare are horny while they spend time here. Unfortunately, horniness can work to your disadvantage. Usually applied to people of the penis, you think more about the thrill and less about the consequences. This resulted in rBM and once the user orgasmed, his clowdy mind became clear again and he knew that he made a mistake. Don't make hasty decisions when horny. Some users sign up using application forms just to have someone BM them. Quite a bunch of them sign up without talking to the blackmailer in advance. As you guessed, it turned out bad for the applicant and the pictures were spread over the internet. Except for banning the blackmailer, there was nothing I could do to stop the spread of the pictures. Establish trust before anything else. My view on blackmail Even though BM is illegal, I want people to experiment or enact it if they so desire. But consider everything that could happen when you might be blackmailed. And more importantly, think very long and hard about the person that will be the blackmailer rather than filling out any BM application form you come across. Try to minimise the risk of damage by taking everything into account before you do anything else. The bolded lines found in the short stories above are examples of the things you should follow up before you decide to start anything involving BM. My experiences I have some experience with pBM and fortunately no experience with rBM. But I know very well that pBM can change into rBM at any point, regardless of whether you know, trust or love the one who blackmails you. I have always kept these thoughts in the back of my mind when I took a leap of faith and let someone blackmail me. Additionally, I have experience with short-term blackmail period in which I was the blackmailer and both parties (I and the blackmailee) liked the experience. Aside from direct involvement in the blackmail relation, I have had people come to me with the problem of ongoing rBM. Before I had a nice tag under my username, I was not aware that such problems exist on getDare. That is why I created this thread; to make people aware that -even when everything is consensual- blackmail always can have a huge negative impact on your life. I hope that you found this thread useful. Comment below if you disagree with anything that I have said or if you have any questions. Or just comment anyway. ¹ Source: no title by Big_Joe ² Source: "Play Blackmail vs. Real Blackmail" by Ch3rry B0mb. ³ Source: "Fear and Blackmails/Threats" by LillianCabell __________________ Still responsive to DMs here I've only really liked a handful of people in my life, and you've been two of them. —Hans Axgil—