[Star Shadows]

How to/ not to make an ad:

In this section I aim to give you some information on the do’s and don’ts of making an ad in the s/M area, while it is relatively simple so many people get it oh so woefully wrong. You want to make yourself look clever and attractive to potential partners not like someone who has the intellectual and linguistic talents of a rusty spoon.

The first point for this to note is that you have to fill your thread with lots of lovely detail. Explain yourself and explain your explanations of yourself. Tell them, who you are, what you want, what you have to offer and how to contact you. Anything and everything they need to know to make a valuable first impression about you- because at the end of the day that is the one that sticks. If people look at your ad and see that you have only gave it a half arsed attempt then they are not going to want to reply because they will think that you are not taking it at all seriously and that you don’t care enough to be worth their while.

Do not fall among the lowly low ranks of this member who for many people has went down in getDare history- for an ad that amounted to all of 3 words. That’s right THREE WORDS.

24/M/US/Master seeks F/Slave (have webcam)
Webcam / cam required.

It is not successful, or clever. ** This member suffered a catastrophic error in judgement in posting this advertisement and his example should not be followed. Read on to find out how to avoid making errors of an equally monumental proportion.

It is also important to remember however that moderation is as important if not more important that detail. While people will not take any notice of a half line ad (other than to take the piss out of it- unless it’s a girl but they all get spammed.) They equally do not want to read reams upon reams of stuff. You have to moderate so you have just enough information but not too much that people lose interest.

AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT NOT TO DO

This is bobs ad:
19/male/USA slave seeks 18-24/ female/any location master
19/male/USAslave seeks 18-24/ female/any location master
[email protected]

There are many main problems with this ad- other than the obviously made up email address for people to contact him on which was made up just for this example

The first problem we see is this user has posted no information about himself. at the very least he should have included a list of his likes limits and dislikes, along with availability for cam and other details which people look at when they are searching. If he really wanted to push this add into an upper level he should also have included information on what his personal availability is like, and his personality as a submissive and as a person on the whole.
There is also an issue in that this user has not posted any additional information in what they are looking for other than the bare minimum that is required as the title. An ad looks better when it goes into more information as to who they are looking for- what likes they should have, what their mentality is like etc

We are also not directly told how we should contact this member- while it is assumable that he wants us to send him an email he does not state what should be in this email or if this is in fact what he wants us to do with his address.


So when making an advert be detailed and use the tools at your disposal. (Spell checkers, threads, stickies, and top ad section) to make sure that your ad is the best it can be: so it will draw people in. Though of course this isn’t everything posting your advert in the right section- rather than in the lounge, s/m lounge or blog is very much an advantage. At least that way people will find you and you don’t look silly before you’ve even started.


Patience is also very much a virtue in the grand scheme of getting a submissive/dominant/slave/master (sadism) - competition is tough and it isn’t always going to be easy finding someone (unless you’re a sexy ass 18-24 year old female) You are not the only one out there looking and you will have to accept that as much as it may suck you may not get lucky right away, or even 4th or 5th time. There are surplus amounts of male members so lots of male masters (even more male subs) and very few committed female submissives/mistresses that are actually female and are serious about a relationship.... let alone the trouble of finding one who matches what you want and want you are offering. Jeebees it’s a jungle out there.

** sourced from a link posted here. http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=5193