Does your partner know you are on GetDare?

lilith_ · 08-30-2018, 12:54 PM

I've seen quite a lot of people who have vanilla partners but they are still using these forums, so I got a bit curious how many of you there are here. You may vote anonymously and/or explain your situation in the comments

Do you feel as if you are doing something wrong? Does the fact that it is a secret turn you on? Would you have an online relationship without your partner knowing?

P.S. this is not meant to judge anyone

WedgieGary1996 · 08-30-2018, 01:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lilith_

I've seen quite a lot of people who have vanilla partners but they are still using these forums, so I got a bit curious how many of you there are here. You may vote anonymously and/or explain your situation in the comments

Do you feel as if you are doing something wrong? Does the fact that it is a secret turn you on? Would you have an online relationship without your partner knowing?

P.S. this is not meant to judge anyone

edit: eh, i meant to do this a poll but I am stupid and I forgot and now I cannot add a poll

Just click thread tools at the top of the page

lilith_ · 08-30-2018, 01:21 PM

Thank you!!!!! It worked haha

amethyst353 · 08-30-2018, 07:01 PM

I'm currently single, but back in 2011 and 2012 when I was just a lurker here my partner and I would browse GD together to come up with ideas for kinky forfeits and games.

I haven't let any partner know about GD since. Now that I actually post on here instead of browse as a guest, I want to keep this as my space. Not necessarily because I am ashamed, more I just want to be able to open up to them on my terms rather than them being able to read my post history.

Everill · 08-30-2018, 08:28 PM

Where's the "Forever Alone" option

Consensus · 08-30-2018, 10:10 PM

Yeah, I would tell my partner but they are decidedly not interested in anything approaching anything kinky. Yes, that was deliberately two 'anything's. Telling my partner would likely cause many issues and, as they told me, "what I don't know can't hurt me" and "try harder when lying".

When I joined in 2014 things were pretty rocky on the physical front, we'd managed sex 11 times in the preceding 7 years, and so I was looking out for something that would allow me to 'have a little fun' so to speak. Things are a little different now, we managed sex another 15 times over two years and then we've had a two year drought. At the moment my partner has suggested that sex will never again be on the table.

I'm not looking for a relationship, not yet perhaps(?), but I've found this place can be helpful at times.

Scrap · 08-30-2018, 10:23 PM

my Lady and I are in the process of parting ways. Things have not been good at home in a long time, and gD was one of my coping mechanisms. She would very much not be happy to know that I'm on here.

I'm not looking for a relationship of any sort at the moment, and probably won't be for some time...

MariaDesigns · 08-31-2018, 01:35 AM

My husband does not know I explore on GD

Kifla · 08-31-2018, 03:26 AM

My partner is as mentioned above quite vanilla, and she has troubles to sometimes understand the kink world and why people do such things. Therefore she doesn't know (yet) that I explore here. I like to have an occasional D/s play, but I am not looking to find an online partner. I browse here mainly for ideas, fun talks and discussion on certain topics. Some stuff I even try with my lady home. She is open to try new stuff, but will take time before I tell her about this site.

MariaDesigns · 08-31-2018, 04:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kifla

My partner is as mentioned above quite vanilla, and she has troubles to sometimes understand the kink world and why people do such things. Therefore she doesn't know (yet) that I explore here. I like to have an occasional D/s play, but I am not looking to find an online partner. I browse here mainly for ideas, fun talks and discussion on certain topics. Some stuff I even try with my lady home. She is open to try new stuff, but will take time before I tell her about this site.

That was a great explanation; certainly better than my one-line answer. Thanks for sharing. This site is new to me so I too spend much of the time so far exploring with no intention of getting a fixed online partner.

Ana The Sniper · 08-31-2018, 04:49 AM

My partner knows about the site, and knows I *used* to be on it before we were dating and a bit while we started. I do not think she knows I still use it, or if she suspects I do she doesn't know the extent that I do or any of my information on here.

I have several kinks that I know she would not be ok with however, so I only use this site when she isn't around. I'm not necessarily looking for an online relationship, though I wouldn't mind an anonymous dom situation. If she ever confronted me about any of it I would come clean, or if I thought she would be in an open mindset.

rhode64 · 08-31-2018, 09:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lilith_

I've seen quite a lot of people who have vanilla partners but they are still using these forums, so I got a bit curious how many of you there are here. You may vote anonymously and/or explain your situation in the comments

Do you feel as if you are doing something wrong? Does the fact that it is a secret turn you on? Would you have an online relationship without your partner knowing?

P.S. this is not meant to judge anyone

Yes my partner and all my friends know I am on getdare they also know how daring I am .

lilith_ · 10-06-2018, 07:01 AM

Hello! I just wrote a blog about how to introduce your vanilla partner to BDSM. Please check it out if it interests you

https://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=88202

Jaro · 10-06-2018, 11:56 AM

I don't have a partner, but if I did have a partner she should know because she should be kinky like me.

I don't think a relationship with a vanilla partner would work for me.

trying · 10-06-2018, 12:09 PM

No its a guilty pleasre

View Poll Results: Does your partner know you are on GetDare?
Yes, they know about it	14	21.88%
No, but I am not looking for an online relationship	33	51.56%
No, and I am looking/am in an online relationship	17	26.56%
Voters: 64. You may not vote on this poll

08-30-2018, 12:54 PM	#1
lilith_ getDare Devil Join Date: Jan 2018 Posts: 1,082 Blog Entries: 32	Does your partner know you are on GetDare? I've seen quite a lot of people who have vanilla partners but they are still using these forums, so I got a bit curious how many of you there are here. You may vote anonymously and/or explain your situation in the comments Do you feel as if you are doing something wrong? Does the fact that it is a secret turn you on? Would you have an online relationship without your partner knowing? P.S. this is not meant to judge anyone __________________ *she/her ~ sub ~ bi* likes, dislikes, limits last orgasm: november 2022 my discord server: how to get in wanna message me? my usernames Last edited by lilith_; 08-30-2018 at 01:22 PM.

08-30-2018, 01:21 PM	#3
lilith_ getDare Devil Join Date: Jan 2018 Posts: 1,082 Blog Entries: 32	Thank you!!!!! It worked haha __________________ *she/her ~ sub ~ bi* likes, dislikes, limits last orgasm: november 2022 my discord server: how to get in wanna message me? my usernames

08-30-2018, 07:01 PM	#4
amethyst353 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Sep 2016 Posts: 498 Blog Entries: 16	I'm currently single, but back in 2011 and 2012 when I was just a lurker here my partner and I would browse GD together to come up with ideas for kinky forfeits and games. I haven't let any partner know about GD since. Now that I actually post on here instead of browse as a guest, I want to keep this as my space. Not necessarily because I am ashamed, more I just want to be able to open up to them on my terms rather than them being able to read my post history. __________________ 32\|bi(prefers women)\|trans woman\|sub-leaning switch formerly known as marissa353 loves: humiliation, gags, bodywriting, bondage, games limits: pics with face, messing with sleep, public, heavy blackmail, videos, permanent, scat, extreme pain Note: I transitioned years ago - wearing women's clothes isn't a dare. If you give me a sissy-themed dare, I will ignore you. Full likes/limits \| Toys/Items I Own \| PM Dares (friends only for a bit) \| My current rules

08-30-2018, 08:28 PM	#5
Everill getDare Devil Join Date: Nov 2017 Location: Dimension ◐◍⬡, Coordinates: ∛⦜⇗, ∜⍍⇔ Posts: 1,163 Blog Entries: 9	Where's the "Forever Alone" option __________________ Yes, the avatar is me Master of chaotic energies in atleast 9 of the dimensions Kinks Blog O' Rules Information Dice Dares Ultimate kink list UwU what's this

08-30-2018, 10:10 PM	#6
Consensus Distinguished Member Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: In a house alone Posts: 643 Blog Entries: 48	Yeah, I would tell my partner but they are decidedly not interested in anything approaching anything kinky. Yes, that was deliberately two 'anything's. Telling my partner would likely cause many issues and, as they told me, "what I don't know can't hurt me" and "try harder when lying". When I joined in 2014 things were pretty rocky on the physical front, we'd managed sex 11 times in the preceding 7 years, and so I was looking out for something that would allow me to 'have a little fun' so to speak. Things are a little different now, we managed sex another 15 times over two years and then we've had a two year drought. At the moment my partner has suggested that sex will never again be on the table. I'm not looking for a relationship, not yet perhaps(?), but I've found this place can be helpful at times. __________________ Clothing / Preferences // PM Dares // Team-Up Calendar (please add) // Chastity // Femdom IRL old/transwoman/attracted to Females & Femininity/shaved pubes, legs and armpits And that's all she has to say about that.

08-30-2018, 10:23 PM	#7
Scrap Distinguished Member Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: US Posts: 725 Blog Entries: 34	my Lady and I are in the process of parting ways. Things have not been good at home in a long time, and gD was one of my coping mechanisms. She would very much not be happy to know that I'm on here. I'm not looking for a relationship of any sort at the moment, and probably won't be for some time... __________________ Scrap D Flasher 49/gf(m)/US/pan/sub Likes: nudity, public, watersports, humiliation, cross dressing, bondage Limits: illegal, social suicide, scat, blood, young AMA: https://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=293024 kik: scrapdflasher snapchat: scrapdflasher

08-31-2018, 01:35 AM	#8
MariaDesigns Member Join Date: Aug 2018 Location: USA Posts: 40 Blog Entries: 5	My husband does not know I explore on GD __________________ A bit more about me Likes: gags; drooling; breast bondage; nipple play; light spanking; panty pissing; piss play; humiliation; food play; pussy stuffing; Edging; Orgasm control/kept wet, seduced, name calling, toys Limit: Writing lines; Needle play; Cutting/Blood; pics and cam; Financial blackmail; Head shaving Toys: 2 dildos, 1 vibe, 2 plugs, household items Spoiler: [B]SUB married Asian F/51. [/B] PM Dares More likes, dislikes, and limits BDSM survey Results

08-31-2018, 03:26 AM	#9
Kifla Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2017 Location: NL Posts: 239 Blog Entries: 1	My partner is as mentioned above quite vanilla, and she has troubles to sometimes understand the kink world and why people do such things. Therefore she doesn't know (yet) that I explore here. I like to have an occasional D/s play, but I am not looking to find an online partner. I browse here mainly for ideas, fun talks and discussion on certain topics. Some stuff I even try with my lady home. She is open to try new stuff, but will take time before I tell her about this site. __________________

08-31-2018, 04:49 AM	#11
Ana The Sniper Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2017 Location: Cairo Posts: 137 Blog Entries: 5	My partner knows about the site, and knows I used to be on it before we were dating and a bit while we started. I do not think she knows I still use it, or if she suspects I do she doesn't know the extent that I do or any of my information on here. I have several kinks that I know she would not be ok with however, so I only use this site when she isn't around. I'm not necessarily looking for an online relationship, though I wouldn't mind an anonymous dom situation. If she ever confronted me about any of it I would come clean, or if I thought she would be in an open mindset. __________________ Male \| 27 \| USA \| Sex Map \| Email: [email protected] Likes & Limits \| PM Dares \| My Rules \| FapRoulette \| KinkTalk I work an intense job and cannot always respond to PMs or dares quickly. Bare with me!

10-06-2018, 07:01 AM	#13
lilith_ getDare Devil Join Date: Jan 2018 Posts: 1,082 Blog Entries: 32	Hello! I just wrote a blog about how to introduce your vanilla partner to BDSM. Please check it out if it interests you https://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=88202 __________________ *she/her ~ sub ~ bi* likes, dislikes, limits last orgasm: november 2022 my discord server: how to get in wanna message me? my usernames

10-06-2018, 11:56 AM	#14
Jaro A filthy maggot anal whore Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: Netherlands Posts: 7,456 Blog Entries: 299	I don't have a partner, but if I did have a partner she should know because she should be kinky like me. I don't think a relationship with a vanilla partner would work for me. __________________ Worm owned by Princess Butterfly ♦ Likes & Limits ♦ Toys ♦ AMA ♦ Check out my truths and dares here

10-06-2018, 12:09 PM	#15
trying getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: wales uk Posts: 283	No its a guilty pleasre

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