Old 03-25-2011, 11:40 PM   #1
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So you find yourself in the mood to be on the receiving end of some dares. You come to this lovely site and make a thread in the TORD Online section. Some of the answers you get are great, well thought out, detailed and exactly what you asked for. Most impartanly they take into account your personal safety. Kudos to the smart darer.

However you also receive some dares that aren't so good and you aren't so sure if they are as safe as the others. You're newer on the site, no one to really ask and afraid to say anything on the thread because the darer might be mad or insulted.

The TORD Online section isn't scrutinized as much as the dare section is, there are just so many dares being posted in different threads at once. There isn't a high chance that someone will step in and point out the safety issue. So what can you do?

This thread is for just this problem. Feel free to post here asking questions about dares you have received that might be a little less than safe or if you're unsure about something. If you don't feel comfortable posting out here in the open, you are more than welcome to shoot me a PM and I'll be sure to get back to you. If I don't know the answer I'll find someone who does. :3

*Please also remeber that you are always free to refuse a dare that you are not comfortable with or one that asks you for pictures or cam. Requesting pictures/cam is against the site rules and can be reported by clicking on the little red triangle below the avatar picture. Please don't ever be afraid to report something.*
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Old 03-27-2011, 08:36 PM   #2
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So, along with this being open for questions of safety I figured I would also add in little issues that I see pop up in dares. Here is the latest one.


So I came across this link while I was looking through some of the adds. I believe it was darkwater that posted it in response to a dare involving trying to keep soap in someone's vigina for some period of time. (thanks so much for the link :3) I saw a similar dare somewhere recently but I can't remeber quite where it is. If someone comes across it please link this on there too.

http://www.helpingteens.org/articles...-a-friend.html

This link gives good avice on general vaginal health and risks associated with using certain cleaning products. These are things that I don't think many women are aware of and could be benifical just in general not just for dares involving things.
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Old 03-27-2011, 08:45 PM   #3
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Yeah, i posted twice about it in response to someone daring it (i think it was the same person in both threads actually). Can't even remember where i learned about it, but it's definitely a good thing to add to a list like this.

There is also this Dare PSA posted in the dare section a few days ago, contains some good and relevant information too

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Old 03-27-2011, 09:05 PM   #4
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Yeah, i posted twice about it in response to someone daring it (i think it was the same person in both threads actually). Can't even remember where i learned about it, but it's definitely a good thing to add to a list like this.

There is also this Dare PSA posted in the dare section a few days ago, contains some good and relevant information too
Oh thank goodness. I was kicking myself because I couldn't remeber where it was and I had had doubts about it but was a little too tired to go looking x.x

You beat me to posting that on here I was going to post that next just didn't quite hop on it tonight.

But yeah, the above link also has good practical information about somethings people just might forget about or over look when thinking of a dare.
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I would hope that people realise that this is, after all, just a website.

You're under no obligation to ever do any dares - even if you say you'll do anything. Nobody will come round your house and shoot your dog if you don't.

So, apply common sense. If you do something stupid because someone dared you to, and it kills you or otherwise causes you harm, then frankly you've nobody but yourself to blame. Common sense people. Don't be an idiot.
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Well, the point of this thread is sort of to advise on things that aren't quite common knowledge. Things that don't sound particularly dangerous but you still have some doubts about.

What it seems to sort of be turning to is also to give some common sense to people who are very new to this and don't know. A lot of the stuff on here isn't common knowledge outside of your little world so newer members could fall victim to stupid dares that they don't know could be dangerous. People can be blind to things sometimes.
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Old 03-27-2011, 09:22 PM   #7
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Oh thank goodness. I was kicking myself because I couldn't remeber where it was and I had had doubts about it but was a little too tired to go looking x.x
Haha, no problem. I thought about posting it in the Dare PSA topic but i hadn't come around to it. So i was pleasantly surprised when i saw your post

Relayer makes a good point too. Above all make sure you feel good about a dare before doing it, there is absolutely no obligation to do something you don't feel good about (even if it falls within you likes!)
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Well, the point of this thread is sort of to advise on things that aren't quite common knowledge. Things that don't sound particularly dangerous but you still have some doubts about.

What it seems to sort of be turning to is also to give some common sense to people who are very new to this and don't know. A lot of the stuff on here isn't common knowledge outside of your little world so newer members could fall victim to stupid dares that they don't know could be dangerous. People can be blind to things sometimes.
I wasn't at all suggesting that this thread was pointless - to the contrary I feel it's a good idea to have a thread where people can go "Uhh, is this safe?" I just felt it necessary to point out that you're never obligated to do anything, and that you are responsible for your own safety. People can sometimes have the mentality of "Well, I was dared to, so I have to do it now."
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Is it safe to put toothpaste down there? (around,in, near, ect)
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Congrats on being my first offical question :3

There was a thread pretaining to this floating around in the advise section.
http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=67957

Pretty much the general consenses is that is it generally safe.

However, with the above warning about vaginal health I would warn against excessive use inside of your vagina. With all the chamicals and such in toothpaste it could probably set off the pH without much issue. That leaves you open to infection and just general unpleasentness, and not the good kind. Also some brands of toothpaste I've heard use sugar and other sweetening substances. Excessive sweets stuff in your vagina can lead to nasty yeast infection.

So a light coating over an object or a small dab on your finger and rubbed around should give you the desired effect without causing too many other complications.

I feel like a similar thing should be true for use in your ass. A small amount will be more than enough to give a good burning sensation. I think that if enough is inserted your intestines will do what they are designed to do which is to absorb any nurtients and water that it can. As you're not supposed to swallow toothpaste in almost any amount other than whats left on your teeth after you rinse and maybe the occational accidental swallow, having it absorbed through your intestines probably would be a bad thing.

So I would basically say, everything in moderation. You don't need a lot of it to reach a point of burning. Don't do any of those rediculas dares where they dare you to use an entire tube of toothpaste and shit. Just not a good idea. Lastly, make sure you clean up properly down there when you're all done and you should be good to go. :3

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What are some safe lubes? Do you think lotion would be a safe anal lube?
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Lotion can cover a vast range of items, but I think the best course of action is to avoid using lotion anywhere inside the body.

A petroleum jelly could be used, but is difficult to wash away, and may still harbour infections if not properly cleaned away. As I dont know what you are planning to lube up with it, I must point out that stuff like vaseline damages latex, so would decrease the protection from STIs if used on a condom

The best sort of lube to be used anally would be water based. eg KY Jelly, easily obtainable in large supermarkets or chemists. There are also specific personal lubricants available, designed to be used for just that sort of use. You would probably find them in the same section as condoms in the shop.

Hope that helps a bit, and Im sorry for jumping in on your advice thread Nelly!
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So, I would have posted my answer last night buuuut I sort of hit the point where english turns into gibberish. With everything that can be included with this I was trying not to screw it up.

So, to start off with, the safest option will always be to just go to a store and buy some. Many stores carry it, you don't have to ask anyone for it, and with self checkouts you don't even have to have the cashier see it. It is also usually inexpensive. Water based is generally viewed as safest and favorite.

If that is the road you're interested in taking, this site has a lot of good just basic information about what kind of lubes can be used with what. Also what ingredients in certain lubes can cause irritaion or yest infections in women.
http://www.babeland.com/shoppingadvice/lubeadvice

So I've been looking A LOT for correct information for what is or isn't safe to use as lube. I have to say that for almost everything there are two sides for each. Unless store bought everything has it's ups and downs, and even some of the store bought ones have little things you have to watch out for too. Those however can be found in the above link. So I can't garuntee everything is spot on.

So here goess the list of what I've found that can be used and the ups and downs of them:

Lotion:
So, I had an earlier discussion about this with Leopard and we pretty much figured out that some that are more ok to use than others. All lotions have chemicals in them that half of us couldn't even come close to pronouncing. After looking some of them up I've found that while some of them are relitively safe there are some that aren't as much.

I would suggest that you go with the simpliest you can find if you feel you must use it. No pretty smells, no extra additives that make it absorb better. Also don't go for really cheep stuff either, they could be full of filler chemicals that could be much more harmful. If the words "For external use only" appear on it doesn't use for anal lube.

So, not suggested, but if you have truely nothing else for anal lube than I suppose it is better than nothing.

For guys, it should be ok for regular masterbating to avoid chafing and such as long as you avoid getting it into your urethra. That wouldn't be too pleasent feeling. Girls, this could also screw with vaginal pH so I would avoid it for non-anal playing.

Cooking oils:
Something that I found while looking was that people were mentioning Things such as vegetable, olive, and coconut oil. These things can be found in most homes and have usually no chemicals, plus they are things that usually pass through your digestive system anyway. Things such as butter and crisco where also mentioned. Make sure that the oils are pure and with no extra stuff added in.

While these can provide good lubrication it was also pointed out that these are less likely to disssipate quickly and could hang around and allow bateria to grow. I think this may be on the lower chance side of happening, but it couldn't hurt to take a little extra time in the shower to make sure you're clean in that area after playing :3

A few warnings though. This shouldn't be used in or around the vaginal area. They can cause an imbalance in pH as well and give bacteria a nice place to grow too. See one of the above post for vaginal health for more information. The oils can also cause damage to latex so keep that in mind if you're thinking of using it in combination with condoms.

Vaseline/Petroleum Jelly:
I'm Not so sure about using this as lube, but I would say no for the sake of lack of knowledge and clean up. Vaseline has a melting point above the bodies normal temperature so it could easily build up in clumps and just be a mess. I would keep it for outside of the body only.

Baby oil:
I didn't find much on this either, but as it is meant for use on very sensitive baby's skin it should be more on the safe side? This is another substance where all I got was that they said it was ok to use. Nothing else. So it is a tenitive yes.

Spit:
While this is very commonly used, it may not really be as great as some people think. This can be found on the link earlier in the post. "While spit is cheap, and you may have seen non-stop spit-fests in porn movies, the reality is that spit dries out pretty quickly and can leave genitals feeling even drier afterwards. If someone has oral herpes, using spit as lube poses a threat of infection to your partner." Not suggested but will work in a pinch I suppose but becareful and relube often.

So, this is pretty much all I can think of, I'm very sorry it took so long and is such a long post but there was a lot of information. PM me for anything that might need to be changed or if anything should be added and I will edit it.
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"Is it safe to use nail polish on your clit as a punishment? I did this once when it was little and I can't recall the feeling so I want to try it and see how it feels now, but I'm worried it might be harmful. Would it be more or less harmful than toothpaste?"

This is another that came up in the anonymous SM advice section, I can do a short one there and refer them here If you want to take a crack at it. Delegation is key !
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"Is it safe to use nail polish on your clit as a punishment? I did this once when it was little and I can't recall the feeling so I want to try it and see how it feels now, but I'm worried it might be harmful. Would it be more or less harmful than toothpaste?"

I actually have already written something on this before, it was just a matter of finding it again. Which I somehow managed to do, soooo here goes.

Alright, to start out, There was a separate thread started on this here : http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=51306


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You're using paint on skin - paint in fact that's known for it having to be strong enough when applied to deal with the rigors of an office day without chipping (too much).

Like any product that wasn't developed to be applied for skin and particularly not developed for skin so delicate as the genital skin - it can, potentially, have some harmful effects.

For safety's sake i would urge you to switch to something along the lines of an eyeliner pencil, or - for something a little more permanent - a marker without additives to the ink.
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Nail polish, so i have read, is very dangerous on skin. It has no effects on the skin around a nail because it is a little different than other areas. If nail polish is left on skin in med to large patches it can lead to skin cancer. Plus, nail polish removers are also semi harmful in sensitive areas. So, in short, dont do it!
I have to agree with what both of those posts. On a different thread this was also added In response to someone elses thoughts:

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No worries on nailpolish. It hurts a little (due to the solvent) but no permanent issues. Have done it & is not a problem. Kinda cool in fact.
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Anything that causes pain by simply putting it on your skin is a BAD idea. Not only that, but if you have some cuts on your skin and you apply it over it can enter your blood stream. Last time I checked benzene and formaldehyde weren't things you wanted to spread over yourself, especially not your genitals, last time I checked they were both rather toxic.

Just because something is widely accepted in use doesn't always make it safe, learn what you're putting yourself in connact with.

I went looking for articles on this, and now I don't even want to use nail polish on my finger nails... I sugest you check it out before you go puting it everywhere... I have a feeling you won't wish to anymore.

http://www.articlesbase.com/nails-ar...h-2796199.html

http://keralaclick.com/blog/2008/12/...#axzz0uxGsp8CP

After you've read those tell me they're safe. That there are no worries. Just because you didn't immedietly drop dead doesn't mean there isn't anything that happend...
The links in that quote should give you all the information you need to turn you away from the idea of using nail poilish for anything but your nails and may even stop you from that.

Now as for it being safer than toothpaste, I would have to say yes. Though tooth paste can have some icky stuff in it, the nail poilish has even worse. There is a post about tooth paste above if you're still courious, and you should be safe with it, just keep it for more or less external use and wash good after you're done.
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