Why do you like denial?

[lilith_]

I am denied for 28 days, and the days keep increasing so I decided to come up with reasons why denial is GOOD! I will write my own reasons in a blog and then post here the link!

So, why is denial good for you?

[Jaro]

I like denial because I like feeling horny and like the growing anticipation of my next orgasm.

I also like it because of the power it gives my Misses. They, and only they, decide if/when/how I am ever allowed to cum or experience any sexual pleasure at all, and that's just hot!

Because me being a submissive is all about giving up power.

[lilith_]

Originally Posted by Jaro

I like denial because I like feeling horny and like the growing anticipation of my next orgasm.

I also like it because of the power it gives my Misses. They, and only they, decide if/when/how I am ever allowed to cum or experience any sexual pleasure at all, and that's just hot!

Because me being a submissive is all about giving up power.

HAHAHAHAHAHAH I clicked "there" oh my god I'm dyiiiiinggggg

[Cstelle]

Originally Posted by lilith_

So, why is denial good for you?

I've experimented with denial only a little (I haven't got an external motivator, and I don't have much self discipline...), but I have noticed that even the shortest period of denial has an effect.

My mental energy level rises. I feel more present, I seriously think it makes me mentally quicker. Funnier, certainly! Deeper - I don't know - but probably. It fires my imagination! My dreams are richer!

And I also feel better physically.

AS I SHOULD. Being horny fills the blood stream with a battery of glory chemicals! There is nothing better, and according to Mother Nature: there SHOULD be nothing better, than being horny. Being horny is what life is all about - according to old Momma Nature.

(So... ruined orgasms? Having your cake but keeping it? Do animals ruin orgasms? Isn't a ruined orgasm really like cheating Mother nature? Discuss!)

[happytosubmit]

I love and hate it at the same time... Denied makes me even hornier. The hornier I am, the more submissive I become, I stop simply thinking. Which is an awesome feeling, but made me do things I might have regretted later. So far, luckily nothing bad came out of it. And I definitely don't want to miss these moments. Actually I'd love going back. That's also what my dick is telling me right now... Oh I fucking love thinking with my dick!

[Pet Ra]

Hi

The denial makes me a better pet, since they took away my orgasms I'm more focused on theirs.
I really love the permanent burning desire in my lower body.
I'm more open to do sexual tasks and dares.

Originally Posted by Cstelle

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(So... ruined orgasms? Having your cake but keeping it? Do animals ruin orgasms? Isn't a ruined orgasm really like cheating Mother nature? Discuss!)

An orgasm is an orgasm, even a ruined one which make you feel like shit afterwards. But for a short moment you feel the joy rushing through your body.

[tomasz.rodent]

From top/dom I like denial because of few factors.

1. It gives and emphasize power. It might work as "symbol" of slavery.
2. It might make slave more horny, what can be used. For example for kinks from list "willing to try, but been afraid".
3. It might work good as some sort of punishment. Some are really going crazy when no cum for few days.
4. When connected with edging, porn or similar it can give stoner orgasm.

[Consensus]

I shall be honest, Cstelle already gave a better answer than anything I could write. It is summed up, for me, rather well there. I am a little disappointed, because I like answering in long-winded fashion and I have nothing to add.

As to ruined orgasms... I only recently (like in 2015) found out what they were and discovered that I had been doing them since I first orgasmed ever because I didn't know that that was not the normal way of doing things. In that sense, I have seen animals doing that too - not stimulating at the moment of ejaculation in sex - so they seem perfectly natural. Wolves, in particular, seem guilty (can wolves be guilty?) of this. Thus, to my mind, it seems perfectly natural. It does not alleviate horniness as much either.

Since 2015 I have rather struggled not to have ruined orgasms.

Also, I clicked 'there' on Jaro's sig too - it's bloody brilliant!

[Cstelle]

Originally Posted by Pet Ra

An orgasm is an orgasm, even a ruined one which make you feel like shit afterwards. But for a short moment you feel the joy rushing through your body.

(I actually don't know if women can have ruined orgasms...? I'm not doubting! I'm just saying that I don't know! Educate me!)

Anyway: typically a ruined orgasm means that a man's penis is brought/wanked to the edge of climax, and just as he begins to ejaculate, all stimulation (your hand/mouth...) is removed.

The ejaculation has begun - but the stimulation is missing - and the result is (speaking for myself here) a quite painful, intensely frustrating, yet weirdly fucking enormously sexual experience - - - without that sense of sexual release.

So when I return to consciousness... I'm just as horny, and just as needy as before. (In a couple dynamic this might mean that I am even more desperate than before. With all that it entails....)

Obviously, all the above is a wild simplification. There is so, so, SO much else to it.

[Matt:]

It's not the denial as such I like, orgasms are very nice and denial is hard.. But it's the giving up control of something so personal to someone else for me. Knowing that I can only cum when Sam & Lucy say is such a turn on.

When I'm denied it makes me more horny, more submissive, more obedient, wanting to please Sam & Lucy more, putting their pleasure above my own, willing to push myself, to go further than I would otherwise.

[Beard]

I like denial because denial makes me...

1. Subby.
Giving away my orgasms seems like something so trivial sometimes. It would be so easy to just to reach down and stroke away. But I don't. Why? I have a natural tendency to want to make other people happy. While I know what's good for myself and do what I need to to take care of me, I love taking something about myself that isn't 100% necessary and putting it in someone else's (your) hands. It entertains that desire to please someone else and keeps me focused on not doing it because I know that you want me to.

2. Horny.
I love being horny. I love constantly having thoughts about stroking and fucking and licking and... well, you understand. And being horny tends to keep me on my toes. I feel mentally, physically, and emotionally more stable when I'm in touch with my sexuality, which gives me self confidence. I don't NEED to be horny to be awesome. But being horny reminds me WHY I'm awesome. And that's because I'm a human and have an amazing thing called a sex drive that makes me unique. Just like everyone reading this. You're awesome too.

3. Have Self Control.
This part is the hardest for me. I want everything all the time. I want the coolest stuff, the most fun experience, the thing that feels best. I'm a glutton for thrills. But if you have a thrill too much, it stops being a thrill. If you have too much of a good thing, it tends to lose its luster. Giving my orgasms away enables me to really cherish them when they cum (see what I did there?) It's healthier that way. It keeps me wanting more and more and really appreciating when they happen.

4. Creative.
I've never written as creatively and freely than I have in the last few weeks. Being denied lets my mind run WILD. Mainly because I get to think about all the fun things I or someone else could do with my cock if it were denied. It makes me think outside the box and keep myself having fun and experiencing those thrills I mentioned earlier - but those thrills are in my MIND.

5. Be Myself.
I love what Cstelle said earlier about how we're meant to be horny. We're made to be sexual beings. Why not intensify that feeling? It makes things more fun.

[Cstelle]

Originally Posted by Consensus

As to ruined orgasms... [---] I have seen animals doing that too - not stimulating at the moment of ejaculation in sex - so they seem perfectly natural.

I'm not convinced you have it quite right, there. At ejaculation we (the males of the many species) tend to freeze for a bit. It has nothing to do with "ruining orgasms". It's the ejaculation thing... The only living thing in the history of living things that is prepared to pull out at the moment of ejaculation is the male human porn star. Sad, but true. (We fear that we may now be looking at the last generation of them...)

Also, I clicked 'there' on Jaro's sig too - it's bloody brilliant!

Oh fuck yes! "Amateur" doesn't always mean tacky! (Also, I'm quite fond of blowjobs myself.)

[lilith_]

Wow! So many great answers, thank you for sharing

[Consensus]

Originally Posted by Cstelle

I'm not convinced you have it quite right, there. At ejaculation we (the males of the many species) tend to freeze for a bit. It has nothing to do with "ruining orgasms". It's the ejaculation thing... The only living thing in the history of living things that is prepared to pull out at the moment of ejaculation is the male human porn star. Sad, but true. (We fear that we may now be looking at the last generation of them...)

It's a fair point.

Hmm. Do I have it a-right for a human though? Or am I also rather mistaken there? It's less 'freezing' and more just... stopping.

I don't think I've ever watched people having sex, pron or otherwise, so I shall have to simply take your word on that one about the male porn star (though, it is the sort of point I shall steal and use at parties... no, wait...).

Originally Posted by Cstelle

Oh fuck yes! "Amateur" doesn't always mean tacky! (Also, I'm quite fond of blowjobs myself.)

Be still my beating heart! I'm saying no more, it's beyond mere words!

[owlart]

Originally Posted by Jaro

I like denial because I like feeling horny and like the growing anticipation of my next orgasm.

I also like it because of the power it gives my Misses. They, and only they, decide if/when/how I am ever allowed to cum or experience any sexual pleasure at all, and that's just hot!

Because me being a submissive is all about giving up power.

What Jaro said! I couldn't put it any better myself. Handing control to one of the most intimate sensations you can have over to your Domme is so powerful.