what makes a good mistress

babydoll69 · 09-14-2016, 06:53 PM

hey, I'm new here and I just want to know what makes a good Mistress. PM let me know fam. Thanks

Maximus11 · 09-14-2016, 08:28 PM

Hi and welcome,

The traits of a good mistress probably change depending on who you talk to. But I'll give you my views.

To me, first and foremost, a mistress should be naturally dominant. As a sub I usually test out a dom a bit by talking back a little or being cheeky. If they are not naturally dominant over me that becomes obvious fairly quickly.

Secondly, she should take the time to get to know what her sub finds humiliating or degrading but also arousing. Anyone can tie someone up or boss them around, but it takes something special to understand the person and push limits without breaking them.

I could say more but I've run out of time. Happy to post again later though.

Computergeek94 · 09-14-2016, 09:23 PM

I believe that a good BDSM relationship is all about TRUST and COMMUNICATION. In my experience, I've looked for a Mistress I know I can trust and keep in constant contact with (especially if it's online). If there's no trust, the whole D/s relationship is meaningless.

Nuada · 09-17-2016, 06:34 PM

I agree with computergeek.

There's this fantasy that dommes are all unrelenting and strict but it's more important to be understanding and caring and trustworthy. It's important to be there for your sub as it is a shared experience. It's important to be able to look after them after a 'scene' as they're likely to be emotionally vulnerable and need to know you care.

good luck!

09-14-2016, 06:53 PM	#1
babydoll69 Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2016 Posts: 2	what makes a good mistress hey, I'm new here and I just want to know what makes a good Mistress. PM let me know fam. Thanks

09-14-2016, 08:28 PM	#2
Maximus11 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2016 Location: Australia Posts: 108	Hi and welcome, The traits of a good mistress probably change depending on who you talk to. But I'll give you my views. To me, first and foremost, a mistress should be naturally dominant. As a sub I usually test out a dom a bit by talking back a little or being cheeky. If they are not naturally dominant over me that becomes obvious fairly quickly. Secondly, she should take the time to get to know what her sub finds humiliating or degrading but also arousing. Anyone can tie someone up or boss them around, but it takes something special to understand the person and push limits without breaking them. I could say more but I've run out of time. Happy to post again later though. __________________ Switch male LOVES: Humiliation, forced feminisation, feet Likes: Ass play, food, denial, hidden public Limits: scat, public, heavy pain, pictures

09-14-2016, 09:23 PM	#3
Computergeek94 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Feb 2015 Posts: 413 Blog Entries: 14	I believe that a good BDSM relationship is all about TRUST and COMMUNICATION. In my experience, I've looked for a Mistress I know I can trust and keep in constant contact with (especially if it's online). If there's no trust, the whole D/s relationship is meaningless. __________________ 30/M Switch *Locked in chastity* Kik/Skype - Samswitch94 Message me Chastity Check on Kik. Likes/Limits

09-17-2016, 06:34 PM	#4
Nuada Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 34	I agree with computergeek. There's this fantasy that dommes are all unrelenting and strict but it's more important to be understanding and caring and trustworthy. It's important to be there for your sub as it is a shared experience. It's important to be able to look after them after a 'scene' as they're likely to be emotionally vulnerable and need to know you care. good luck!