Kinky shopping anonymity

bigger-half · 05-13-2018, 10:09 AM

As I'm new to kinky shopping, seeing how much info you have to share when buying online and how questionable some e-shops seem regarding security I'm curious how others deal with this. So:

1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline?

Online:

2. Do you use your real name and address?
3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else?
4. How about your email/phone number?
5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information?

Offline:

6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else?

striker101 · 05-13-2018, 10:41 AM

1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline?
I'd have to travel a long way to buy anything kinky offline. There aren't any adult shops in my town or the nearby towns, so just much easier to shop online.

Online:

2. Do you use your real name and address?
Well, if I use a fake address, I'm obviously not going to get whatever I ordered... I did use a fake name the first time I ordered a sex toy online, it was with a prepaid card. If I didn't trust a site I probably wouldn't order from them to begin with, but I would potentially do that again. I guess if I really didn't want to give out my address I could open a P.O. Box for a short while.

3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else?
Prepaid cards. It's basically a gift card you can use anywhere. There's no account to be hacked. I have used a credit card a few times.

4. How about your email/phone number?
I have a separate email account that I use when signing up for various sites, or some shopping sites. It really helps keep down the spam in my primary email account. I frequently use fake phone numbers if they're required.

5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information?
Not really.

Offline:

6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else?
It'd depend on the shop, but probably cash.

poetrylover828 · 05-13-2018, 10:52 AM

1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline? I haven't done a ton of shopping, but so far just online. I have ordered from lovehoney.
2. Do you use your real name and address? I have because lovehoney seems like a decent enough place to order from without worry.
3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else? I have used my debit card and haven't had any problems
4. How about your email/phone number? Never had an online store ask for my phone number. I have put my email in.
5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information? I'm not bothered because I trust the site I'm shopping on.

Honestly I haven't looked at places that sell more kink focused items rather than just general sex toys. I have a friend who found a decent bondage kit on amazon.

bigger-half · 05-13-2018, 12:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by striker101

Well, if I use a fake address, I'm obviously not going to get whatever I ordered... I did use a fake name the first time I ordered a sex toy online, it was with a prepaid card. If I didn't trust a site I probably wouldn't order from them to begin with, but I would potentially do that again. I guess if I really didn't want to give out my address I could open a P.O. Box for a short while.

Parcel lockers are an option too, at least where I live. They still require your address along with your name though, I guess for identification/communication purposes.

kurious kat · 05-13-2018, 12:40 PM

1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline?
Mostly online, although I've been lucky enough to find great things locally a few times too.
2. Do you use your real name and address?
Yes, I do.
3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else?
In person I'll pay cash if I have it, but online or if I don't have cash, I've used either paypal or my credit card.
4. How about your email/phone number?
For ordering online, yes.
5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information?
I'd be really happy not to have to share it, honestly, but the realities of billing and shipping make that difficult (I've had things not arrive to my place when using a fake name in the mail, for example), so generally I try to pick reputable shops and trust them to understand their business. It's a leap of faith, but so far I've been fairly lucky.

Jaro · 05-14-2018, 08:51 AM

As I'm new to kinky shopping, seeing how much info you have to share when buying online and how questionable some e-shops seem regarding security I'm curious how others deal with this. So:

1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline?

Mostly online. Partly because of anonymity but mostly because I have way more choice then and it's convenient.
Online:

2. Do you use your real name and address?
Yes, albeit reluctantly. Otherwise I don't think I well get it delivered.
3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else?
Mostly my debit card
4. How about your email/phone number?
I use an email address that I only use for spam. I don't provide my phone number. I wouldn't order on a shop where I have to leave my phone number.
5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information?
Yes. Because they will keep it in their database and use it for advertisements. Probably sell it to third parties as well. At least they don't send printed advertisements, at least I hope not!

Offline:

6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else?

If I buy offline I pay in cash

bigger-half · 05-14-2018, 01:21 PM

Thanks for the answers so far! Seems like choosing trustworthy shop(s) is the key. I think e-shops could have local points or some deals with local sellers where you could order and/or pay.

Kisune Karnon · 05-14-2018, 04:41 PM

1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline? Offline
Online:
2. Do you use your real name and address?
3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else?
4. How about your email/phone number?
5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information?
Offline:
6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else? Debit Card. As good as cash.

bigger-half · 05-14-2018, 05:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kisune Karnon

6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else? Debit Card. As good as cash.

This isn't always true. I'm not sure I'm comfortable with having such record in the bank's (and probably the card provider's and the shop's too) database. Maybe I'm just paranoic though.

05-13-2018, 10:09 AM	#1
bigger-half Account Banned Join Date: Apr 2018 Posts: 74	Kinky shopping anonymity As I'm new to kinky shopping, seeing how much info you have to share when buying online and how questionable some e-shops seem regarding security I'm curious how others deal with this. So: 1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline? Online: 2. Do you use your real name and address? 3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else? 4. How about your email/phone number? 5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information? Offline: 6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else?

05-13-2018, 10:41 AM	#2
striker101 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Wyoming Posts: 202	1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline? I'd have to travel a long way to buy anything kinky offline. There aren't any adult shops in my town or the nearby towns, so just much easier to shop online. Online: 2. Do you use your real name and address? Well, if I use a fake address, I'm obviously not going to get whatever I ordered... I did use a fake name the first time I ordered a sex toy online, it was with a prepaid card. If I didn't trust a site I probably wouldn't order from them to begin with, but I would potentially do that again. I guess if I really didn't want to give out my address I could open a P.O. Box for a short while. 3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else? Prepaid cards. It's basically a gift card you can use anywhere. There's no account to be hacked. I have used a credit card a few times. 4. How about your email/phone number? I have a separate email account that I use when signing up for various sites, or some shopping sites. It really helps keep down the spam in my primary email account. I frequently use fake phone numbers if they're required. 5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information? Not really. Offline: 6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else? It'd depend on the shop, but probably cash. __________________ Male, 34, Gay, Submissive Kik: DaredDominated \| Skype: doubledown101 Limits: Public, Illegal, Friends/Family (please leave other people out of it), Scat/Diapers, Blood, Shaving, Social Suicide, Highly Messy, Cross-dressing Likes: If it's not listed above, I'll at least give it a try even if a don't exactly 'like' it. Pleasing others is more my priority. Feel free to message me. I will provide proof of dares.

05-13-2018, 10:52 AM	#3
poetrylover828 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Jul 2017 Location: US Posts: 470 Blog Entries: 4	1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline? I haven't done a ton of shopping, but so far just online. I have ordered from lovehoney. 2. Do you use your real name and address? I have because lovehoney seems like a decent enough place to order from without worry. 3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else? I have used my debit card and haven't had any problems 4. How about your email/phone number? Never had an online store ask for my phone number. I have put my email in. 5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information? I'm not bothered because I trust the site I'm shopping on. Honestly I haven't looked at places that sell more kink focused items rather than just general sex toys. I have a friend who found a decent bondage kit on amazon. __________________ Likes: rope play, spanking and other forms of light impact play Limits: anal, piss, scat, video, pics, permanent damage Don’t send me messages asking to help with your dare or help you shop. If I want to take parts in dares I will. If you need someone to pick out the things you are buying then you don’t need to being doing dares. I'm not looking for a partner.

05-14-2018, 08:51 AM	#6
Jaro A filthy maggot anal whore Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: Netherlands Posts: 7,456 Blog Entries: 299	As I'm new to kinky shopping, seeing how much info you have to share when buying online and how questionable some e-shops seem regarding security I'm curious how others deal with this. So: 1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline? Mostly online. Partly because of anonymity but mostly because I have way more choice then and it's convenient. Online: 2. Do you use your real name and address? Yes, albeit reluctantly. Otherwise I don't think I well get it delivered. 3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else? Mostly my debit card 4. How about your email/phone number? I use an email address that I only use for spam. I don't provide my phone number. I wouldn't order on a shop where I have to leave my phone number. 5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information? Yes. Because they will keep it in their database and use it for advertisements. Probably sell it to third parties as well. At least they don't send printed advertisements, at least I hope not! Offline: 6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else? If I buy offline I pay in cash __________________ Worm owned by Princess Butterfly ♦ Likes & Limits ♦ Toys ♦ AMA ♦ Check out my truths and dares here

05-14-2018, 04:41 PM	#8
Kisune Karnon GetDare Ninja Join Date: May 2010 Location: Imagination Land Posts: 12,190 Blog Entries: 7	1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline? Offline Online: 2. Do you use your real name and address? 3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else? 4. How about your email/phone number? 5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information? Offline: 6. Do you use cash, credit card, something else? Debit Card. As good as cash. __________________ Male/Married/Straight/Switch/32/190 lbs Likes and Limits Toys (So Far) PM Dares Utilizing Keywords Version 3 Kik: Kisune22 My goal is to give good dares and receive them because that is how I enjoy the game. I will send reports when I choose to or if I am asked. If you give me a repeated dare or a "do your own dare," I will be very disappointed because I like to be surprised and challenged.

05-13-2018, 12:40 PM	#5
kurious kat getDare's Kinkiest Kitty Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: USA Posts: 700 Blog Entries: 26	1. Do you buy kinky stuff online or offline? Mostly online, although I've been lucky enough to find great things locally a few times too. 2. Do you use your real name and address? Yes, I do. 3. Do you use your credit card, prepaid cards, something else? In person I'll pay cash if I have it, but online or if I don't have cash, I've used either paypal or my credit card. 4. How about your email/phone number? For ordering online, yes. 5. Does it bother you/Do you wish you didn't have to share this information? I'd be really happy not to have to share it, honestly, but the realities of billing and shipping make that difficult (I've had things not arrive to my place when using a fake name in the mail, for example), so generally I try to pick reputable shops and trust them to understand their business. It's a leap of faith, but so far I've been fairly lucky.

05-14-2018, 01:21 PM	#7
bigger-half Account Banned Join Date: Apr 2018 Posts: 74	Thanks for the answers so far! Seems like choosing trustworthy shop(s) is the key. I think e-shops could have local points or some deals with local sellers where you could order and/or pay.