What's the worst example of disrespect given to you?

[Bloxo]

Okay...maybe I just need to vent...get something off my chest, or whatever...

So I was seeing this girl, only for a few weeks...but there was some kind of crazy connection there, I have never been able to date a girl I could talk with so much before...for me it was amazing! I finally started to think...soulmate possibly?

Then things broke down, we were intimate, somehow things became awkward between us, I perhaps started asking questions that were a little early in the relationship and she started acting distant and distracted...things ended and we suggested trying to be friends (big mistake it turns out).

Part of me rather foolishly thought we could maybe restart things and see how things went...but turns out I was alone in these thoughts (despite her actually suggesting the very same...but nevermind)...

So I get a message from her not only telling me about her new bf, but that the sex was amazing...we went our separate ways about 3 weeks ago, she was on holiday for 2 of those and turns out she started seeing the guy the week after we ended things...

Now this to me felt very disrespectful...and made me think, well at some point we've all probably been treated like shit right?

So if you have your own story, use this thread to vent and get it out of your system!

[Happy Me]

Here is mine I wanna get off of my chest, because it is still somehow bothering me.

Just as a bit of back story: I have always been a chubby girl, but it persisted despite how I ate or how active I was, so I decided at some point in my early 20's to just be healthy. Meaning I would make sure I was eating healthy foods in healthy amounts, and getting good exercise. This kind of life made me feel a lot better, I had lots of energy, and could do anything I wanted (meaning my weight didn't stop me from doing things skinny people did). I was active, had boundless energy, and was happy, but I remained chubby always. I always loved myself anyway, but as I am sure you are aware, people are not nice to fat people.

So 20 years later (about 2.5 years ago) I start getting really sick. It took a very long time (almost 2 years) to get diagnosed (rare disease) and during the whole time I was losing weight rapidly. I have been pretty hardened to people making comments about my weight, so I really thought after 20 years of dealing with people making comments about my weight there was no comment I couldn't deal with? Well, the whole time, people at work are making comments about how great I look because I am losing so much weight. Which wasn't nice, given the situation, but it is not that bad. But I am getting sicker and sicker and sicker, and finally get a diagnosis. It is an incurable, basically untreatable rare disease, and I am just going to get sicker and sicker until I am bed bound.

At some point I am so sick that I am doing basically nothing except working a few hours of work every week. I have no energy to do anything else. I couldn't eat basically anything, and if I did I would throw a lot of it up. I can't buy new clothes that fit, and even if I could do the shopping I can't wear clothes that fit because of the pain. So I basically look like a frumpalump all the time.

One of my last days at work (eventually I was so sick I couldn't even work a few hours of work a week), I was meeting with my boss, and she says, as like a pep talk about my illness, "Well at least you're losing weight!"

I hope I don't need to explain beyond that?

[LitDarkness]

Originally Posted by Happy Me

Here is mine I wanna get off of my chest, because it is still somehow bothering me.

Just as a bit of back story: I have always been a chubby girl, but it persisted despite how I ate or how active I was, so I decided at some point in my early 20's to just be healthy. Meaning I would make sure I was eating healthy foods in healthy amounts, and getting good exercise. This kind of life made me feel a lot better, I had lots of energy, and could do anything I wanted (meaning my weight didn't stop me from doing things skinny people did). I was active, had boundless energy, and was happy, but I remained chubby always. I always loved myself anyway, but as I am sure you are aware, people are not nice to fat people.

So 20 years later (about 2.5 years ago) I start getting really sick. It took a very long time (almost 2 years) to get diagnosed (rare disease) and during the whole time I was losing weight rapidly. I have been pretty hardened to people making comments about my weight, so I really thought after 20 years of dealing with people making comments about my weight there was no comment I couldn't deal with? Well, the whole time, people at work are making comments about how great I look because I am losing so much weight. Which wasn't nice, given the situation, but it is not that bad. But I am getting sicker and sicker and sicker, and finally get a diagnosis. It is an incurable, basically untreatable rare disease, and I am just going to get sicker and sicker until I am bed bound.

At some point I am so sick that I am doing basically nothing except working a few hours of work every week. I have no energy to do anything else. I couldn't eat basically anything, and if I did I would throw a lot of it up. I can't buy new clothes that fit, and even if I could do the shopping I can't wear clothes that fit because of the pain. So I basically look like a frumpalump all the time.

One of my last days at work (eventually I was so sick I couldn't even work a few hours of work a week), I was meeting with my boss, and she says, as like a pep talk about my illness, "Well at least you're losing weight!"

I hope I don't need to explain beyond that?

That may have been a dumb moment but, I think she needed to think a little more.

I had someone ask me what's wrong once and yell at me for telling them. I didn't want to him what was wrong in the first place, he just had a tendency to keep asking.

[amethyst353]

Originally Posted by Happy Me

One of my last days at work (eventually I was so sick I couldn't even work a few hours of work a week), I was meeting with my boss, and she says, as like a pep talk about my illness, "Well at least you're losing weight!"

I hope I don't need to explain beyond that?

Oh, I'm so sorry you worked with such unempathetic jerks. Sending you all the virtual hugs I have to give.

[Bloxo]

Happy Me, you have a wonderful way of putting things into proper perspective, and your colleague was totally clueless!

[gdBob]

Originally Posted by Bloxo

So I get a message from her not only telling me about her new bf, but that the sex was amazing...we went our separate ways about 3 weeks ago, she was on holiday for 2 of those and turns out she started seeing the guy the week after we ended things...

Eh, if the new boyfriend and all the sex they were having was so amazing, she wouldn't even be thinking about you. But she is, so that tells you something.

And, at least now you know she's disrespectful and mean. Now when you look back on your brief time together, you know you dodged something bad instead of missing out on something good.

[Bloxo]

Originally Posted by gdBob

Eh, if the new boyfriend and all the sex they were having was so amazing, she wouldn't even be thinking about you. But she is, so that tells you something.

And, at least now you know she's disrespectful and mean. Now when you look back on your brief time together, you know you dodged something bad instead of missing out on something good.

this is exactly my frame of mind