07-05-2018, 12:48 AM | #1 |
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Question about kink effecting life
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I wanted to know some people's experience with kink and their lives. I sometimes feel very nervous/hesitant about my kinks and exploring them due to my fear of it effecting my normal life. I'm studying to be in a field where the opinion of your peers is important, and I fear that if I get too involved (partially why pictures are a limit for me), if things get found out, it could negatively impact my life. So my questions are: do you ever feel that your kinks hold or have held you back? Do you think they've helped you move forward? Do you have difficulty compartmentalizing your kinky/bdsm life from your vanilla life? If so, why do you think that is? If you find it easy, how do you manage to keep your lives separate and worry free? Sorry for the long post, but I would really appreciate any honest input from users!
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07-05-2018, 01:05 AM | #2 |
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Usually I am open about my kinky life, even to vanilla people (the ones I choose to open up to). If I am in a relationship with a Dom I don't want to pretend that I am his girlfriend. I am not his girlfriend, I am his sub AND his lover. But not everyone accepts it. I've had friends be concerned because they couldn't understand that this is what I want. They thought I had a problem if I was willing to accept "abuse" and "manipulation". I guess that's the negative impact on my vanilla life. I don't want to hide who I am or pretend that we are something else of what we are. If I want to call him Sir in front of people or ask permission to eat/drink/do something, I want to be able to do it without getting dirty looks or having people think that I am a freak. I guess I won't ever be able to have that unless I only hang out with kinky people.
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07-05-2018, 08:18 AM | #3 | |
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07-05-2018, 11:11 AM | #4 | |
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Also, does your kink effect your work/professional life at all? Do you think it potentially could? Sorry, I don't mean to be nosy, it's just these are all concerns I, personally, have that I could use some guidance with based upon how others have experienced these things (or have not in Rhodes64's case).
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07-05-2018, 11:12 AM | #5 |
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That's awesome to hear! It's definitely reassuring to hear responses like that where you could enjoy your kinks judgment free!
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07-05-2018, 11:13 AM | #6 |
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Thanks for your responses! If anyone else has experience, please feel free to chime in. The more perspectives, the better!
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07-05-2018, 11:20 AM | #7 |
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Do you ever feel that your kinks hold or have held you back?
No, I never felt like that. Aspects of myself have held me back in the past but kink has never been one of them. Do you think they've helped you move forward? Yes, in some ways. Because they made me think more deeply about things such as communication, standing up for yourself, clear agreements and expectations, etc. Also, knowing I can take more than I might have expected of myself before. I feel that that's helped me in general life, too. Do you have difficulty compartmentalizing your kinky/bdsm life from your vanilla life? If so, why do you think that is? Not at all. If you find it easy, how do you manage to keep your lives separate and worry free? I don't. Not anymore than I would keep my private business private, anyway. I do not tell people about vanilla sex or masturbation habits, I do not tell people about my past, I wouldn't randomly grope or snog someone in public either so I have no issues holding back anything else that I feel is private or inappropriate in certain contexts. I do not tell people unless they are near and dear to me, in which case they will either accept it or they can piss off anyway. So it's no conscious effort for me. I just don't feel obliged to share, it doesn't weigh on me. |
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07-05-2018, 03:40 PM | #8 |
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Hi and thank you for this question.
I am not young anymore and can tell, that I had all of my kinks already when I was very young. Perhaps not in this intensity, but they accompanied and influenced me the whole life. I always had problems, when I met a girl that only wanted vanilla sex. Now I found a very kinky, young woman and my sex life is great... if we lived in the same country, but this is another story. My kinks made me most of my life insecure about myself, and it lasted long, that I finally accepted them as a part of me. If you are alone before internet was invented, it can be hard. My kinks of course affected my life. I have no vanilla life anymore, I am married, but without sex. Your kinks are stronger than you.
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07-07-2018, 09:06 AM | #9 | |
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