The Very First Time.

[Dashie]

Since I'll be moving out of my parents place in a bit I've been wondering about what you guys did/went through your mind the very first time...

1.You moved out and had a place for yourself. /Been left alone for 24h+
2.You had sexual intercourse, did you go and brag about it to others?
3.You drank coffee.
4.You found out about your fetishes.
5.You found a Dom or Miss, what went through your head?
6.You injured yourself during a dare or got (almost) caught.
7.You enterd a serious relation ship with someone (not) sharing your interests.

There has probably been a few of these already but I'm still curious about what you guys experienced so please enlighten me!

[rhode64]

[QUOTE=Dashie;3348495]Since I'll be moving out of my parents place in a bit I've been wondering about what you guys did/went through your mind the very first time...

1.You moved out and had a place for yourself. /Been left alone for 24h+
It was heaven . I sat in the living room for ages just thinking how peaceful it was and that it was all mine
2.You had sexual intercourse, did you go and brag about it to others?
No I never bragged about it until my partners started bragging about it .
3.You drank coffee.
Don't like coffee
4.You found out about your fetishes.
I was 11 and it was a very educating summer.
5.You found a Dom or Miss, what went through your head?
Never have .
6.You injured yourself during a dare or got (almost) caught.
I got almost caught it was one hell of a rush .
7.You enterd a serious relation ship with someone (not) sharing your interests.
Never have .

[Dashie]

[QUOTE=rhode64;3348523]

Originally Posted by Dashie

Since I'll be moving out of my parents place in a bit I've been wondering about what you guys did/went through your mind the very first time...

1.You moved out and had a place for yourself. /Been left alone for 24h+
It was heaven . I sat in the living room for ages just thinking how peaceful it was and that it was all mine
2.You had sexual intercourse, did you go and brag about it to others?
No I never bragged about it until my partners started bragging about it .
3.You drank coffee.
Don't like coffee
4.You found out about your fetishes.
I was 11 and it was a very educating summer.
5.You found a Dom or Miss, what went through your head?
Never have .
6.You injured yourself during a dare or got (almost) caught.
I got almost caught it was one hell of a rush .
7.You enterd a serious relation ship with someone (not) sharing your interests.
Never have .

I love your 2th one, but I could never imagine how parents would bloat about that xd

I have to somewhat agree on your 4th answer but it started earlier then the summer break and with 14.

[striker101]

1.You moved out and had a place for yourself. /Been left alone for 24h+
First time I lived alone was my fourth year of college. It was awesome. I love having that complete privacy and freedom to do whatever I want. Does get a bit lonely at times, especially back then during the bits of time when I was too busy with school work to have much of a social life. And if the building makes a lot of sounds at night it's a easy to get a bit spooked.

2.You had sexual intercourse, did you go and brag about it to others?
Didn't brag about it to anyone. It was the first time in my life that I just felt genuinely, thoroughly sated. My body was completely relaxed, I was really happy, and everything just felt good. After the drive home I just sat around for a bit thinking about it, then got an excellent night's sleep.

3.You drank coffee.
I don't really remember the first time I drank coffee. I know I didn't like it, and I still don't.

4.You found out about your fetishes.
Pretty sure I initially discovered my interest in various kinks because I was brought up to believe that being gay was wrong. So if I was all tied up and essentially "forced" then it wouldn't really be my "fault" even if I thoroughly enjoyed it. Definitely developed a liking for men with authority — especially uniforms. The internet certainly made things easier to explore. I remember there was a site with a bunch of humiliating college stories (most of which I'm sure were fake, but it was fun to pretend), and a site with a bunch of sex/kink related polls (pretty sure it was called misterpoll).

5.You found a Dom or Miss, what went through your head?
It was a guy on Recon. Never actually met, just chatted, and he requested all sorts of photos. It was exciting being told what to do, and actually obeying. It was also challenging, since I really only knew my obvious limits (extreme stuff like blood, and scat) I definitely pushed myself out of my comfort zone a lot.

6.You injured yourself during a dare or got (almost) caught.
Only injury that comes to mind is my feet getting some cuts after standing in snow completely naked. It sucked, but wasn't really that bad. Haven't really gotten close to being caught either, although a part of me really wants to get caught.

7.You entered a serious relationship with someone (not) sharing your interests.
I've never been in a serious relationship. As far as kinks go, it's not a big deal to me if a hypothetical partner doesn't share those interests. They're fun (though also humiliating, embarrassing, and a bit painful at times) and exhilarating, but not a requirement for me.

[Consensus]

1.You moved out and had a place for yourself. /Been left alone for 24h+

I was first left alone for 24 hours when I was 16. However, not sure that counts. I first lived alone in University at 18. I was quite excited. By this point I knew that I wanted to try cross-dressing and bondage and this afforded me the chance to try it. I bottled it, however, and did neither. Nor did I really embrace all that I could do alone. Instead I lived very regimented-ly and moreso than I did at home. It was easier and I was worried about being 'found out'. Mostly I was fearful of being myself so I decided not to be.

I recreated my persona from Sixth Form and lived that. Failed to enjoy Fresher's Week nor make any friends. Eventually was fancied by someone (their best quality as far as I was concerned was the fact that they were attracted to me) and generally was an appalling human being. It was not as I had hoped and nor as I had feared. It was simply another aspect of my life.

2.You had sexual intercourse, did you go and brag about it to others?

No. It was... I booked a hotel, I was 26, and it had a half-tester. I had hoped for a four-poster. I took handcuffs. I took roses, I scattered petals on the bed. I expected a few goes, if I'm honest, and for most of them to dissolve into laughter. Instead we had just one go at it that was preceded by about three hours of obsessive cleaning by my partner that rather killed the mood. I was asked to brush my teeth a full three times before I joined my partner who then asked me to have a shower. Then they had another shower. We finally got into bed and had a couple of hours of nothing much. They eschewed anything other than missionary with a sneer of distaste.

That was it. No point bragging to anyone about that. I wouldn't have done anyway, but I couldn't even brag to myself about it. We did not try the second night nor in the morning. My partner recommended that I go to the doctor's as I hadn't managed to orgasm the entire time. They said that they had but I was uncertain.

I overlooked it, it was the first time, no need for fireworks. They would learn what I liked and I would learn what they liked. I was wrong.

3.You drank coffee.

In my twenties. It wasn't nice. However, I successfully used it to cross the Pennines late at night, have used it ever since in a similar vein.

4.You found out about your fetishes.

I found out about them very early on. Almost as soon as I was in receipt of my sexual activity. So, sometime around 11-12 I knew that being tied up was a thing and would do this with string on my headboard or on my drawers in my room. I kept diaries and first referred to this (and what I would later realise was cross-dressing) when I was 12 (but only just). I referred to infantilism (ABDL) when I was 14. In each case I had no idea that these were fetishes, they were just things I knew about myself.

At 13 I would fantasise about being caged in the airing cupboard in the bathroom and wrap my wrists, ankles and neck in toilet paper (with bows) to get off. I would masturbate in the toilet with images of being made to wear female uniforms by girls at school. I would imagine crimes that would have to be punished this way and how that would work. I wrote a story at age 11 called "Boy to Girl" (no prizes for guessing it's subject) and that was pretty fundamental to me. I had secret chapters that I showed no one that dealt with how the main character dealt with sexual aspects of the change.

In short, I was odd.

5.You found a Dom or Miss, what went through your head?

I found one when I was 33. I seriously considered getting in touch. But I was married with children, so I didn't. Frustration, excitement, submission. But I did nothing. I am a coward.

6.You injured yourself during a dare or got (almost) caught.

Not happened.

7.You enterd a serious relation ship with someone (not) sharing your interests.

I told them about my oddities. I wrote them down. They decided not to take it in. My friend even offered pictures of me cross-dressing with a recommendation that I looked good. My partner refused to believe any of it and just... I dunno, they decided none of it was real or happening. So... yeah. I told them, they didn't want to know. That was when I was 26-7. At age 30 I told them again and they told me I was no longer the person they married as I had kept secrets from them. They told me I was filthy, perverted, unworthy of love or respect.

They had therapy and blamed me for not getting over the death of their grandparents and for shovelling shit onto them as they were depressed. they told me I was wrong for not being happy. When I sought therapy I was told that I was getting it wrong, that my therapist was wrong to support me. We didn't have sex again until I was 33. It wasn't until I was 35 that we had regular sex, around once a month, and that dried up again around 36. A last gasp effort was held, with my oddities ignored and thrown out, which ended with our third child when I was 37. Since that time there has been nothing.

My partner has made it clear that my oddities mean it is impossible for us to have sex again. I am allowed to cross-dress a little bit but it is tolerated only. I am left in no doubt that this is the reason that my partner does not find me attractive. They believe that the perfect relationship for them is out there and, when they have the emotional energy, they will look for it. Being ASD myself along with everything else I am reasonably convinced now that there isn't anyone out there who would welcome a relationship with me.

[mj2k]

1.You moved out and had a place for yourself. /Been left alone for 24h+
It was great. Parents helped me move. Was on good terms.

2.You had sexual intercourse, did you go and brag about it to others?
I couldn't. My girlfriend wanted to remain a virgin (she was 14, I was 15 so...) and I found another girl who was willing and experienced. Since I cheated I couldn't tell anyone.

3.You drank coffee.
I was a kid. I felt like a 'grown up' at age 10.

4.You found out about your fetishes.
Gradually noticing what interested me and what didn't. Went to a sex club to confirm.

5.You found a Dom or Miss, what went through your head?
No interest.

6.You injured yourself during a dare or got (almost) caught.
Didn't

7.You enterd a serious relation ship with someone (not) sharing your interests.
Wouldn't

[Foxy Rose]

1.You moved out and had a place for yourself. /Been left alone for 24h+

When I went to boarding school at the age of 11. I had my own room and I preferred it that way. I was a *very* shy girl when I was younger, even when I was confident in my body. Been left alone for 24h+ - that was the first time I rented a porn video from the video shop (my best friend worked at it, so I wasn't *too* shy about it. That was also the day I found out I could have orgasm after orgasm. My record at that time was 10!

2.You had sexual intercourse, did you go and brag about it to others?

I lost my virginity when I was 18. The day after we had sex, people noticed and commented "you look different. you did it am I right?" so not really bragged about it but it felt obvious. As me and my then boyfriend were much more comfy with each other.

3.You drank coffee.

I think around age 11, when I went to boarding school. I have no prior knowledge of coffee before that time.

4.You found out about your fetishes.

Just before joining gD 4 years ago. I think it was always there, just not as clear.

5.You found a Dom or Miss, what went through your head?

A week or so after joining here. Unfortunately things didn't work out, because I'm such a needy person! He felt his work was more important than having a relationship with me. It was harsh. I can't remember my thoughts now. But I think I only wanted him to be happy. 4 years is a long time ago!

6.You injured yourself during a dare or got (almost) caught.

With my first Dom. I wasn't working at the time. He wanted me to spank myself. The first time I did that, my parents thought something bad had happened to me. I mentioned that I was going to nap as I wasn't "feeling well". Hah, let me tell you, I got the fright of my life! It sucks living with people and not being able to be noisy when I'm such a vocal person!

7.You enterd a serious relation ship with someone (not) sharing your interests.

My ex fiance! I realized I craved BDSM and kink. He was just into fucking / rough sex! Yes I loved it, when it happened, but I wanted and needed more!