[Hidden Desires]

Originally Posted by Wimble

Partly, but not entirely. In truth, most of these sites had very good moderation teams but were ultimately brought down by legal threats.

In some instances it was the web hosts who pulled the plug. So then the site owners would have to go shopping around for less reputable hosts in the fringes. And several times they got dicked over by cowboys and got exhausted and gave up the fight.

In the case of Absolutely.Exposed it was because of a draconian change of German law which started to aggressively target individuals publishing porn. To the extent that even individuals posting their own nudes on Twitter were being prosecuted. The German owner of AE just couldn't take the risk.

And an overriding theme was bad actors. People posting underage stuff, really extreme images, revenge porn, etc. A constant battle. And then non-consensual posting. Now I know that's something you plan to address with some sort of verification system, but I think you underestimate quite how frequently horny guys consent, cum, panic, and then withdraw consent. If they don't have a mechanism to immediately pull the plug then they start freaking out, reporting, and making legal threats.

Really, the gold standard for consensual verified exposure was Absolutely.Exposed. But that took a lot of work and even then it was scuppered by a society and legislature that doesn't like our kinks.

Fortunately, I am in a different country (though the US has it's own laws to navigate). Discord does allow NSFW communities, and consent is a big part of it. I think that the verification system will solve most of the issues.

I actually have a mechanism in place for those who decide to withdraw consent. Part of being in the community is playing fairly. That means that if you pull consent, we will remove the photo, but you risk being banned from the community. This would ensure that someone who isn't going to play "fairly" doesn't ruin anyone else's fun, while still providing that out to people that got in over their heads.

Specifically there will be a policy that would give the exposed and exposer a chance to work something out if they do wish to continue playing. Something akin to an agreement to complete a dare or task in exchange for removal. If they come to an agreement, they can remove the photo and the exposed can continue to be apart of the community. If they can't, then we will continue with the removal process for the photo, and remove the exposed from the community.