[kurious kat]

As gD's self-proclaimed Queen of the Ruins, I'd argue that ruins have an effect that is distinct from either edging or a proper orgasm.

Edging:

• Leaves you flooded with desire and eager for more.
• For both genders, ongoing edging tends to lead to strong, unanticipated bursts of arousal from even very light stimulation.
• It can disrupt rest (waking up too horny to get back to sleep), and build frustration (causing grumpiness or impaired judgement) when done long-term.
• For many women, constant edging may eventually lead to decreased sexual interest after a period of weeks or months, although this effect appears less common among men.

Orgasms:

• Leave you relaxed and flooded with pleasure.
• They can encourage rest, and relieve frustration.
• They also tend to reduce your taste for sexual riskiness for the near future, causing a sort of sensual reset that removes the appeal of pushing boundaries.

Ruined orgasms:

• May take the edge off in terms of insomnia, but retain that sense of desperate need.
• They still encourage adventurousness, as the near-orgasm just dribbles away without providing the anticipated relief.
• Many people are able to have multiple ruined orgasms before running dry, depending on the individual and the method used.
• When finished, emotional downswings are common.
• For either gender, a ruined orgasm will not usually relieve horniness (or does so only minimally), so they can still be easily aroused and remain eager to please at the next opportunity.

Whether a ruined orgasm counts as an orgasm is largely context-dependent, and should probably be determined by the people involved. For denial, ruined orgasms are often seen as a body reset without allowing for a mental reset. In other contexts, they may be seen as orgasms that just happened to suck.