[PeakingBlinder]

I struggle with things and every couple of months will hit a very rough, dark patch, where I struggle to cope with things both kinky and none kinky.

Some doms/dommes are understanding of this, more are not, I've found. But, I do have a somewhat consistent domme who is wonderfully understanding and helpful - and that comes from having the trust and friendliness that doesn't always need kink. It isn't a full on relationship, but enough to help when things get bad.

However difficult it is find a master/mistress/dom etc. that is a good fit for you in terms of kink, you do need to consider the fit beyond that - most immediately with aftercare. How much aftercare do you need, and are you getting that? What do you need in your aftercare?