The complete question is:
"Should Subs express their feelings freely?
Or should they be more careful about the way they express their Sub drop and various negative emotions that can happen, because it might make the Doms feel guilty or lead them to have a Dom drop?"
Put this way, the alternative is among "expressing the feeling freely" and "be careful" not to "make the Doms feel guilty or lead them to have a Dom drop", and for me the first is the right answer. The alternative could be even dangerous.
I agree with who pointed about the choice of the right moment to express freely, but, that said, we are talking about consensual and healthy D/s relationships, so there must be no inhibition or shyness about telling the whole naked truth, for several reasons.
In random order:
A D/s relationship must be based upon trust and sincerity, and they couldn't exist if something is withheld or minimized.
The Dom is responsible to the sub, and for this needs to know the sub's feelings, then it's up to the Dom the choice about how much to keep them in consideration, as is the choice for the sub how much to bear if they haven't. But, for both, it has to be a choice, not a, more or less, unaware mistake.
The Dom shouldn't feel guilty or have a Dom drop because he/she did something that made the sub have bad feelings, but should for sure feel guilty and have a Dom drop if that happened because he/she neglected to take care to know such feelings, or, worst, inhibited or prohibited the sub to express her/his feelings.
Last, but not least, sharing such feelings is, for both, a very important point of awareness to develop a consciousness about how each one lives his/her role and improve the relationship.
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