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Originally Posted by herpderp42
Okay, let me start with oen of the later questions:
If you go to the edge and accidentally go too far, you can still 'simply' stop stimulation. This normally leads naturally to a ruined orgasm; or if you are lucky it wasn't too late after all and you avoid the orgasm altogether.
I did say simply because the action required is rather simple, but the necessary willpower required can be the higher hurdle.
And I do suspect that the problem of you 'end up orgasming' is related to this willpower. I suppose going slower and maybe less focusing on the edge but on teasing BEFORE getting to the edge could help?
I do have some kind of saying: "Self-control is often easier if you take the self out of it": maybe you can participate on here in some form of threads or similar which helps make you feel accountable for your edging? It can be as simple as just finding somebody you don't want to disappoint.
Next about the hand-free orgasms: hands-free doesn't mean stimulation free, right? So shouldn't ruin an orgams work in the same way; just stop the stimulation? It is probably a good idea to avoid handfree stimualtion because edging with your fingers gives you much more subtle control and allows to easier adjust the strength/ speed/ intensitiy and also stop easier.
Last about the wetness: Embrace it! 
I can't help with that too much, the people I played with always handled thos eissues themselfes. But thicker panties and maybe not choosing your favourite ones if you are extra leaky could help lessen the impact. Something like a sanitary towel (dunno if that term is correct, I had to use some internet-translation) sounds helppful aswell.
I hope you keep enjoying your journey of horniness and denial.  |
Hi herpderp42, thank you for your very informative reply, I appreciate it. Also cute bear pic.
Firstly, that makes sense, I think I need to practice realizing when I'm close to orgasm and stopping. Sometimes it's too easy for me to keep going trying to reach that ultimate edge and I go over but stopping seems like a frustrating way to deal with that... This will take some experimentation.
Your second point is also true, I suspect I have very low will power for this kinda thing. That also makes sense, I do end up going faster after the first edge and then I go feral... I will look into teasing more too. It will help me also understand when I'm close and could be interesting to stop before I actually edge. This is something I hadn't thought about.
About self-control yeah, it is so much easier if there's something/someone besides myself to potentially let down. That's another valid point. I have seen some of those threads here and they are wild! As for someone, I'm not quite ready for that yet but another thing to keep in mind.
So about the hands free orgasms, that's true. While I don't touch myself in anyway my mind can make me orgasm just with all the stimulating thoughts and how horny I already am. But I know it's possible to redirect your thoughts, painfully. The fingers suggestion is another good idea, with a vibrator it's harder to predict and easy to go over. Especially for me!
Ah thanks for that last part too, I asked this mainly because I've had issues when I leak too much and it ends up showing sometimes on what I'm wearing which I don't really want out in public! But you've made me think of period panties which would be a lot nicer than pads.
Thank you, and thanks for all the ideas and wisdom. I will try not to get too frustrated!
