As someone working in an area were I have a lot contact with situations like that I can see the appeal at first glance. A lot people in extreme situations can fall into using pain and self harm as a form of relief or trying to "feel at least something". And compared to some other things BDSM may be a lot less harmful long term.
That does in no means make it a good solution!
In situations like that what a person needs is help and deal with what hurt them, not to dull the feeling by overpowering it with more extreme feelings. Ignoring the cause will make things worse on the long run!
Masochism is not therapy!
And to the other side, as an sadist myself, I have to say if you feel like you need to hurt someone because you feel hurt or out of channelling anger you are showing very bad behaviour going into the area of abuse! And are the reason why sadism can have the bad view from the outside. Get help!
Sadism is not therapy!
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