Hah, I do actually miss the days when there were rules to being a Dominant. :P And here we go with a back when I was a kid, walking through the snow 9 miles to the bdsm club barefoot...
but in all seriousness there was a good point in time prior to the internet where Doms-to-be would shadow other Doms... the only way to meet anyone in the lifestyle was at lifestyle clubs... so people actually had to work off the reputation they earned.
It's something we've lost in this post-internet-age. I question fairly regularly if this has made the lifestyle less safe and more of just a sex playground...
Either way, it's a good post
Thanks.