[IceMaiden]

Is it cruel? It depends on the context. If my Dom were to give me a task or order and I followed it to the best of my abilities and the result wasn't what he wanted and so he told me he was disappointed in me, then yes, that would be cruel. I am only human and can only give my best effort. If he told me he was disappointed in the result that would be completely different. Sometimes things don't work out as we plan and that's totally okay. It's not okay to minimise my effort and obedience.

Now if I were to deliberately not follow a rule or not give my best effort to an order and he then told me he was disappointed in me, no that's not cruel. Why wouldn't he be if I wasn't trying? And if he didn't tell me how he felt how can I make sure it doesn't happen again? I would be unaware of how he felt and we wouldn't be communicating and if that keeps happening for fear of hurting my feelings we're both going to get hurt somewhere down the road.