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iSpuds · 09-25-2018, 04:44 PM

If there is one thing I've learned it's that you cannot manage your sub's feelings. Lying by omission is still lying. Neglecting to tell your sub when they have disappointed you does your sub no favors. And, if your sub endeavors to make you feel guilty for being honest about how you feel, then that is a problem.

These relationships are exchanges. In exchange for one's dominance and the emotional and physical labor to erecting structure within a relationship, a sub is expected to follow rules, carry out demands, and be serviceable to their Dom. Sometimes we fuck up, Dom or sub. We will apologize. But an apology doesnt always fix things. Best efforts dont always fix things. Expressing disappointment, founded by a desire to sus out what went wrong and to restructure things to help your sub succeed in the future, is not cruel. It's communication.

09-25-2018, 04:44 PM	#4
iSpuds Starchy Sadist Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 921 Blog Entries: 43	If there is one thing I've learned it's that you cannot manage your sub's feelings. Lying by omission is still lying. Neglecting to tell your sub when they have disappointed you does your sub no favors. And, if your sub endeavors to make you feel guilty for being honest about how you feel, then that is a problem. These relationships are exchanges. In exchange for one's dominance and the emotional and physical labor to erecting structure within a relationship, a sub is expected to follow rules, carry out demands, and be serviceable to their Dom. Sometimes we fuck up, Dom or sub. We will apologize. But an apology doesnt always fix things. Best efforts dont always fix things. Expressing disappointment, founded by a desire to sus out what went wrong and to restructure things to help your sub succeed in the future, is not cruel. It's communication. __________________ No, I do not want to be your Mistress. No, I do not want to be your slave. So don't PM me about it! Likes, Limits, and Fantasies (click) A Domme with a Monkey. The Monkey, the Potato, and the Book of Truth (AMA) My PM Dares are Offline. I don't participate in unsolicited PM dares, so don't ask. "iSpuds used to be an onion before she realized that she wanted a simpler, layer free life. Gordon Ramsey himself agreed to perform the surgery, but when Nigella Lawson walked in during the middle of the procedure with a bottle of scotch, things went awry. Waking up as an iOS kernel trapped in a potato's body, iSpuds successfully sued the Food Channel for 13 quintillion Zimbabwe Shillings, and now lives in an exclusive, nano-sliver coated vegetable crisper." *-Runesmith* "On a scale of 1-10, what's your favorite color of the Alphabet?" "Prismarine!"