[Butterfly]

Originally Posted by IceMaiden

Don't rush into it!! It's exciting and scary and new and normal to want it to happen fast but use your head and common sense before your heart.

I think this is the best advice! I met Mr. Devious after only 3 months, but we had spent almost every day on the phone with each talking for HOURS as well as being in contact through messages throughout the day. We frequently fell asleep on the phone together. I saw photos and videos of him and his family. I really felt confident that he could not have hidden an ulterior motive for that long.

It does happen. There are bad people out there who will put the time and effort into making you feel comfortable, but a lot of the time, predators want to seal the deal in a short amount of time. That is why rushing is NOT a good idea. Taking your time, learning about them, asking questions, sharing information is all a way to weed out the bad people.