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Hi, I’m Hazel and I’m a 38 year old female, happily married with two young kids. I like music, socialising, history and art. I’m not here because I want to be some kind of dare slave or share photos or anything like that.

I was recently talking to an old school friend about some parties we went to in our early teens at which we spent many hours playing spin the bottle dares. They where truly exciting times when we where learning about ourselves, each other and our sexuality. We did things we liked, things we hated and things we liked but pretended we hated. The dares started almost pathetically simple and got really quite raunchy, doing things our parents really wouldn’t have approved of.

Funny enough both my friend and I feel that some of those dare “tasks” left an imprint of our lives. He for example had something happen that made him go very shy, and I certainly had a few experiences that I revisited in my sex life years later. but we did all get to know each other much, much better!

It’s interesting seeing all your dares on here even if some seem very unrealistic. I don’t think I could ever do the full dare thing again but I do sometime dare myself to do things and could possibly let someone make some choices as part of my own dares.

I would be interested to talk to other people who feel that early dares have shaped their lives in anyway, good or bad. I can't help but wonder if some of the dares I set my friends in those early years scared them for life lol

First of all, welcome to getDare. This is not just a place where prepubescents pretending to be 18 share unrealistic dares (and where others share equally unrealistic and imaginary reports on how they did those dares, often with no understanding of anatomy and physiology) and mostly made up AMA answers, but it is also a venue for discussion.

Everything we experience in our lives leaves an imprint; the more intense the experience, the stronger the imprint. From what you shared, it seems to me that the "tasks" you did as part of TorD games in your teen years left a bigger imprint than you care to admit. As for your friend - if a single task "made him go very shy" it must have been extremely traumatizing. So in that sense, the games you played must have been rather more intense than what the intervening years make them seem.

I have only studied psychology as a stepping stone to a more worthwhile degree, so please take my opinions with a generous helping of NaCl. What I tend to believe is that non-extreme experiences in general do not change social behaviour of people in significant ways unless there was already an underlying personality trait that facilitated it.

So there are some interesting things to consider. For example, were you and your friend the only people who had lasting impact from those days? Did you already have a behaviour trait trending towards excitation from risk even before you started playing TorD?

Interesting, I'm only in touch with a couple of those people so don't really know how it effected them. i may pm you