This chat command GD has gave me an idea, I'll make a dice command on my discord bot whenever I have some time to kill and the energy to do it.

Sub drop is a lot similar to after alcohol feelings for me, today I just realized another similarity, when I get that post alcohol chemical depression I get the urge to drink again, similarity when I get this Sub drop I can get pain cravings.

Every time I get close to my period people start calling my nipples puffy lol

getDare really wants to limit my gratitude... why can't I thank blog posts? Or comments on them?

I don't know if I could ever do something BDSM IRL, people who are able to do that are... very brave. How can you ever trust someone that much ? People can show you themselves in their best light but end up being an abuser or worse, you just never know. And while that's true for most relationships, in BDSM you'd be at their mercy if you happened to be wrong. Helpless at the hands of some of the most sadistic minds that exist, and who spent extensive amounts of time studying and improving the art of making someone suffer, furthermore they would know everything about what can hurt you personally, how terrifying is that ? I only "met" (online) two people in my whole life that I vaguely considered the idea of giving up control to for real, that I felt like I trusted enough, even then it's not a full blind trust, and I never felt that way about anyone I met IRL. It's very impressive that people find matches that they are able to give themselves to that way, it's really kind of admirable that they are even willing to take risks and try for themselves to find that person.

One simple word TRUST ... Once your trust your partner then it works ....when you don't it can not

Sometimes people trust their partner and they are wrong, even in vanilla couples or friendships, sometimes they only see their true colors after years.

Absolutely true .....

Unfortunately that's life

You can have the perfect partner , and then the trust is gone

Or a not so great play partner and 100% trust

Its a strange world

Very true that sometimes people are wrong about what people are like, however if someone is really into BDSM both Trust and Safety play a big part of the experience which should help negate the risk.

You need trust to know that the person has your best interests in mind, you also need safety aspect too.
Quite a lot of newbies miss this part because they expect BDSM to be like the porn they watch.

In real life you need to know a lot of safety features.

In planned hookups, I'd always expect and encourage someone to tell someone else about the meet. Also have a prep meeting before to discuss limits etc and a little catchup after to make sure everything was okay (aftercare).

I know it's not as hot as walking into a room, stripping someone naked and getting down to it, but it is needed.

Theres a lot of safety you have to consider and learn too.

E.g. The fastest way to untie someone from all the knots you've done via rope play, if they have a freak out or say the safe word (always have a safe word and I'd encourage practicing it, even when safe.)

If someone doesn't respect a safe word when things are safe, they definitely aren't going to respect it when you want to stop.

Obviously some people will prefer the 'unplanned' sexiness of it all, unfortunately its the same people that have bad experiences with BDSM.

I find the normalisation of deviance over time rather scary as it can push you to increasingly risky behaviours, but also incredibly exciting.

My orgasms sometimes are too intense for my own good, I feel like I'm having a seizure not an orgasm, I think I just hurt my injured knee tensing up and twisting like I'm possessed.

I've yet to find a heterosexual f/m BDSM fiction that doesn't give me a bitter after taste, not that I looked a lot, but I think that's why I default to reading gay and lesbian ones.

J'en ai tellement plein les couilles...

C'est surement qu'il est temps de s'en battre les couilles, aussi bien littéralement que de manière figurative :p

I tried to take a new picture representing a BDSM scene for my album, but in the process I gave myself some serious wedgies. Like it was supposed to be "just for the picture" but it took a few tries and I ended up with a sore... the area between my pussy and anus, which wasn't really the goal 😆