sara92

Is that a no then ma'am?

hey Sara,
looking for someone to play with?
PM me if you feel like having some fun this morning

sara92 said: yeah, I get all that, we have lives and this has to come second. So it sounds like you want more one time dares and not a Master/Mistress at all.

I get what you are trying to tell me now....
I'm such a dolse...
The message in the signature is intended to make the people who keep sending me PMs asking if I want "a slave" or things to that effect from clogging my in box.

sara92 said: yeah, I get all that, we have lives and this has to come second. So it sounds like you want more one time dares and not a Master/Mistress at all.

Close, I can do more than just a "one time thing". You know, have ongoing banter with someone who is more of a switch. Or possibly team up with someone to double tag some really submissive looser with no self esteem who will let us do that sort of thing to her. Sure.

That's another thing about me....I'm more of a switch than anything. So I like to be the Mistress sometimes. But if your just completely Domme, that's fine, as long as I can play with someone else who can "suit me" when I want.

(Gawd, BB code not allowed on visitor messages, what else am I going to have to work around in this place)

Speaking of my real life, I have some real work to do...
And you already said you have gotten the two major points...and so I may or may not continue this later.

But really, what I am trying to say is...I don't do "long term" BDSM commitments.
And I don't do the kind of relationship where the only thing the other person has to offer is they are in charge and I am "totally at their mercy".

That kinda sounded cool when I first heard about it a few years back, but I've (well, i can't really say I've been there done that) looked into it and tested the waters...and that particular lake just isn't my place to swim.

There are others things depending on me as well, and being at someone elses mercy puts those things at that persons mercy also.
Besides, real-time should never be "at the mercy" of online-time.

Point is, I don't want to get caught up in any "requirements" that have a realistic potential of jeopardize my real life.

Granted, I could just lie...and type what ever I want to a message board or chat room. But that kind of defeats the whole point of an "online" experience. I like to emulate things. If I say I'm shoving a cucumber covered with icy hot up my cunt, that's what I am doing.

But you will never hear me say I'm going to eat it afterwords...or do any of that off the wall "Two Girls and a Cup" stuff...because I wont...and no one is going to make me....that's just how it is.

It's kind of like saying "no permanent" as a limit; except in this case "permanent" is flexable because it depends a lot on circumstance and what would permanently affect my real life in the real world with real people.

Not that you're not real...but you know what I mean.

For example, on May 22nd, I did this thing for the "Holding It" message board I actually made up myself and did with a friend.

http://holdingit.minuteboard.com/m/b...d=51349&nr=139

We held our pee a full 24 hours, and drank 106 oz. of beverages over the course of the day. It was a work day for both of us. I did a technologies presentation at sponsored seminar. And she taught her physics classes. So we ended up holding bladders right through meetings and presentations while trying to act like nothing was wrong.

But in that case, it wasn't BDSM, there was no Domme/sub-role, so we had the option to back out if we needed to.
Even though we continued the game through "public" with the risk of getting caught; I knew what I could handle and wasn't in real danger of "loosing it" until after I'd gotten home.
I wouldn't have done it if I was being "ordered"; and/or really thought I'd wet myself in the middle of a presentation, cause that's just foolish.

2.) Ill thought, self-destructive punishments, that could permanently impact my body or my real life in some way.

There is no such things as, for example,"not allowing me to leave my house" when I have a job to go to in the real world.
Same goes for asking me to do, or not do, anything that would seriously impact my real-life in a way that's just not worth online reasons.

Of course, I am willing to be flexible too - so if I can figure out a way to emulate or do an "alternative equivalent" that doesn't really affect my real life (or the real body I live it with) in any significant way...then I'll consider.

1.) Long Term BDSM commitments online - I don't get caught up in those.

Some people come to the net because in real-life they are losers and so online is the only way they can have a life.
Everyone looks sexy in photo shop, as the saying goes.
But, I'm not one of those people. I have a real life, a real job, and at times a "real-time" b/f or g/f (or both).
I come to the net for "occasional extra fun" in addition to (not at the expense of) my real life.

I'm not getting into any type of online relationship that involves long term, online, "marriages" "commitments" "contracts" "collars" etc.,.

And I'm especially not going to have one where an online Mistress expects me to meet her online, or report to her, at "specified times" over the course of days, weeks, or months - at the expense of my offline/real-time/real-world commitments and social life.
Or to do anything else that could negatively impact the social and occupational functioning I currently enjoy in the real-world.

You asked what I mean by "flexible".
Basically, I've had run ins with people before (mostly on Chatropolis.com) that expect one or more of the following that I just don't so.

(This site limits to 1000 characters, so i am breaking these up into multiple posts)