An excellent post! I wish more people would acknowledge the utter wisdom in it and live by it.
To me, it clearly shows you're a real Human.

Yep! Although there's also consensual non-consent. But that too needs to communicate well and up front and should only be done by people who know and trust each other so well.

Nice pragmatic post and full of truth!

Mark

Amazing post

Mark

I can also agree from the receiving side. someone taking away the control and bullying the plan into something "worse" can be a really amazing experience.

Also, beware of perkygirlie XD or try to ignore she is around XD

Absolutely!

(gD says my message is too short, I however think it is quite the right length)

Every thread looking for tasks ... punishments ... or dares should always include a safe word just like in the real world ... and when it becomes too much ... that safe word should be uttered without the fear of punishment or retribution.

When it all comes down to it ... the sub/slave is responsible for their own safe ... you always have a safe word even if you're with someone you trust ... why wouldn't you also have it when giving up control to a hoard of strangers?

A safe word is something we all understand and respect ... (or at least we all should).

You used the magic word. The most important thing in any Dom/sub relationship: "Care"

Beautifully exposed and explained. Thank you very much

Have fun, stay safe, and take care.

Sorry to hear about your brother. And, I hear you on the realizing that family members are not as well put together as they may seem.

I hope things do open up soon so that you can start meeting with the groups again.

Also, thanks for sharing, this and your many other posts.

Honestly, it took me years to get my own therapist; in fact, I only got one in March. You know that song "Somebody I Used to Know" where they had that line, "You get used to a certain kind of sadness?" Well, I see depression that way. It's hard for a lot of people, including myself to see a life outside of depression, especially as many of us have faced it and looked it in the eye for decades.

However, I would say, as hesitant as you may be to 1 on 1 therapy, at this point, if you are getting desperate, give it a try. But, I suggest, doing some research on the therapists if you can, and on the clinic. Like, before I approached the clinic I'm at now, I actually searched by location, then by specialty. For example, there are many different types of therapy (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy are just the tip of the iceberg). Then, if you can, make the call.

I'd say, I would keep with the coaches in the meantime if you can, especially as they seem to be helping you very well, and hold out for the group therapy, but with a step in place for 1 on 1 just in case. The key is getting yourself the help you need, and it's okay and perfectly valid to use different resources to build up your armor to fight against a monster such as depression is.

I don't know as much about mental health treatment in your country, but one thing you can try, if finances aren't an issue, is Better Help. Or possibly see if there are some charities that can help you/offer therapy services. You'd be surprised what you can find with an internet search.

Some other useful tips that have helped me, and may help you. Bullet journaling/journaling. I have noticed that it's hard for me to talk to my doctor or even my therapist about issues, especially as they fall out of my head as soon as I enter their office or even join the virtual meeting. However, having a bullet journal (typed up in my case, though it could be written in yours) has been very helpful. It allows me to track things such as ideation, depressive dives, summaries of the week. Why do I do this? Because it helps my therapist or doctor tailor treatment that is best for me. It also allows me to look back and track my growth.

You just have to find what works best for you. <3 Please take care of yourself. Fighting depression is never easy, and progress is never a straight line. Practice some self care if you can and remember that you have people who care about you both on and offline. It's hard at times to remember that in our darkest hours.

And once again, thank you for sharing this. It has always been a pleasure to read your blog entries, and I have always learned something new from them.

I am sad to hear that you are feeling the pressure.
Take care of yourself.

Find some kind of outlet - and 1 on 1 can be very very useful once you get past "hello." It is their daily work to help people take that step.

It is different in every country, but I know a couple of colleagues who found online (Zoom/Skype) counselor (one was only to direct to other resources) and group sessions in a few days. The group sessions can of course be anywhere when they are online!

I am not going to debate perceptions or data taken out of context or I will only say that there are theories and scientific truths just as they can both clarify with the theory of evolution and the scientific truth of that the earth is round (egg-shaped for purists) genes are so important that I don't see as a non-binary that rejects biological gender and be male by chromosome having a baby.

I respect the declaration of identity and I recognize the rights of everyone to enjoy the short time of existence on this planet in the way they want without harming others, I do not even comment with the intention of convincing anyone but I do appeal to reason and logic.

The problem is that there are biological gender and psychological gender
So many people made gender about how it affects you mentally and socially that having people that don't want to be mixed with those stereotypes and behaviours they expect from them.

Some women want the freedom men have. Some men want the sexual atraction women have.

It's all about what you want and picking and. Chosing what you want to be

In other words. Just live and let others fuck as they wish. Or behave as they wish, or identify as they wish. Or be who they want to be

This is a great blog post.

Since you asked if you forgot anything important for sexuality, in #6, you say sexuality doesn't change much or quickly, but that isn't the case for abrosexual people, which is basically "genderfluid" but for sexuality.

Techie biológical gender is simple, not perfect but simple as day and night and light off and on, not becose we have eclipses or cloud days we are gonna ignore the scientific fact that the earth is round and the sun come by the east making a binary sistem of day AND night, the survival of the species aré Grounded in the female and male chromosomes and although there are mutations in the chromosomes and we are constantly evolving you can't ignore this fact, one thing is what we wish for and another is what life put us ahead

You think my comment is homophobic when it's scientific, and that way you pigeonhole me into a binary system because I'm either homophobic or not, bad taste? .... i I give you that. But as you said, we all have a biological gender and we cannot deny it from there if they like to call themselves third gender if they like to use to identify with babies or horses or furniture Damn thats why we are here not to judge and accept those differences only always without losing contact with reality.

I've heard of two-spirit and as a "third" gender, but "gamma" is a new one for me. Is that something that you came up with? I wasn't able to find anything with a quick google search. Either way, I think its a cool idea. (Just don't forget about us non-trinaries )