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Posing

Posted 06-11-2018 at 12:14 PM by CSasha

I still have the blog about why people claim to be another sex or gender. I think I still bother with the topic because I do. In daily life I pose as a man. Even as gay, due to my husband. I don't say I was a man or gay but I know most people assume and I don't correct them. Sometimes I pose as a sissy though I know I ain't. I have fun with playing one but it ain't me. I am not a woman neither and still I sometimes pose as that.

Because I am not one nor the other. But often enough I am sick of correcting, confusing, or educating others. Sometimes I just want to be and be accepted right at the moment without having to explain myself.

Sometimes all that bi-gendered sexism makes me angry like crazy. And then maybe sorry for that now and then, but fuck it: If you make different rules for boys and girls, men and women, or "only for ...", then sometimes I just pick what I want. And especially if you message me or start playing with me because of things you assume, without having looked into one of the many blog entries I have written about it or the details I put into my profile, well, then sometimes, you are fair game to me as long as I want. Because sometimes I am too sick to care. That's for later. I never lied though but I may have left out details that would have hinted at your mistake.

So sorry, no sorry, later sorry.
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  1. Old Comment
    Butterfly's Avatar
    Maybe I go about it the wrong way, but if I write something like "Females can add x and males can add x", then I am leaving it up to the person who is responding to choose how they identify. If you have a penis, yet you choose to identify as a female, please feel free to follow the rule as a female. However, if you go around identifying as male and then all of a sudden choose to participate as a female for this one post so that you can follow the female rule, I will not be happy.

    I don't think I have the right to define what a female is. I will leave that up to others.
    Posted 06-11-2018 at 02:53 PM by Butterfly Butterfly is offline
  2. Old Comment
    CSasha's Avatar
    Thanks very much. I assume that's the way it is meant though I only for some people for whom this is true. Don't feel too bad just because I am angry. We are talking. We are all sexist including me, and it's not even our fault. That's the way we grew up and I guess it even gets less and less with every new generation (based on looking at history).

    Unfortunately, this bi-gender dismisses a small percentage who don't identify with it. Just saying (and educating), making one or the other "all others" or "men and others" or "women and others" may be better. Depends who you ask. Non-male-nor-female people are pretty diverse in my experience.

    Making the difference is sexist. Not that you have to change it. It's like the different gendered dorms and toilets. Historical burden. If you acknowledge that there are around 10% homosexual people, then the reason to not be peaked or sexually aproached becomes invalid if it's just about that instead of consent and manners, doesn't it?

    But I'd like to challenge making this difference anyway. What difference does it make to you (or other persons, or us in general)? Just asking to put it on the table.
    Heterosexual doesn't mean you are attracted by any member of the opposite sex. But I admit, we all have our preferences so I guess that it's more of a filter against what you definitely don't want (like the same sex in this example).
    Frankly, I see sexism on the same level as racism though it's probably more socially accepted. If I'd write "black people can ...", would that be similar? And I am saying this having a curious-preference on that.

    Many many thanks for the comment, Butterfly. I have to admit talking about sexism makes me less angry and more acceptent to how we are and which preferences we have.
    Posted 06-11-2018 at 03:05 PM by CSasha CSasha is offline
  3. Old Comment
    Blue Fox's Avatar
    Agreed that it is a historical problem with how people are raised. We grow up thinking binary. Yes, no. Male, female. On, off. Light, dark. By the time we are introduced to shades of gray, so much of the binary is ingrained into us already. Eventually, I think that we as a society will stress binary less and be more open to the shades. Sadly, it does not happen fast enough.

    I have to say I am also guilty of thinking in binary out of habit. It's not any deliberate slight. There's also an under emphasis and education on all the various shades.

    Heterosexual.
    Bisexual.
    Homosexual.
    Asexual.
    Pansexual.
    Transexual.

    I'm sure there are others, as well. It does get a little confusing on the ones we do not encounter much. Again, in time, I think that this will be taught more and at earlier ages.
    Posted 06-11-2018 at 03:32 PM by Blue Fox Blue Fox is offline
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    Jaro's Avatar
    I must confess that I sometimes do not know how to refer to you: as she or he. I find myself using both forms and somehow I am assuming that this is what you want because you identify as both and neither.

    But I feel you totally. It really must suck to keep explaining that there IS such a thing as non-binary and gender fluid.
    Posted 06-12-2018 at 09:15 AM by Jaro Jaro is offline
  5. Old Comment
    CSasha's Avatar
    For now that she works fine. I am here as Cassandra in person.
    Actually, the gender I am transitioning into will be it.

    Many thanks for being sensitive to this topic.

    Love you all
    Posted 06-12-2018 at 09:41 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline
  6. Old Comment
    Butterfly's Avatar
    I actually have been training myself to refer to anybody by "they" or the persons name, especially on getDare, unless it specifically says their gender on their profile. It is so hard to know by just a name or avatar whether somebody is female, male or identifies as something completely separate. So unless I know for sure, I try to be non specific.
    Posted 06-12-2018 at 09:44 AM by Butterfly Butterfly is offline
  7. Old Comment
    CSasha's Avatar
    Cudos. Very thoughtful of you, Butterfly.
    Posted 06-12-2018 at 11:18 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline
  8. Old Comment
    Blue Fox's Avatar
    I'd rather use the name vs "they" just because, in my rule oriented mind (I'd like to say my being anal, but on this site that can be taken differently!), "they" is plural and I'm referring to singular. Has a gender neutral singular term been generated? See, that's another issue that isn't necessarily cultural, but linguistical. We don't necessarily have the terms (or they are not well known) for gender neutral references all the time. Namely for the singular case.

    But, linguistics can follow culture, so if culture starts to refer to things without gender then genderless (gender neutral) terms will evolve, right?

    … Hope that make sense and I don't seem obstinate or anything.
    Posted 06-12-2018 at 03:12 PM by Blue Fox Blue Fox is offline
  9. Old Comment
    Twisted Kitten's Avatar
    Like, for me, getdare is the only place I can truly be myself. Where I can actively identify as solely female, as trans, without judgment. Outside of getdare, I publicly identify as pansexual, and genderfluid. This is because our wife comes from a homophobic familly, so whenever around them, or on Facebook, I'll tend to portray myself as male, even tho I'm trans, male to female.

    In doing this, posing as male, I can keep our wife's familly from questioning our relationship. I find that much easier than trying to explain to them that love is emotional, mental. Not physical. And that sex is not required to love someone unconditionally. (Our wife is asexual)
    Posted 06-13-2018 at 10:13 PM by Twisted Kitten Twisted Kitten is offline
  10. Old Comment
    420jenni's Avatar
    The queer-tier is the top-tier, Cass!!
    And heck yes on the sissy stuff, I'm trans but still love sissy play because well... it's FUN and it's HOT!!
    Posted 06-19-2018 at 08:21 PM by 420jenni 420jenni is offline
 

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