So You Want To Request A Dare?

It's Tuesday night, you've had a long day down at the strip mine, and all you want to do is lay back, drink a beer, and have someone tell you what to do.

Before You Even Try To Think About Asking For A Dare

When you are looking to be dared/given a task, you need to remember a few important factors:

• You are attempting to interact with another human being. As such, because all human beings are subjective creatures, they will not have an identical copy of your understanding of the world.
• This means that you will need to make sure that you have some information for them to assist with creating the dare. Examples are a signature or profile with likes/dislikes/limits, a PM (Private Message) with your likes/dislikes/limits, a post or thread with your likes/dislikes/limits.
• If you are looking to have anal dares, you need to make sure to specify that you want your bum stuffed like a stateside turkey come November. This applies to all of your likes, or dislikes if you are in need of punishment.
• If you aren't looking to have a specific dislike tested, or if one of your likes just don't give you what you want tonight, mention that.
• While you could very well get away with sending a dare request using less than five words ("Hurt me, thank you sir."), make the effort to avoid such brevity.
• And of course, always remember to thank the person for their time. You need not call them "sir"/"madam", but it doesn't hurt to stroke an ego if you're looking to get some flames.

Patience Isn't A Dislike

So you've sent off your dare request, made your thread, or something in that area, right? Now what, you say? You wait.

No, that was not long enough of a wait. Again, you're dealing with another human being. They have their own lives, and schedules. If you cannot wait more than an hour to get a dare, you should be looking for preconfigured dares in the dare section.

If your thread doesn't get any replies within an hour, but the forum is active (roughly between 9 and 22, GMT-8, with a minor bit of slowness happening between 13 and 18 GMT-8) and your thread ends up sinking, it likely is not attractive enough to the community. Wait longer, and see if anyone else becomes interested in it at a later point in the day.

If your PM does not get a reply within an hour, but the person appears to be active (they are listed as active in their profile, you see posts by them in the forum, etc), your PM may not have been interesting enough. Alternatively, they may be finishing updating posts that have built up since their last visit, and they haven't gotten to your PM. Wait longer, and see if they reply at a later point in the day.

The shortest time you should expect a response is one day. Anything shorter than that is just good luck on your part. After a day, you can start thinking about trying to track down another person or way to get a dare. Just remember that some people won't be on every day, so in the case of PMs it may be days before you get a reply. For a thread, if you don't get any replies within the first day, it is normally not going to get any replies. There are exceptions to this, but do not expect to be an exception.

Got Dare!

When you do finally get a reply, make sure to read the reply completely before replying back unless the reply tells you to do otherwise. Often, I will require that someone read part of my dare, reply to me, and then read the rest. You may not understand why this might be, but that is because you haven't read the rest of the dare, or you are not psychotic enough to understand.

If there is any part of the dare that you cannot do because of a limit, reply to state this before accepting. If there is any part that you would like to have modified, reply and ask for a modification. You may suggest a modification, but be prepared to have to deal with the modification given.

Before You Start The Dare

After you have completely read the reply, you will reply to confirm that you have read it and that you accept it. You may also say you are starting the dare now, or you may tell them when you are starting the dare. The assumption will be, if you do not say, that you are starting the dare when you reply.

Now that you have yourself a dare, complete it (or fail to complete it, depending on how things go) and reply back to report. You do not need to write a novel, but a short story would not go amiss. Make sure to give any details required of you in the dare. Also try and add any details that you think are important, such as how you felt. Your goal is to try and make the other person understand that you did really complete the dare as requested.

Give feedback on the dare. If you liked it, make sure that is known. If you found it boring, that is useful to know as well. If you hated it, tell them why you hated it.

If you completed the dare, make sure you have completed any rewards that were give (unless these were specified as optional, then complete them at your own digression). Make sure to thank them for the dare. Do not ask for another at the same time unless the dare was extremely short.

If you failed the dare, make sure you have completed any punishment that were listed in the dare for failure to complete the dare before replying. Make sure to thank them for the dare, and then to ask for punishment because you were unable to complete the dare. Do not make excuses, as excuses do not excuse you from your commitment in this case.

If you won't be able to complete the dare, or you don't want to complete the dare, don't just ignore it. Instead, reply to tell them that you do not wish to complete the dare. Thank them for it, but ignore any punishment/other requests if you aren't interested in what they're offering you.

Conclusion

It isn't very difficult to get a good dare if you're willing to do your part. Now go out and enjoy all of the dares that you can possibly get!