If you already haven't, go and read BDSM vs. Abuse and Dear Sub.lucy: BDSM and Abuse which have inspired me. They are very good, interesting to read and point out some important issues.

I'd like to start with my observation that sexual orientation and preferences might be related to the past experiences, especially while growing up. You can find several articles on its change. But I need to pin down the most important statements for me:

1. Sexual orientation and preferences...

I have a very conservative and religious family. Sex is not discussed, ever. I was never given 'The Talk' but rather I figured out how sex worked on my own. I wasn't ever told about masturbation or why it was apparently bad (spoilers, it's not bad, masturbation is awesome). My mother hates the porn industry, hates sex scenes in movies, and hates it when women wear low cut tops on TV.

This made things a bit difficult when we started discussing Fifty Shades of Grey.

Many...

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