My Top Qualities in a Dom.

AM wanted me to write an essay on what I thought the top five qualities any Dom should have were. I said it would be difficult to squash it into only five and so he said I didn't have to restrict it to only five. So...I didn't.

What are the five top qualities ANY Master should have? Patience, understanding, respect, love and trust.

What are the top gazillion MY Sir should have? In no particular order:

1: Intelligence: If I am not asking for examples, clarifications, saying I don’t understand something, learning new things from my Sir then I am bored. I am now more intelligent than you are and this will not do. I can not submit to someone I can not learn from in -every- way and I can’t take you seriously when we discuss and debate because I will always be thinking why should I even listen to you when I am smarter. That may be hypocritical because I would surely be annoyed if it was applied in the reverse but it is what it is. If you want to dominate me, you better be smarter than me.

2: Creativity: If all you can do is give me the same task every time, if your idea of a creative task is “edge three times”...byyyyyee. I get bored easily. I get distracted easily. I lose interest rapidly if you bore me. If you want to dominate me you better hope you can keep me focused and entertained and constantly create new and different things for me to try.

3: Humour: If you can not laugh at yourself, I am bored. If you can not laugh at the things I say and do, I am bored. If you can not laugh at me, I am bored. If you can not laugh with me, I am bored. If you can not make me laugh I am extra bored! If you want to dominate me, you better hope you can make me laugh easily and often.

4: Kindness: If you get a kick out of laughing at those less fortunate than yourself, I don’t like you. If you are mean for the sake of being mean, I don’t like you. It takes nothing to be kind to others. If you are kind to me and a cunt to everyone else, I am going to lose interest quickly. And call you out on it. And say goodbye. (Except for shit where people fall over or walk into doors and stuff, cause that’s just funny.)

5: Patience: I am going to drive you insane. I am going to pout. I am going to whine. I am going to give you 10 reasons I don’t want to do something. I am going to give you another 20 reasons why I can’t do something. If you want to dominate me, you need to be patient. I don’t give that gift to just anyone and if you can’t be patient with me when I genuinely need it, you’re not worth giving it to.

6: Understanding: I have baggage. Who doesn’t? You need to understand and accept this and accept that sometimes I really can not do the things you ask me to. You need to understand the difference between my pouty “i don’t want to” and the very real “I can not do it.”

7: Reliability: If you tell me you will do something, I expect you to do it if you can. If I am giving up all of myself to you, then you better make sure I can rely on you as much as you rely on me.

8: Integrity: If you have no morals, if you care about nothing besides yourself, if you put yourself first every single time I am not interested. I have no interest in submitting to someone who is a selfish cunt.

9: Honesty: If you can’t be honest with me, I want nothing to do with you. There’s nothing worse than someone who claims they are honest and would never dream of lying who then does exactly that. Even if I won’t like what you have to say, you better be honest with me at all times.

10: Willing to learn: Nobody knows everything. Nobody ever will. If you want to dominate me, don’t make a fool of yourself by refusing to listen to other points of view or by refusing to try something new just because you automatically think your way is the only correct way. It isn’t.

11: Interested in more than sex/pics/nudes: If you can not talk to me about your day, be that what you did this morning, plans you have later or even what you plan to eat for dinner, I don’t want to know. There’s millions of porn videos and images online, if that’s all you care about than go and search for them.

12: Consistency: If you tell me something will happen for a specific reason, I expect it to. Even if I don’t like it, even if I complain and try to change your mind, I still expect it to happen. How am I supposed to know what is expected of me if I have no consistency?

13: Natural dominance: I am stubborn. I am a brat. I pout and say no and refuse. Sometimes I prefer for my submission to be taken rather than given in certain circumstances or scenes. If you are unsure, I will know. If you are hesitant, I will know. If you aren’t sure what to do next, I will know. If you aren’t sure how to handle me, I will know. And if you can’t demand that submission, if you can’t take it at those specific times, I am not interested. You’re not strong enough to handle me. If I don’t feel an aura of natural dominance from you, I can not submit to you.

14: Respect: Call me a whore, a slut, worthless, a cumdump. Bring me to tears and begging and mark my body with stripes. But afterwards you better be telling me how proud you are, how well I did and that you love me. If you don’t respect me, then I won't respect you. I can not submit to someone I do not respect.

15: Love: I’m needy and clingy and need telling I am wanted adored and loved often. If you can’t tell me these things then get lost. If I am giving everything to you then I expect everything back.

16: Trust: If I don’t trust you, I don’t respect you. If I don’t respect you, I can’t submit to you. If I doubt everything you say, then you are not worth my submission and I will find someone who is.

17: Good at communicating: Relationships are all about trust and communication. If I wanted to communicate with a wall, I have plenty in my house to talk to. If you want to dominate me, you need to be able to communicate everything with me. The good the bad the ugly the funny the heavy stuff the pointless stuff. All of it.

18: Reassurance: I am my own worst enemy. If I don’t do something -perfectly- my automatic reaction is that I have failed or been disappointing, even when I have tried my very best. You need to not only reassure me otherwise but make me -believe- it.

19: Supportive: If I tell you I want to start a new project, or try something different or that I am struggling with something I am trying to achieve, you need to be supportive. I will support you in all that you wish to do. I expect the same courtesy from you. If you can not support me and constantly try and tell me to do otherwise I am going to say goodbye. I deserve more than that.

20: Able to admit mistakes: If you ask me to do something and it was impossible or you say something hurtful without meaning to, I am going to respect you a heck of a lot more if you admit you made a mistake or didn’t think something through. We are both only human. If you never admit your mistakes and think you are so perfect that you never have and will never make any all I can say is...hahahahahaha.

These are the qualities my Sir must have. And I am extremely lucky he possesses all of them!