I'm pansexual and in a polyamory relationship. All my friends are queer, most of them also pansexual.
I know that some of my friends have preferences.... some are lesbians, so no penises.... some are gays, so only penises... But me being pansexual, I can't really understand their preferences. I like everyone and I can have sexual relations with anyone that really interest me... whatever their equipment or their gender identity.
I will talk to everyone because I'm civilised... some will end up being my friends.... I'll be sharing my body and my bed with a few. Others: no, nothing. Sorry.

I'm happy with who I am and with my life.
As long as your happy, that's all that matters to me.

Wow, you invest a lot of effort for the very first dare you give out to a new person. Respect!
I do it differently. I invent a dare that should be easy enough for everybody (off course I also look at the likes and limits of that person, that is the minimum I have to do), and still a little bit challenging. Only when I know, this person is worth it, because I like to chat with him or I like his report, then I start thinking more about it and investing more time and effort in even better and custom tailored dares.
But this is just a rough guideline. Sometimes I am really motivated and I spend 20 minutes to custom tailor a dare for a stranger. But only for some where it is clear that they already wrote some reports, so you can expect something from them.

Lots of goals and self improvement, best of luck with all of them!

There's a youtube video which hits your number 9 pretty much: "Tea and Consent"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ

It’sa pretty unique limit, and not one I’ve seen explicitly mentioned before. And I’m somewhat surprised it deserves an explicit call out, too - but I’ve always been more attracted to who a person is, personality, chemistry, etc. - which matters a lot more to feel close and connected in one way or another. I hope you’ll enjoy exploring with new open minded people in the time to come!

When I read the title, it’s certainly not what I expected - we all have people we don’t want to play with, and for me just attitude initially matters a lot, and what I exclude most people on.

If someone says "asl?" I immediately lose all of my interest *yawn*

I used to come across this on Omegle.
Stranger: A/S/L
Me: I'm age/sex/location
Stranger: left the conversation
Me:

you didnt give him a resumee of what you have done? i mean you are kind of a celebrity here

and i meant while talking to him. tell him that every time you say a certain word to him he is allowed to add cards. if he catches it tough luck.

Why dont you give your Keyholder a Keyword you can use with him. so he adds more Red cards

if you get horny you will most likely give him the Keyword and then screw yourself over constantly

TBH i am thinking on getting on chastity after reading your thread. its so.... fun i guess.

i gotta say Cass. this promise is beautiful. i always get inspired by you but damn are you creative.

i downloaded chastikey after reading one of your roulettes to se how bad was the damage we did last time. i dont think you are getting freed any time soon, and yet here you are doing something so... daring.

i think it should be for all Yellow cards .
i mean if the rule was given by them. they should know who you are and how easily you can do them.

Damn thats a sexy rule

tough i am pretty sure its something you would not mind.

Is 28 days your record or am I reading it wrong?

I want to say that I especially like the advice of making friends. I was lucky enough to have someone that gave me a chance and kind of introduced me to chat. I have made so many friends there that are both dominants and submissives. I think that it was the best introduction to kink that I could have gotten. I immediately had a support group and people that I could learn from and talk to. I met my Master in the chat and we oftentimes hold our play in the chat for everyone to watch.

Very well written again, I love reading your blogs! You give great advice, it's indeed important to join in and interact - and not just expect to be given things.

Well done!

Great advice Cass. As always! You are really the getDare guru here!

One thing I'd like to add is that kinky slavery (as opposed to ancient, Roman-type slavery) is still a two way street: even in a TPE. Both parties should have something to offer to the other and both should know each other really well before you can - and should - do something as intense as TPE slavery.

What these "control me for a day" people are seeking is not being someone's slave, but simply someone to give them tasks that they want to get. Even when they say "no limits" (which is stupid to do with a stranger if you really mean it) they DO have limits.

Instead of posting something like that, they should instead be honest and say they are just seeking someone to give them kinky tasks. If you do that, but ALSO offer something in return like giving reports, posting in YOUR thread, giving YOU a dare next time you'll have a much greater chance of success.