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  1. Old Comment
    CSasha's Avatar

    Am I a boy?

    Thanks, ScarletMaid. I'd like to underline your last sentence. Well said.

    Unfortunately for me, I often read the argument of the biological sex as an excuse for not accepting the individual self-determination of your own gender. And when I look up the biological facts to the best current knowledge, they contradict what those people say.

    I still doubt the meaningful application of the binary sex model down to an individuell level. It might be useful in biology or even other sciences as long as only majorities are concerned.
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    For Thierry Hoquet, philosopher of science and professor at the Université Jean-Moulin Lyon, it is clearly impossible to deny “the reality of the ‘two sexes’ as evidenced by the binary nature of the gametes.” However, attempting to shoehorn all humans “into two hermetically sealed boxes (men and women)” is highly reductive at best and takes no account of biological realities.
    from this article as well as
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    Until recently, the overarching assumption was that babies are born as girls because they do not possess certain male genes, and that the Y chromosome play a crucial role in sex determination.
    When people refer to science as argument, maybe we should look up what the most recent science research tells us, not necessarily what it did decades ago.
    Posted 09-21-2021 at 04:16 PM by CSasha CSasha is offline
    Updated 09-21-2021 at 04:26 PM by CSasha
  2. Old Comment
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    Am I a boy?

    The problem is that there are biological gender and psychological gender
    So many people made gender about how it affects you mentally and socially that having people that don't want to be mixed with those stereotypes and behaviours they expect from them.

    Some women want the freedom men have. Some men want the sexual atraction women have.

    It's all about what you want and picking and. Chosing what you want to be

    In other words. Just live and let others fuck as they wish. Or behave as they wish, or identify as they wish. Or be who they want to be
    Posted 09-21-2021 at 03:39 PM by ScarletMaid ScarletMaid is offline
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    Ten facts I wish all knew (about gender and sexuality)

    Many thanks for pointing out. I adjusted #6. Hope it fits now.
    Posted 09-21-2021 at 09:45 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline
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    Ten facts I wish all knew (about gender and sexuality)

    This is a great blog post.

    Since you asked if you forgot anything important for sexuality, in #6, you say sexuality doesn't change much or quickly, but that isn't the case for abrosexual people, which is basically "genderfluid" but for sexuality.
    Posted 09-21-2021 at 09:38 AM by techie.subbie techie.subbie is offline
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    Am I a boy?

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    Originally Posted by Dragoste View Comment
    Techie biológical gender is simple, not perfect but simple as day and night and light off and on, not becose we have eclipses or cloud days we are gonna ignore the scientific fact that the earth is round and the sun come by the east making a binary sistem of day AND night, the survival of the species aré Grounded in the female and male chromosomes and although there are mutations in the chromosomes and we are constantly evolving you can't ignore this fact, one thing is what we wish for and another is what life put us ahead
    I am open to discuss everything, and actually eager to. You seem to be in lack of some foundations though. Facts don't change but our knowledge, awareness, and mutual agreement on facts change. I don't know your opinion about creationism and evolution but Darwin was ignored, laughed at, and in worst case despised for his theory of natural evolution for years before it was accepted and became popular opinion. Same for the model of a flat Earth and the Earth as a sphere, circling around the Sun of our star system. My biology teacher still taught me that the Human brain does not create new brain cells during adulthood, and rightly so. Now for years we can know that the brain does produce new brain cells quite regular, and even roughly how much. But even many practicing doctors are not aware of that fact yet.
    So in short, facts may be facts and no argue about them, but our awareness of what is currently known and scientifically proven versus what might not is very likely to differ. By the way, that's common practice until hundreds of experiments and gained knowledge is further applied in practice. No one argues that the laws of classical physics are not sufficient for guiding rockets in space, at least once you have to do it with millions of Euros at stake.

    Your awareness of sex assignment and determination seems highly simplified when I see you comparing it to day and night. I am not sure you know your chromosomes but a significant number of men and women would wake up to the fact that their chromosome sex determination doesn't match their identification. And besides the facts, they might still live a very satisfying live with their current identification. Would you want to be forced to change your official gender if you found out?
    In this blog entry I wrote down my opinion in more detail, if you like to get into details. I merely touched the topic of biological gender and am still doing more research to understand, but here's a Forbes article on that topic in case you dare to challenge your current opinion. You don't need to read it as facts but it might give you an interesting perspective. As you said yourself,
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    there are mutations in the chromosomes and we are constantly evolving


    Besides, don't like to spoil your fun, but the fact with the sun, actually, that's just your perception. I suppose you do know how complicated the course of solar objects is in fact, as well as their forms, magnetic fields which give us directions like the East you mentioned. And that they change quite frequently indeed. Don't worry, because most often you get along just fine, but there are scenarios in your life knowing more about the details might give you the necessary edge to survive. Besides, that kind of adaptation is the way we survive and evolve as a species.
    Posted 09-21-2021 at 08:12 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline
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    Am I a boy?

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    I've heard of two-spirit and as a "third" gender, but "gamma" is a new one for me. Is that something that you came up with? I wasn't able to find anything with a quick google search. Either way, I think its a cool idea. (Just don't forget about us non-trinaries )
    Oh no, it's really from a sexist fantasy of mine with three genders, not any less inhuman than our current world if not way worse.
    Alphas are the most in numbers, three quarters of all born. They are only second tallest physically strongest on average. They suckle the babies. They have all the rights.
    Betas are only born three out of sixteen. They are the physically tallest and strongest on average.
    And gammas are only one of sixteen born. They are the physically weakest on average. They bear the children, after being impregnated by Beta semen mixing with their own, and later impregnated by an Alpha egg. They have nearly no rights.
    As I said, very sexist. Should have mentioned a BDSM fantasy.
    Posted 09-21-2021 at 07:43 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline
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    Am I a boy?

    Techie biológical gender is simple, not perfect but simple as day and night and light off and on, not becose we have eclipses or cloud days we are gonna ignore the scientific fact that the earth is round and the sun come by the east making a binary sistem of day AND night, the survival of the species aré Grounded in the female and male chromosomes and although there are mutations in the chromosomes and we are constantly evolving you can't ignore this fact, one thing is what we wish for and another is what life put us ahead

    You think my comment is homophobic when it's scientific, and that way you pigeonhole me into a binary system because I'm either homophobic or not, bad taste? .... i I give you that. But as you said, we all have a biological gender and we cannot deny it from there if they like to call themselves third gender if they like to use to identify with babies or horses or furniture Damn thats why we are here not to judge and accept those differences only always without losing contact with reality.
    Posted 09-21-2021 at 05:11 AM by Dragoste Dragoste is offline
    Updated 09-21-2021 at 05:17 AM by Dragoste
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    Am I a boy?

    I've heard of two-spirit and as a "third" gender, but "gamma" is a new one for me. Is that something that you came up with? I wasn't able to find anything with a quick google search. Either way, I think its a cool idea. (Just don't forget about us non-trinaries )
    Posted 09-20-2021 at 10:27 PM by techie.subbie techie.subbie is offline
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    Am I a boy?

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    Originally Posted by Dragoste View Comment
    I think Chromosomes can give you the answer on how to differentiate female from human males
    This is naďve at best, transphobic at worst. Sure, you might be able to look at chromosomes to determine whether someone is "chromosomally male" or "chromosomally female" most of the time, but biology isn't perfect. Even ignoring that some people are born with a missing or an extra sex chromosome, so called "biological sex" is a lot more complicated than just looking at the chromosomes; it's not a simple binary.

    But, even more importantly, biological sex is not the same as gender identity. Many people experience their gender differently than what was assigned to them at birth. This includes trans men and women and those that feel that their gender doesn't fit into those two "neat" categories (non-binary people).
    Posted 09-20-2021 at 10:05 PM by techie.subbie techie.subbie is offline
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    Am I a boy?

    I think Chromosomes can give you the answer on how to differentiate female from human males
    Posted 09-20-2021 at 05:41 PM by Dragoste Dragoste is offline
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    (Inactive) Current PM dares

    Got it now. I think.

    Thanks for pointing out.
    Posted 08-21-2021 at 05:11 PM by CSasha CSasha is offline
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    (Inactive) Current PM dares

    Is one per day per user better? Had it the other way around.
    Posted 07-13-2021 at 01:57 PM by CSasha CSasha is offline
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    (Inactive) Current PM dares

    One pm per user doesn’t necessarily impose a limit on how many pm dares that is
    Posted 07-13-2021 at 01:47 PM by knorke knorke is offline
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    My personal issues with blackmail

    I agree with the points you make. It feels like most subs have a very specific idea of how they want the scenario to play out. Yet, I think the sub more often should consider what the dominant might want. Not talking about stepping on someone's limits, but when you ask someone to take control over you with blackmail, you shouldn't be opposed to doing things you might not love. Or to go in a different direction than the scenario or fantasy you had in your head
    Posted 07-13-2021 at 03:22 AM by subDanni subDanni is offline
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    My personal issues with blackmail

    My only experience with blackmailing was a sour one.

    person offered a photo of his wife and her contact. telling me it would devastate her if he was sharing it.

    it was.... Sour. couldnt get into it. the way they abused the trust of their partner for a wank was disgusting.

    you know i wanted some kinky fun. not a depressing rollecoaster into someone else Sex life.
    Posted 07-12-2021 at 07:42 PM by ScarletMaid ScarletMaid is offline
  16. Old Comment
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    Bread-eater or rice-eater?

    *sips tea*

    i dont get it. i was born eating both. *eats rice sadwich*

    it seems like satire but also like a thinly veiled analogy to a lot of stuff. Religion, Gender, Race.

    and how easy it is to judge people on their habits. seems like a fun post.
    Posted 07-12-2021 at 07:34 PM by ScarletMaid ScarletMaid is offline
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    Bread-eater or rice-eater?

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    It's extremely difficult to write satire, and this is a prime example of why it's that hard.
    I agree. I will probably delete this blog entry in some days. On the other hand, I am very thankful for both your input and our little debate.

    And I am still looking for a better example since this is roughly how I feel when being asked. Flavors of ice-cream doesn't work as well as bread/rice. It lacks the gene argument and hence can be put away as something different.

    I hope the non-existence of race is proven and accepted by now though I doubt it. I guess it still has to go a long way until a majority picked up the news and there will always be some totally uneducated people thinking that backwards.

    It looks to me that the same story for biological sex has only just started. Even supporters of gender identification and self-determination aren't as open for these news. I am not even sure how the current balance of scientific studies and articles in support and opposition to these statements is.
    Posted 07-11-2021 at 05:29 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline
    Updated 07-11-2021 at 05:32 AM by CSasha
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    Bread-eater or rice-eater?

    Race is a made up thing, and so is the the concept of fixed gender identity. Proponents of both use pseudo-science to "validate" their position.

    The confusion is due to the fact that a racially prejudiced epithet is being used, and also that there is no clear spectrum between your two chosen extremes.

    In that vein, you could have easily picked a different example, like flavours of ice cream - eg. strawberry vs vanilla - which would have had the same impact, without wandering in to the minefield that you stepped in to, and it would have been very apparent that it is, indeed, satire.

    It's extremely difficult to write satire, and this is a prime example of why it's that hard.
    Posted 07-11-2021 at 05:18 AM by Runesmith Runesmith is offline
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    Bread-eater or rice-eater?

    Thanks for the feedback, @Runesmith, and sorry for the confusion. I regret not having found a better example. I suppose milk-drinkers wouldn't have been any better. As you might read, I never referred to any race. In fact, even race is made up and isn't backed up by today's science in any way, see this article.

    I mentioned genes since it is one of the common arguments in the discrimination topic which bothers me so much I wrote this blog entry.

    You have every right to be disappointed but I am disappointed in you, too. You didn't dispute the non-sense about animals and plants I started with. I admit, it's the more subtle one but it's the same principle: labeling people by body-type or genes, in too few categories to suit them all, relating physical, mental, and emotional attributes, behaviors, or even colors and professions to them, forming social expectations. And to back it all up, call it natural and scientifically proven ignoring the details and new scientific research.

    Have you any better example for me I could use to point that out?


    @StrawDog: Now I am relieved somebody got the reference. Still looking for a better example.
    Posted 07-11-2021 at 05:02 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline
    Updated 07-11-2021 at 05:16 AM by CSasha
  20. Old Comment
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    Bread-eater or rice-eater?

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    Ha! Shows how out of the loop I am! I read this as a piece satirizing anti-trans people misusing biology to back their dogma, using rice/bread instead of male/female.
    If it was, then the satire flew way over my head, and I apologize for the misunderstanding.

    However, if it were intended as satire, then the build up is way too convoluted, and using the epithet "rice eater (Reisesser)" that some groups in eastern part of Germany have used to denigrate Asians even before the CoVID period seems to be an unfortunate choice.

    That said, nothing today is a safe choice.
    Posted 07-11-2021 at 05:00 AM by Runesmith Runesmith is offline
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    Bread-eater or rice-eater?

    Ha! Shows how out of the loop I am! I read this as a piece satirizing anti-trans people misusing biology to back their dogma, using rice/bread instead of male/female.

    EDIT: Though, regarding cat safety, they do need to eat meat. Dogs can do without under artificial environments, but have preference for meat. Pigs can also be reared vegetarian, and their meat is an entirely different colour than one fed normally.
    Posted 07-11-2021 at 04:54 AM by StrawDog StrawDog is offline
    Updated 07-11-2021 at 05:03 AM by StrawDog
  22. Old Comment
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    Bread-eater or rice-eater?

    The assertion that there is a "bread gene" or a "rice gene" is wrong. Dietary preferences are generally not genetically defined (except for the rare occasion involving the genes responsible for maintaining milk digestion in to adulthood).

    While diet, especially in the pre-teen and teen years, has an effect on final height/weight, that effect is minimal compared to the influence of genetics.

    The dietary preference that you use is a thinly-veiled reference to racial prejudices, and is formed by the food available in the regions where the socio-cultural frameworks emerged.

    Personal food preference forms in the early formative years, and by the age of 5, most children exhibit a preference for the food that they had been given up to that age. Most Schwabian school kids prefer Käsespätzle to bread. Do they lack a "bread gene"?

    When people emigrate, they bring their culture and cuisine with them. Most first generation Asian Germans grow up eating the cuisine their parents brought with them, and develop that as a food preference in to adulthood. It's not because they have a "rice gene".

    Frankly, I am surprised that you posted something like this. I had a better opinion of you. Maybe you read this on some facefuck page that disseminates fake "scientific basis" for racist prejudices, much like phrenology - a pseudo-science invented in the 1800s by our compatriot Franz Joseph Gall - to "prove" that Europeans were more intelligent than Africans, which is still quite popular among the neo-nazis.

    The "rice eater" and "bread eater" stereotypes are nothing other than a stand-in for "yellow skin" and "white skin". Please stop propagating this racist pseudo-science.
    Posted 07-11-2021 at 03:48 AM by Runesmith Runesmith is offline
    Updated 07-11-2021 at 03:50 AM by Runesmith
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    Bread-eater or rice-eater?

    I am a rice eater for sure.... We are short and thin and sometimes frail, but we have mastered more ways to defend ourselves than bread eaters, I think... Or perhaps not
    Posted 07-10-2021 at 03:09 PM by SilvertongueLyra SilvertongueLyra is offline
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    Have sex with just two clicks!

    Heya! Glad you're getting fucked well
    I've been having a bit of a tough time with some parts of dating lately, particularly being uncertain as to where and how to focus my efforts in finding someone who can do me the way I want to be done. I really appreciate you taking the time to write this, it makes me feel quite a bit better and more motivated! I'll be patient and persistent
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    I discovered a New Limit: some people

    Thank you very much for the encouragement. It's a process to find how to get along with the binary concepts. So often, it's either about anatomy or stereotypes.

    Anyway, a little update, I now mention that I have cock and balls. I now find it weird that the men and women I encounter don't state what genitals they have. It's not a given!
    So far, feels better for me. I am more sure right from the start that my partners don't assume something different in my department that I have stored.
    Posted 02-24-2021 at 04:52 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline

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