I am a self proclaimed brat! I don't really think that it is a secret. I am proud to be a brat! I tend to get a lot of questions from people about my brattiness. People want to know why I brat or what it is that I do to be bratty. Well this blog is going to help explain! I have asked Icemaiden, the brattiest person I know, to help me as well! Her writing will be in pink and mine is in blue.

THE STIGMA

I think some people see the title “Brat” and they automatically think...

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Kink/BDSM Pet Peeves

- Being referred to as Miss, Mistress, Pet, Little Girl, Girl or the like by anyone who has not been granted permission to call me a specific title. Whether it’s to show authority of your Dominant status or show respect as a submissive -...

I am a big advocate of safewords. I have written previous blogs about them here:

Rainbow of Communication
Safewords in Online Relationships

To summarize, I believe that a safeword should be used in ALL D/s dynamics. I know that some people choose to play without them, but I think they are essential and I do not play with others without having a safeword, and actually I typically have multiple safewords.

That being said, one of the first things that...

Flame wars - one of the internet's most common, wonderful and amusing activities. Oh the subjects I have seen bombarded on the comments section - and so often they have nothing at all to do with the original topic.

We all hold our beliefs and opinions on so many things. "They" say that we are all entitled to an opinion, but I disagree with that. We are all entitled to an informed opinion, when we are in possession of the facts and have an understanding of the subject matter....

Since my mental health was recently mentioned by a concerned member of this community, I thought I would write this blog to help alleviate any concerns, and maybe shed some light on my mental health and how it effects my D/s relationships.

I am a fairly open person. I have over 320 blogs posted on getDare and they range from kinky reports to romantic/sweet love notes to my husband/Dom. It includes tales of my little adventures, and lists of toys and tasks that I want to do. You can read...

Denial
Jaro has been in denial for over 70 days currently. It is a new record for him and Icemaiden and I are so so proud of him. There is no way that I could imagine being in his position, and I really do think he is the best, and most loyal sub that a Domme could ask for.

We love to tease our worm. We love to tell him that he can't cum until Christmas, but as much as that thought excites us, he really does deserve the occasional release.

On Sunday, Jaro had finally...

The one question I get asked the most about being in a blackmail relationship is:

Will you actually go through with it?

I always tell people YES! But they are skeptical.

The thing is, as much as I care about Jaro, if he deliberately broke our contract, I would be obligated to go through with our blackmail plan.

For those that haven't read our blog about how blackmail works for us, we have a three step plan.

STEP ONE
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