Go Back   getDare Truth or Dare > Blogs > IceMaiden's Blog of Awesome

Rating: 10 votes, 4.20 average.

Hitting your Dom's limit.

Posted 10-16-2018 at 07:41 AM by IceMaiden

We see all the time subs posting how they discovered a limit they didn't know they had, or how a wannabe dom/me tried to get them to break them without their consent. But what about when you hit your Dom's limit? That's rarely discussed but it does happen. Dom's are human too and can have their own limits!

This happened recently to AM and I. I mentioned to him I was curious about gender play, in particular male superiority. It's something I have been curious about for a very long time and the majority of the porn I watch involves it in some way and never fails to get me off.

When I mentioned my interest in this type of play to AM, I was surprised to learn he was adamantly against it. He told me the reasons why and why it wasn't something that appealed to him or something he wished to explore and so I told him that it would go on the we're never doing that list. Because yes, just as good Dom's will respect their sub's limits, a sub should also respect their Dom's!

The topic came up again a day or so after and he surprised me yet again when he told me he was willing to try and experiment with this type of play and see how we both liked or disliked it. After informing him that I was highly curious and really wanted to try, I also said I didn't want him doing anything he wouldn't enjoy in the slightest or was so against.

After further discussion he reminded me I had been willing to push and break some of my limits for him and he would do it for me this time. Him saying that made me love him even more, knowing all the reasons he originally didn't want to. But he was also right in that I have pushed and broken several limits for him over our time together...and when he reminded me of this I didn't feel quite as much as though he felt forced into it or was offering only out of guilt. After making him promise that he was sure he wanted to try and that he was okay with it, we discussed a few rules and boundaries and it was decided we would try it.

I didn't know when we would or when he would enforce the rules surrounding this play, only that it was going to happen - most likely when I wouldn't expect it to. And that's exactly what happened.

He involved it in an interrogation scene we did day or so after we'd discussed everything. (And I will probably write more on the interrogation soon!) When I realized he was trying it out already I instantly got wet and I wondered how far he would go with. Pretty far!

After play was over we talked about how it had made us both feel and what we liked and disliked about it. I was happy to learn that AM had enjoyed the majority just as much as I had and that it would probably be involved in our play again.

So why did AM break this limit of his for me? He didn't have to, he's the one in control. He could have just flat out refused and told me not to mention it ever again. Instead though, he pointed out what things I have been willing to do for him that I really haven't wanted to during our time together. And that is why he decided to try for me. Because a relationship works both ways and each of us are equal outside of play. I respect him and he respects me. I tell him what I like and don't like and he does the same. We communicate easily and often. Limits are always there for a reason, but if you trust your partner and you both consent to trying out one of your limits, sometimes it can go even better than you expected it to! If one of you doesn't consent to it, be a decent human being and leave the subject alone!

*Note: The fantasy is hot. The play is fun. I do not genuinely believe males are superior, nor do I believe females are superior. I believe we are all equal. And anyone who believes otherwise outside of play, please don't ever talk to me. Also, no-one should take this as a sign you can talk down to me or disrespect me or be an asshole. Only AM can do those things because we have communicated, discussed and consented to it. If you try you will be laughed at and mocked. Repeatedly.
Posted in Uncategorized
Views 1668 Comments 4
« Prev     Main     Next »
Total Comments 4

Comments

  1. Old Comment
    Jaro's Avatar
    I don't think I have read about a Doms limits like this before. Excellent blog Miss!
    So nice to see that indeed, even in BDSM, it can go both ways!
    Posted 10-16-2018 at 08:38 AM by Jaro Jaro is offline
  2. Old Comment
    Happy Me's Avatar
    This is a really fantastic blog on so many levels! I love how it, in such a short nice way explains how negotiation and communication works. Thank you so much for Sharing!!
    Posted 10-16-2018 at 09:52 AM by Happy Me Happy Me is offline
  3. Old Comment
    CSasha's Avatar
    Excellent perspective. Tops have limits, too, and should not hesitate to ise a safeword themselves.
    Posted 10-16-2018 at 11:09 AM by CSasha CSasha is online now
  4. Old Comment
    AbusiveMaster's Avatar
    Playing with limits and triggers is always a risky thing. While Icy and I have both stated we have no limits with one another, this is done with a great deal of caution and respect. I am not going to go into the reason I have issues with this sort of play, there are many. But for my IceMaiden I am willing to at least try, as she has done for me so many times.
    Posted 10-16-2018 at 03:07 PM by AbusiveMaster AbusiveMaster is offline
 

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:15 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions Inc. - Also check out Kink Talk!reptilelaborer