More Info About Littles
Posted 07-01-2014 at 07:33 AM by MysticalMadness
What is a Little?
A Little is an individual, typically BUT NOT ALWAYS a submissive (“bottom”), who identifies with a younger state of mind and oftentimes will look to younger interests/passions/behaviors as a source of comfort, stress relief, entertainment, enjoyment. Littles in D/s relationships typically prefer nurturing and guidance to be the focus of their D/s relationship.
Littles are consenting and fully capable of understanding the relationship they are entering into. They are consenting adults, not children.
Littles are not completely dependent on their Cargiver; they are perfectly capable of making their own decisions and living their own professional/personal/scholastic lives and do.
Littles are not looking for a “sugar daddy” to take care of them; money is not the goal of the relationship.
ANYONE CAN BE A LITTLE.
REGARDLESS OF:
If you identify as a Little, then you’re a Little. That’s it.
Don’t get wrapped up in labels and identities, just be what is comfortable to you.
What does a Little do? What might a typical Cg/l (Caregiver/Little) relationship entail?
(Note!! I do not claim to be any type of authority, beyond being in such a relationship and having talked to many people about theirs. No two relationships are alike; there is no requirement for someone to be a Little—see the above section again if you need reassuring.)
having a significant other, typically Dominant, who may assign rules or guidelines, tasks, and assignments with the intention of looking out for, guiding, and helping the Little to become a better person. Some examples are bedtimes, rules for getting household tasks and homework done in a timely manner, and being polite.
entering “Little mode/space”, where a Little slips into a younger mind frame. They may change their behavior and way of speaking, using “baby talk” or less mature vernacular.
Some Littles—though, again, NOT ALL—may engage in diaper play and age play. This is when a Little is typically most vulnerable. This is a type of stress relief and escape from the “big” world, somewhere they need to feel safe and loved and cared for.
Another important note: Littles are not children, they are not immature nor irresponsible. Most Littles have a very stressful, demanding, and challenging schedule outside of their “Little space”. They may have a very important job, a grueling course load in school, or very important roles in their family/community. They turn to their Little space to unwind, to relax.
Just like submissives of other types have said, there is peace in the letting go of responsibility for a safe time. Littles look to their Little space—and sometimes their significant other and/or Dominant—to be there when they let all their worries and troubles go. Sometimes they go to their Little space because they enjoy the feeling of not being in charge of everything for once.
This is where their significant other is important in protecting them in their vulnerability and making sure they take care of themselves, not just everyone and everything else that needs taking care of.
A Little is an individual, typically BUT NOT ALWAYS a submissive (“bottom”), who identifies with a younger state of mind and oftentimes will look to younger interests/passions/behaviors as a source of comfort, stress relief, entertainment, enjoyment. Littles in D/s relationships typically prefer nurturing and guidance to be the focus of their D/s relationship.
- A Little is not interested in incest.
- A Little is not interested in pedophilia.
- Not all Littles engage in ageplay.
- Not all Littles are submissives.
- Not all Little submissives are sexually involved with their Dominant.
- Not all Littles have a set “age” they identify with nor do all Littles “regress” into “Little Space”.
Littles are consenting and fully capable of understanding the relationship they are entering into. They are consenting adults, not children.
Littles are not completely dependent on their Cargiver; they are perfectly capable of making their own decisions and living their own professional/personal/scholastic lives and do.
Littles are not looking for a “sugar daddy” to take care of them; money is not the goal of the relationship.
ANYONE CAN BE A LITTLE.
REGARDLESS OF:
- weight/height/body type
- race
- age
- gender (this is a big one!!! THERE ARE LITTLES WHO ARE MALE, LITTLES WHO ARE GENDERFLUID, LITTLES WHO DON’T KNOW WHAT THEIR GENDER IS.)
- involvement in D/s—not everyone is into D/s!
- Not all Littles are submissives! Be a brat if you want! Be a total submissive doll if you want! Be a Dominant if you want! Be neither or both (a switch) if you want!
- sexual orientation—you don’t have to have sex to be a Little, asexual Littles are totally a thing!
- You don’t have to be heterosexual either!
- preferred title for significant other—You don’t have to have a male Dominant (or call him “Daddy”) to be a Little! You can have a Mommy or just a Sir, Mistress, boyfriend or girlfriend…you don’t have to call them anything (:
- interests—you don’t have to like cartoons, coloring, pink, Hello Kitty, or cuddles. You can like racecars and gore and really shitty 80’s flicks.
- distance from your significant other—you can be long distance and still manage, promise! <3
- openness of relationship—some Littles are in open relationships, sometimes they share their Dominant with another Little or they are not mutually exclusive to their Dominant.
- Sometimes Littles are polyamorous and sometimes they aren’t. As long as everyone’s fine with the arrangement, it’s fine!
- level of sexual activeness—you don’t have to have a sexual relationship with your Dominant.
- You might looove sex all the time, or maybe you just like the cuddles. No judgement either way!
- level of experience in D/s
- relationship status—you don’t have to have a significant other, Dominant or not, to be a Little. YOU determine if you are a Little, not who you are with.
- specific age for your Little side—some Littles identify with the toddler age range. Some identify with six, seven, or eight-year-olds (and so on). Some prefer to associate with a pre-teen or teenager age range (and may be referred to as Middles). Some don’t know WHAT their Little age is. That’s all fine!
If you identify as a Little, then you’re a Little. That’s it.
Don’t get wrapped up in labels and identities, just be what is comfortable to you.What does a Little do? What might a typical Cg/l (Caregiver/Little) relationship entail?
(Note!! I do not claim to be any type of authority, beyond being in such a relationship and having talked to many people about theirs. No two relationships are alike; there is no requirement for someone to be a Little—see the above section again if you need reassuring.)
having a significant other, typically Dominant, who may assign rules or guidelines, tasks, and assignments with the intention of looking out for, guiding, and helping the Little to become a better person. Some examples are bedtimes, rules for getting household tasks and homework done in a timely manner, and being polite.
entering “Little mode/space”, where a Little slips into a younger mind frame. They may change their behavior and way of speaking, using “baby talk” or less mature vernacular.
Some Littles—though, again, NOT ALL—may engage in diaper play and age play. This is when a Little is typically most vulnerable. This is a type of stress relief and escape from the “big” world, somewhere they need to feel safe and loved and cared for.
Another important note: Littles are not children, they are not immature nor irresponsible. Most Littles have a very stressful, demanding, and challenging schedule outside of their “Little space”. They may have a very important job, a grueling course load in school, or very important roles in their family/community. They turn to their Little space to unwind, to relax.
Just like submissives of other types have said, there is peace in the letting go of responsibility for a safe time. Littles look to their Little space—and sometimes their significant other and/or Dominant—to be there when they let all their worries and troubles go. Sometimes they go to their Little space because they enjoy the feeling of not being in charge of everything for once.
This is where their significant other is important in protecting them in their vulnerability and making sure they take care of themselves, not just everyone and everything else that needs taking care of.
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Lovely, lovely post, thank you so much for writing this! A lot of this resonated with me - I am in many ways a Little, and I love it. You absolutely hit the nail on the head with this, and I appreciate how you've indicated the incredibly wide and varied range of Littles which exists - I particularly like how you said "Littles are not children, they are not immature nor irresponsible. Most Littles have a very stressful, demanding, and challenging schedule outside of their “Little space”. They may have a very important job, a grueling course load in school, or very important roles in their family/community. They turn to their Little space to unwind, to relax." And I love the sense of freedom that gives me, when I can go into that space, even if it is just me by myself indulging in coloring and Disney movies Very well put, thank you again!Posted 07-01-2014 at 06:09 PM by naughtylittlegirl 
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I am so happy to read this!! I love the way you detailed everything, and it really cleared a lot of things up for me in regards to myself, and the subby/kinky part of my life. Thank you so very much.Posted 07-01-2014 at 07:58 PM by Happy Me
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Thank you for an interesting post. I was aware of age play, but before now I was not aware of being a Little and what it entails. Thanks for expanding my knowledgePosted 07-13-2014 at 05:47 AM by AtticsToEden
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I'm going to be a super creep and bring this blog back. I've read it through many times, and linked a few people to it. Thank you for such an amazing, detailed blog about a topic that a lot of people aren't educated on. You're awesome!
Posted 05-10-2015 at 06:49 AM by jlstockton25
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Thank you for this beautiful gem of work!
As I am trying to get more info on this subject, as it matched with me on so many levels, I am grateful you created this.
Niles - hopefully soon to be a new daddy around the block.
(When I have enough information and experience to start taking the care for a little one myself)Posted 08-15-2015 at 11:03 PM by Nilesmare
