A reference for people doing RL scenes and play and things they might want to negotiate. Inspired by a list taught at a negotiation and communication class at my local dungeon.

Before you negotiate a scene with someone, check yourself.

• Are you in a positive frame of mind?
• H.A.L.T. Am I hungry, angry, lonely, tired?
• Is my judgement impaired somehow be it from alcohol, drugs, or simply lack of sleep?

People:

• Does anyone else need to consent to this negotiation? (Another partner,

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So, you're one of those people.

Sure, you're different on the outside. Maybe you identify as a dom (sorry, Dom) or is it Master? Supreme Lord of all submissives? Or maybe you're a sub, not only that, you're a slave as well. The dirtiest most worthless slave ever. You deserve the harshest punishment anyone can give you. Well, as long as the punishment is from your likes. Maybe you're a guy or maybe you're a girl (or a guy pretending to be a girl).

It doesn't matter because...

1. I can't do a backflip. Try as I might, I've been unable to achieve that beautiful spin through the air.

2. My achilles tendon is crazy tight so when I workout and do squats, I can't go down very far. My strong thighs are ready to feel the burn, but my ankles are like nah man.

3. My hands are really small. I'm 5'9" and my hands are as small as most girls who are 5'5". They shouldn't be this small and it's the bane of my existence.

4. I'm taller...

This is literally a rant about things I wish I knew how to say.

I feel like shit. I feel like you're doing so much for me and I just fuck up everything, which makes me wonder why the fuck you'd ever want to stay with me. I forgot to ask if you're mad. You'd probably say you aren't, weren't, whatever. But I know a part of you is annoyed at how much time you wasted.

I had fucking one job and I couldn't do that. Shit, I always ask if you're mad. Why did I forget this time?...

Wear His Collar at all times

Penalty: 1 day of no touching and at least an additional 2 days of denial. During that time, wear a diaper at all times, when unable to, wear 3 panties

No orgasm without permission

Penalty: Varies on the circumstances, but probably denial, just going on a limb here

Say "Thank you" after each orgasm

Penalty: Denial until gratitude is expressed

Be polite and respectful to Sinister in public chat

Penalty: Public apology (if I refuse, it's I think

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This is going to be a pretty detailed list, simply because I tend to be an overachiever (and so humble too)

Loves:

• Humiliation (More condescending than degrading. Being talked down to is lovely)
• Loss of Control ( Feeling owned and powerless)

Likes:

• Orgasm Control
• Being Watched
• Hypnosis
• Anal (I love it, I really do, but I am so lazy and it takes so much work. Keep in mind, I only really have anal plugs so fucking my ass isn't really a good idea)
• Pain (Nothing too

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100% Brat
78% Submissive
76% Daddy/Mommy
76% Degradation receiver
60% Pet
59% Switch
58% Experimentalist
55% Dominant
53% girl/boy
47% Primal (Prey)
46% Vanilla
44% Bondage giver
41% Owner
41% Master/Mistress
38% Non-monogamist
37% Brat tamer
35% Bondage receiver
30% Masochist
25% Slave
25% Ageplayer
23% Degradation giver
21% Exhibitionist...