Having recently taken some time away from getDare, I've been giving some thought to what draws me back to getDare time and again over the years. I've decided it's authenticity.

I've watched plenty of porn, of nearly every kink, but regardless of the type of porn, I'm always drawn to amateur footage of people authentically displaying their true erotic selves. But porn is uni-directional: producers and consumers. I've read plenty of erotic stories, also across nearly every kink, but again...

On 5 July 2023 I conducted an inspection and rating of Sumati based on provided pictures. This is the rating report of that inspection.

Images: 7/10
I received 5 images including front and rear full body pictures, kneeling from behind, close up pictures of her pussy and spread ass. The images were mostly suitable for rating, but a little blurry for the detail.

Attitude: 7/10
There were a number of delays without any communication while waiting for images. However...

On 4 July 2023 I conducted an inspection and rating of User41089567 based on provided pictures. This is the rating report of that inspection.

Images: 9/10
I received 5 images without face including front and rear full body standing pictures, a kneeling pose, and close ups of pussy and ass. Images were of good quality, well lit, and entirely suitable for conducting a rating. The standing pictures were a little distant but I can see this was a limitation of the mirror used.
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On 14 May 2023 I conducted an inspection and rating of Little_blonde_slut based on provided pictures. This is the rating report of that inspection.

Images: 7/10
I received 6 images of this slut including front, rear, profile and kneeling full body pictures. Images were of average quality, well lit, and suitable enough for conducting a rating. No image of the whore's asshole was provided and a better close-up for rating pussy would have been desirable.

Attitude: 7.5/10...

On 7 March 2023 I conducted an inspection and rating of Pinky (PinkAvo) based on provided pictures. This is the rating report of that inspection.

Images: 9/10
I received 6 images including front and rear full body pictures, front and rear humble pose, a squatting pose with hands behind head and a rear picture of her spread ass and pussy. Images were of good quality, well lit, and entirely suitable for conducting a rating. A better close-up of holes as requested would have been appreciated...

These rules have been updated since first published based on both experience and some feedback received by commenters. A big thank you to KinkyKoala for her thoughts and discussions with me on this topic.


Below are my personal safeword rules for online casual play and online D/s relationships as a Dom. They are basically an enhanced traffic light system that many people will be familiar and comfortable with. I am willing to play with other safewords and safeword rules too, but...

Prompted by a friend, I recently spent some time considering what exactly I desire with regards to humiliation. I found it a useful exercise to reflect on this as the process of putting my thoughts into words aids in clarifying them, and I thought I would share it here on my blog.

I've never quite got clear in my head if there is a difference between humiliation and degradation. There is an interesting discussion thread about this here on GD, but it feels to me that people tend to make...