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15 Things Woman Wish Men Knew - Part 2
Continued from part 1 here
8. Shaving takes a lot of effort
Everybody has their own preferences, but I know a lot of guys like a girl to be shaved or trimmed down there. I personally like to shave as well. The problem is, it takes a long time and a bit of effort to bend in all the right ways to get all of the little hairs that grow. And that fresh shaved feeling doesn't last long. Humans are naturally hairy and hair grows quickly.
Even if we are careful, we can cut ourselves, get razor burn and/or get ingrown hairs. None of these things are pleasant. On top of that, if we sensitive skin, we can break out in bumps.
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Originally Posted by littleone98
it's great being shaved but the pain it is to actually do it all the time when all you wanna do after a busy week is relax and not think about if your pubic hair is growing too much for them to like.
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Originally Posted by littleone98
They think we can shave everyday and all it ends up doing is cutting our skin and making it look worse than a little bit of hair growing
There is a difference between flattery and compliments. A compliment is genuine and based on fact. If you call me beautiful but have never seen a photo of me, it feels like you want something from me.
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Originally Posted by lil_trouble
it's damn annoying to be private messaged by random guys who you have never talked to and being called cutie when they have no idea what you look like so they are just assuming just because you're a girl
10. We have feelings ...
... and that doesn't mean we are on our periods or we are being overemotional.
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Originally Posted by evermore
the old thing of "stop being such a girl and being overemotional" when sharing how I feel about something
Very annoying! And this usually just makes us pissed off and closed off.
11. We aren't horny 24/7
Just as we aren't always wet, we aren't always horny.
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Originally Posted by wedgiebondagebabe
We can like kink a lot but not everything will turn us on all the time.
12. Orgasms can take time
Sometimes an orgasm can take 5 minutes, sometimes it can take 30 minutes, and sometimes it just isn't going to happen at all. But that doesn't mean there is something wrong with us or with you. It doesn't mean we aren't turned on, or that we don't like you. Some girls take longer than others. For me, I can usually get to the edge in less than 5 minutes. However, there are days where I can have the wand on my clit for 30 minutes and I am not even close.
As I stated above, being turned on has a lot to do with our mental state. This translates to orgasms as well. Even if we ARE turned on enough, sometimes there is something mental preventing us from getting to the edge, sometimes it is a sensitivity issue, sometimes it is a mental block, or not being comfortable and other times we don't even know what is stopping us. and some girls, have never been able to have an orgasm!
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Originally Posted by Mousey123
I would say that's true for edges too. Sometimes it's hard or even impossible to get to that point.
13. Porn is fantasy, not reality
You would think this one is self explanatory,, but I think it needs to be said. Porn is not real.
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Originally Posted by wedgiebondagebabe
Females in porn are unrealistic. We do not all moan. We do not all squirt. Not all of us have the ability for multiple orgasms or multiple enjoyable orgasms. A lot of the moaning and acting is played up. Orgasms in real life are not that exaggerated.
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Originally Posted by slutpuppy
Most women can't do a lot of the weird positions you see in porn, we don't always want dick 24/7, and foreplay is actually needed.
14. Vaginas are not silly putty
I love the feeling of a giant dildo inside me. It feels so good to be stretched to capacity. But my vagina is not made out of silly putty. It can only comfortably stretch so far.
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Originally Posted by kurious kat
"You can put a baby through there" isn't accurate both because not every woman CAN do birth without a C-section... but also because during pregnancy those bones actually get spongey and flexible in ways they are NOT when your hand's trying to shove in there at random.
15. Noise isn't everything
Some girls make a lot of noise but others don't. Sometimes we fake noises because we know you like them, but those can be almost more distracting. When I asked if she made noise when masturbating, wedgiebondagebabe said
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No. Idk it feels weird and uncomfortable.
Conclusion
Men, I hope you found some of these helpful. Just remember that all woman are different. Just because some of us have stated the above things to be true, you won't know until you talk to your partner about them. Be open, communicate and negotiate.
Woman, thank you to those who helped me in compiling this blog and to those who allowed me to quote them. Did I leave anything out? Are there any other things you wish guys knew about us? Please feel free to comment.
Total Comments 8
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Finally, an instruction manual for women!
But seriously, this is really good and helpful for a lot of us men! Thank you!Posted 02-05-2018 at 10:14 PM by Jaro 
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Like Butterfly mentioned above, all women are different, so I can only speak for myself when I say this, but I know that when I'm playing I'm darn near silent most of the time.
Butterfly and her... sources... have made some very good points here. Especially the pictures one. It doesn't matter why a woman won't amuse you by sending pics (just because you're a man, doesn't mean you are entitled for us to show you everything... I know not all of you think that, but it seems a great deal of you do) just know that she's said NO for a reason and stop hounding her as to "why not?" Most of the time when you do that we know you aren't genuine and you're just looking for some quick material to "get off" with.Posted 02-05-2018 at 10:38 PM by alex_carter
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Great posts. While I can confirm most of them for myself, the most important thing I learned from the many people met, men, women and others alike, despite many many books about their similarities, everyone is different. Just because I like the color pink, that isn't true for every other woman.
Many issues are common sense or it was easy to get to know if you care. You want someone to put food into their vaginas? How about reading up if it's safe and sane? And many others still need experience and knowledge about the person. You want to know if someone has any fears so severe they might get a heart-attack, or at least react when they freak about the propopsal to play with spiders alone. Just an example.
I'd still appreciate if someone tried to put up the same list for men. Just out of curiosity. Or is it just food and sex they need? What about freedom and dragon-cave-time?
Many thanksPosted 02-06-2018 at 02:22 AM by CSasha
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Really good blog as always. Love the pictures with the points especially the one on number 15 made me laugh.
Personal for me pictures are a limit for sending and have no interesting in receiving them as they do nothing for me at all.
Most importantly, doesn't matter the sex of the person you are playing with or want to play with, get to know them and what they like, how they are feeling.Posted 02-06-2018 at 03:19 AM by Mousey123
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If you get nothing else from this blog, I think the main point and theme is that women are not here for men to tell us what to do, when to do it, and that we can take it. In fact, IceMaiden just released a blog saying basically, I know my own body so I know what choices I need to make. Not an exact quote by the way.
Please remember this is the internet. 95% of the guys that call me dear, sweetie, cutie, and more are creeps who want pictures to add to their spank bank and then leave. I personally do not get off on exhibition, if you do awesome, but for me a picture takes so much. Posting the pictures for my thread was at least 2 anxiety freakouts in the making. I won't say attacks because I wouldn't classify them as attacks, but I was freaking out. With pictures a lot of times I think a guy is just using the picture of my body to jack off and that's it. If you do get a picture from someone, compliment them. We do not want to hear oh that's nice or looks good. For me personally if I sent you a picture (not the pictures on getDare), I want to know how it affects you. Does it turn you on? Do you think I am beautiful? Tell me I am pretty with more words then good, nice, cute or words that are used over and over again.
Another note, I am on getDare and kik while at school and on campus. I do stay off during classes, but there are times I am around other people whether its looking at denial raffle business or keeping up with friends. So even if we are friends, ask if you can send a picture first. I get it. You could be super horny and you really want to share a picture that you worked hard on, or worked up the courage for or you just want to show trust. I get it that it stings a little to be told not right now. But asking first because sometimes you are sharing your phone around to get phone numbers for group projects, showing emails, or showing your friends bitchy text messages to get their opinions. I don't need your messages of kink popping up on accident. So ask first because someone might be in public while texting you.
I do not know how many other girls or people do this, but I can dom while in sweatpants and not being turned on at all. That does not mean I do not enjoy what you are doing for me, but that very well means I could be sitting in a very public place telling you what I want done. I don't get horny a lot. My "job" right now is maintaining my GPA, going to class, writing a thesis and graduating. Plus a lot of my kink time is dominated by when my roommate is not here. So I won't be horny all the time and its just a fact of life for me.
My final point before I completely write another blog in response to this one. Orgasms. Not every girl can have an orgasm every time. Multiple orgasms are not always possible and if they are, they are not always fun. I have never had a known orgasm. I.E. a time I knew I was coming and felt a change in mode. That does not mean I am broken and need to be fixed. You will probably not be the man to change my life and make me cum. Orgasms vary from girl to girl. The ways that get us off change too. Most guys think there is a one way to make a girl cum and thats it. As mentioned above. Foreplay is important. If we are not wet already, then you can forget about anything feeling comfortable in our vaginas. Just keep your girl in mind or play partner in mind when you play. She might not be enjoying everything and who knows. She might be eating a slice of pizza in her sweats while you tell her to fuck herself with her largest dildo because you just made her little bit of horniness disappear by your one word commands.
Thank you Butterfly for allowing me to help! This is a great blog and I actually want to see a man write it from there point of view. I would like to know some of the struggles they face with kink and online play.Posted 02-06-2018 at 06:56 AM by Wedgiebondagebabe
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hey thanks butterfly for writing it so well.. now I have a blog entry I can redirect people (men) to when facing issues... I wanted to pick some points that I could relate more with than others but couldn't as I could relate with ALL of them.. perfect <3
PS: I giggled a lot while reading it as I could relate from instances in my memory..lolPosted 02-06-2018 at 12:25 PM by nina@
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Just like the first post, this one is quite informative. I have to admit, I was rather surprised when an ex-gf of mine was very vocal during sex. I did not have much experience and am not into watching videos (I prefer literotica or pics) and that was something I had ever considered, since I tend to be quiet. Definitely, everyone is different. And a lot of stuff you mention are things that I don't ever really think about (being male). Good to slap me in the face with reminders like this.Posted 02-06-2018 at 06:15 PM by Blue Fox
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Oh man... I feel so stupid. Mainly because of #15. None of my exes made much noise and it definitely did play on my insecurities, but I could never bring it up because I didn't want to be seen as being insecure. I wish I knew this like 10 years ago lol. Better late than never.
Posted 02-08-2018 at 09:07 AM by nnrrgy
