Pics: Knock it Off!
Posted 08-26-2015 at 06:45 AM by Komodo Jones
Forewarning, this blog entry won't really have a structure as I'm kind of free writing.
I won't go into the situation that prompted this blog entry but seriously, the way people view the aspect of pics just pisses me off sometimes. This seems to be something that a lot of people obsess over and yes I can see why. But why is that the first thing people ask for when starting any kind on interaction with someone on here. Yes, communication of the Internet does eliminate the visual stimulation that some of us seem to deal better with, BUT usually the pics requested are not of the face but more the parts that we choose to share only with those selected individuals we feel incredibly close with, unless of course you're an exhibitionist or such. Yet when people say no to the other person's request for pics they end up insulting and berating them and those with weaker constitutions feel bad, although a lot of people get pissed off as they should.
Think of it this way as many people have said before. An online conversation is a lot like interactions you have in real life. If you met someone in real life would the first thing you say "Take off your clothes and let me see you naked!" I would hope if you were any self-respecting being you would say at least Hello or get to know the person first. Asking for people for pics right off the bat is the same thing. This is especially bad for females on this site. So many guys on this site who think with the head between their thighs instead of the one on their shoulders will jump anything that has an X and Y chromosome and ask for pics. This actually goes past pics as my MALE sub Alexis Rune has been approached by a few guys just because he has a female name.
Look if you really are that desperate to go see pics of the preferred genitals you want to see, go to a porn site, there are millions of free pics and videos on the Internet to satisfy you. Stop hassling the people on here and hurling insults at them just because you don't get your way.
And honestly if you get to know the person on this site, your interactions with them will be a lot more enjoyable. One of my best friends on this site, who will remain nameless, is a really awesome person and I honestly cannot imagine me having the life I have without them. And not once was it because I asked them for a pic. Granted the way we met was me seeing them naked, but I digress.
It's the same with my current subs Alexis and Brookie. Alexis approached me as a possible sub responding to my ad so of course that would be a given that sexuality would be there. I approached Brookie as a possible offer even though she didn't post an ad BUT she and I had talked pretty often with each other through her and Skype for nearly a year prior. The point is, I got to know them as people and you can ask either of them that I have rarely asked for a pic of them. I say rarely, because I have asked for a few pics of Aleixs but usually they weren't sexual. That was one of the first questions Brookie did ask me when she was considering me. I told her while pics are nice I don't require them. I do accept pics but only when the people I interact with are willing to send them on their own terms and at their own time.
You may remember a while back with the gd presidential elections. To be honest, I didn't vote although I did have some candidates in mind. But there were a lot of incentives of pics of people. I am a boobs guy so a free picture of boobs just for voting for someone would seem like a no-brainer right? Although I honestly couldn't do it. It just betrays my ethics.
Like I said at the beginning I don't know if this garnered me any comments, or if people enjoyed this as this was just me kind of rambling in a sense. But for those people who ask for pics from people within seconds of meeting them and then insulting people when they say no to that...knock it off!
I won't go into the situation that prompted this blog entry but seriously, the way people view the aspect of pics just pisses me off sometimes. This seems to be something that a lot of people obsess over and yes I can see why. But why is that the first thing people ask for when starting any kind on interaction with someone on here. Yes, communication of the Internet does eliminate the visual stimulation that some of us seem to deal better with, BUT usually the pics requested are not of the face but more the parts that we choose to share only with those selected individuals we feel incredibly close with, unless of course you're an exhibitionist or such. Yet when people say no to the other person's request for pics they end up insulting and berating them and those with weaker constitutions feel bad, although a lot of people get pissed off as they should.
Think of it this way as many people have said before. An online conversation is a lot like interactions you have in real life. If you met someone in real life would the first thing you say "Take off your clothes and let me see you naked!" I would hope if you were any self-respecting being you would say at least Hello or get to know the person first. Asking for people for pics right off the bat is the same thing. This is especially bad for females on this site. So many guys on this site who think with the head between their thighs instead of the one on their shoulders will jump anything that has an X and Y chromosome and ask for pics. This actually goes past pics as my MALE sub Alexis Rune has been approached by a few guys just because he has a female name.
Look if you really are that desperate to go see pics of the preferred genitals you want to see, go to a porn site, there are millions of free pics and videos on the Internet to satisfy you. Stop hassling the people on here and hurling insults at them just because you don't get your way.
And honestly if you get to know the person on this site, your interactions with them will be a lot more enjoyable. One of my best friends on this site, who will remain nameless, is a really awesome person and I honestly cannot imagine me having the life I have without them. And not once was it because I asked them for a pic. Granted the way we met was me seeing them naked, but I digress.
It's the same with my current subs Alexis and Brookie. Alexis approached me as a possible sub responding to my ad so of course that would be a given that sexuality would be there. I approached Brookie as a possible offer even though she didn't post an ad BUT she and I had talked pretty often with each other through her and Skype for nearly a year prior. The point is, I got to know them as people and you can ask either of them that I have rarely asked for a pic of them. I say rarely, because I have asked for a few pics of Aleixs but usually they weren't sexual. That was one of the first questions Brookie did ask me when she was considering me. I told her while pics are nice I don't require them. I do accept pics but only when the people I interact with are willing to send them on their own terms and at their own time.
You may remember a while back with the gd presidential elections. To be honest, I didn't vote although I did have some candidates in mind. But there were a lot of incentives of pics of people. I am a boobs guy so a free picture of boobs just for voting for someone would seem like a no-brainer right? Although I honestly couldn't do it. It just betrays my ethics.
Like I said at the beginning I don't know if this garnered me any comments, or if people enjoyed this as this was just me kind of rambling in a sense. But for those people who ask for pics from people within seconds of meeting them and then insulting people when they say no to that...knock it off!
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I liked reading that.
Posted 08-26-2015 at 07:49 AM by Happy Me 
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I agree. There is a difference between online role play/interaction and using the Internet to simulate every aspect of natural communication. Being behind a screen offers safety and security to many. Trying to force them to give up the biggest benefit allowing them to explore is disrespectful. Asking for pics on sentence two is rude to boot.Posted 08-26-2015 at 08:13 AM by InPunishment
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I actually just got propositioned in chat last night. Somebody had asked me what I was looking for on the site. I told them that I had a dom (who I live with and am dating) and that I am just looking for friendly chat. They told me my dom was very lucky because I had a nice body and they wouldn't mind telling me what to do and watch me on skype. I told them that even if I didn't have a dom, that wouldn't happen because pictures and especially video are limits of mine.
They reassured me that they wouldn't ask for a picture with my face in it, but that doesn't matter. They got annoyed when I said that.
For me, sharing photos isn't a limit because of the privacy aspect. It is a self respect thing. My body is MINE! Nobody else's. I don't consider it belonging to Asslvr. It is still mine and I allow him privileges on a regular basis. I am also very self concious. I grew up being told negative things about myself, and I still feel that way. When I take a piture of myself I spend lots of time studying it to make sure it is something I am comfortable sharing, and a lot of the time, the picture gets tossed in the virtual garbage can without anybody else seeing it. So to be ordered to share a picture as proof of a task ... I would have a meltdown.
I also have been abused and forced into doing things I am not comfortable with in the past. And so when somebody demands something that I am not comfortable with, I shut down. I will not do something because somebody says I have to (not unless we have talked about it before hand and I have agreed to have you push me). I will not do that again.
So yes, pictures are a limit of mine. And if you don't understand that, then fuck off because we can't be friends.
But there are so many amazing people, like you KJ who really get it! You understand the intimacy behind a photo and how lucky you are to be a part of it.
Now I was a part of the presidential election, and for me, offering to share photos was something that I debated about for awhile. But I negotiated with people so that I did it in a way I was comfortable with. And for me, sharing those photos and getting positive feedback is a great way to gain positive self esteem and build up my confidence. It doesn't mean in the future I will be willing to share my photos with people if I am asked or demanded. But I felt like I was in control at that moment, and I was ok with it.
Sorry or the long comment. I should have just written my own blog, but I want to say thank you for posting this and thank you for understanding.Posted 08-26-2015 at 11:08 AM by Butterfly
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I can entirely understand that for some people sharing/getting pics are no big deal. What I would like is for them to respect that I don't feel that way at all. I'm much more like Butterfly and you in that pictures of any part of myself represent a very deep intimacy.
I don't mind people asking me if I do pics in the first place so much as pushing after I've answered. I have concerns about their reading comprehension because it's quite clearly stated in my info, and I do feel it's sometimes inappropriate to throw that into the conversation right away, but often people contact me because they see I am permitted to play with others. I understand that some people are specifically looking to exchange pictures and I can give some leeway there. If they push, they're pretty much dead to me and likely to end up with a whole lot of random dick pics and sarcastic memes, but they get one pass at the question first so I feel it's fair.Posted 08-26-2015 at 07:36 PM by naughtylittlegirl
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I feel the same exact way. I get so many people asking for pics of me or my gf just because we are subs. For me and my gf we will both share pics, but only with people who we get to know and get to trust. The amount of people who Kik me and immediately demand pics is ridiculous. We are happy to send pics, but you had to really know us first and we have to have a good bond already. Or if someone wants to swap pics, we would probably do that to but it's still a matter of asking, not a matter of demanding and getting mad when we say no.Posted 08-28-2015 at 07:56 AM by SwitchCouple14
