Forget it. I am not looking for subs or slaves at the moment. But I do get such requests on frequent occasions. So if you ask me what increases your chance that I or others reply posively to your request (or reply at all), here's my strong recommendation:

SHOW SOME EFFORT!

As soon as you write me, it takes me effort to reply. And I don't even know you, yet. You could not continue to write with me any moment. Again, I don't know you, and your first message no matter how long...

Sex with real persons, in real, for real, for free, just two clicks, no effort, no filling in any forms, adding information, giving any pictures away, getting your ass up ...

If you guessed by now that this is a rant, you are right. At least, a little bit.

Small update: I just had two wonderful kinky sex dates with the same person on two different days. And hopefully this is going to continue with more sessions next week. Jealous?

Well, I am happy, and...

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Hello folks, dear readers and friends,

Very recently I had a brief reminder about play and rules again. Last times it was more about overdoing it and taking care of yourself. This time it's not about sticking to rules not only as a paragraph to stick to the rules.

I put up a new add thread, free-for-all this time. So everyone can make a promise there about what to do controlled by others, in this case via posts. And of course, when we make such a promise, we want others...

Hello lovely new user,

Yes, you, fellow human being!
We highly appreciate you here.
Hopefully you stay with us for longer.
I wish you the best and that you find what you are looking for.
Here are my personal tipps to improve your experience on getDare.

getDare is a community around truth or dare, possibly dipping heavily into BDSM - bondage dominance sadism masochism. It always is based on consent and consent, messaging someone included. So everything...

Hello friends and readers,

When I recommend how to get in touch and get dared, I almost forget about the other option. Plenty of people only want to look around, have a partner, and don't want to get messaged by random strangers, let alone be dared.

One of those reached out to me asking for advice.

First of all, make sure you didn't post or blog anywhere to get dared recently, and anywhere you did...

Hello friends and readers,

There's another problem I like to speak about: getting spammed by random people.

I don't mean getting stalked via message after message by the same person, in which case you should contact the mods if blocking that user doesn't solve it.


I think there's not one miracle solution to it. And even if, I don't have it. All I can do is offer my thoughts. People are people, or maybe trolls, especially on the internet. Let's talk...