I have a driving need to dissect things I don't understand. If someone has any insight and would care to explain the following, I would be much obliged.

I am aware that this post may appear to mimic another recent post. That is not accidental. But this is not intended as a forum to discuss the particular shortcomings represented there. So please no attacking other members. These are just things I started wondering and I'd like to have a legitimate discussion about them.

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"He really digs you."

A friend said that to me about a mutual friend. I felt myself pulling back. Which is weird because that's a flattering thing to be told. And he is a really awesome guy.

Maybe I just have trouble believing that someone could "dig" me. I do pretty much always believe deep down that I'm inferior. No matter what evidence I may have to the contrary.

And I think it scared me a little. A statement like that says to me that...

Background story: When I was a pretty much just starting on this site, I received a perfectly nice message from a dom on this site asking if I would be interested in being his slave. I responded with:

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Maybe it's just that objectification isn't my thing. But I've never liked the idea of being "owned" or viewed as property. I certainly don't see myself as a slave. I've just barely come to terms with identifying as a submissive.

And I see being owned as far too passive of a state for me to be willing to assume. An object does not need to do anything to be owned. I consider my submission much more active than that.

So I prefer the word belong. To me, belong means...

Written for my friend, Rex (she has trouble reaching the keyboard)

"Hello Very Special Person,
You have reached Your Personal Vend-A-Kink Machine.
For a serious response, please press #1
For a super serious, no like for real, I'm being totally serious, please you need to press #2
For a soft and...

Subs should learn the difference between needs and wants...

Yeah, everyone should learn the difference between needs and wants. Like, maybe it should be discussed between a dom and sub. Instead of one just telling the other.

Because you know what I need? Air, water, food, sleep, and shelter.

I don't know how other subs read the need vs. want thing, but that's where my divide is.

I don't need: D/s, treats, cuddles, orgasms, or a host of other...

I've heard/read a few different things (not ALL of them from people I dislike) that indicate to me a lack of understanding behind the motivations of bratting.

- I don't like when a sub rebels just to gain attention.
- I don't want a brat. I'd rather have a sub that actually WANTS to submit.
- I'm a real sub. I would never question my master. I always do as he says, no questions asked.
- I would never let my sub do that. I demand respect at all times.

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