Having recently taken some time away from getDare, I've been giving some thought to what draws me back to getDare time and again over the years. I've decided it's authenticity.

I've watched plenty of porn, of nearly every kink, but regardless of the type of porn, I'm always drawn to amateur footage of people authentically displaying their true erotic selves. But porn is uni-directional: producers and consumers. I've read plenty of erotic stories, also across nearly every kink, but again...

These rules have been updated since first published based on both experience and some feedback received by commenters. A big thank you to KinkyKoala for her thoughts and discussions with me on this topic.


Below are my personal safeword rules for online casual play and online D/s relationships as a Dom. They are basically an enhanced traffic light system that many people will be familiar and comfortable with. I am willing to play with other safewords and safeword rules too, but...

Prompted by a friend, I recently spent some time considering what exactly I desire with regards to humiliation. I found it a useful exercise to reflect on this as the process of putting my thoughts into words aids in clarifying them, and I thought I would share it here on my blog.

I've never quite got clear in my head if there is a difference between humiliation and degradation. There is an interesting discussion thread about this here on GD, but it feels to me that people tend to make...

I am a straight male Dom or Master.

I play casually on getDare as a dare and task giver, and generally participate in kink discussion and learning. I rarely (never) accept dares or tasks, but I love giving them out so my likes and limits here are as a Dom, Master, Top, or general Dare Giver.

I have experience with many forms of BDSM kink but my primary kink is submission and control. This means that I am generally willing to take account of your personal kinks and fetishes...

Ad Status: Closed
Not expecting to be looking again in the forseeable future.

After mostly lurking on getDare for many years, and dabbling around the edges mostly due to lack of time (now no longer an issue), at the start of this year I started actively seeking a ongoing online-only D/s relationship. After a few false starts and wonderful experiences I am actively seeking again. Hopefully you are the person I am seeking.

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