Register Blogs TorD Chat Albums

Go Back   getDare Truth or Dare > Blogs > BastyTheKitty
Reload this Page Comments

  1. Old Comment
    elektra's Avatar

    PM Dares!

    Leaky kitty please
    Posted 03-31-2023 at 04:51 PM by elektra elektra is offline
  2. Old Comment
    Blue Fox's Avatar

    A Rant About Limits

    Agreed with all said. I have nothing more to add, as it's been said already. Just wanted you to know, however, that your words do resonate.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 02:57 PM by Blue Fox Blue Fox is offline
  3. Old Comment
    Butterfly's Avatar

    A Rant About Limits

    I feel the same way as both of you. However, I think it is more important to educate people and let them know that there are always going to be stupid people to deal with. Even in your local community, there are consent issues, acceptance problems, you are always going to run into these things. So you need to be self aware and do your research.

    I love getDare and it has completely changed my life. So has kink in general. I try to do my best to get information out there so that new people in the community don't have bad experiences, but there is only so much we can do. Hopefully they can learn from past mistakes like we all have, and if they are interested in pursuing kink and the community, hopefully they can more easily find the resources that they need to thrive here.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 02:32 PM by Butterfly Butterfly is offline
  4. Old Comment

    A Rant About Limits

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by lilith_ View Comment
    Getdare gave me a VERY bad idea of BDSM when I first started. I made so many mistakes that I am so ashamed of them now. I was one of those ignorant people who call themselves Master/Mistress and they hardly have any experience even online. But I did a lot of research and thankfully youtubers, articles and fetlife opened my eyes. I left getdare for about a year after that. Now that I am back, I am happy to see the mods trying to educate people! But not only the mods but also other members seem to have started talking about important topics like limits, consent, topping from the bottom etc. The stupidity is still strong around here but it seems like there are a bit more quality posts than 1-2 years ago.
    Some of us do still care about this community and want to see it continue to strive and succeed. Honestly, there's no replacing GD. I love the entire concept of it, but you get the people who either don't know or don't care and they can ruin it. As I mentioned and as you've now proven: this community can turn people off of BDSM as a whole with the behaviours exhibited.

    I want to have a place where I can go and feel like the people respect me and my wishes, not a place where I ask for something and get screwed over for it.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 02:28 PM by BastyTheKitty BastyTheKitty is offline
  5. Old Comment
    lilith_'s Avatar

    A Rant About Limits

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by BastyTheKitty View Comment
    I will admit, I am at fault for this as early as 16, honestly. However, I quickly grew out of it and found that I don't actually like being a dom at all, nor was I any good at it. It does take experience and knowledge to be a good master, I won't deny that. It comes down to essentially accepting the facts that I wrote in the rant: it's about respect and equality, the slave gets just as much say as the master does, outside of sessions. And even then, the slave has the right to end the session immediately if they don't feel comfortable. This is the point where a true master and a fake master starts to show the difference.

    A true master would stop, sit back, help the slave relax, and discuss everything up to that point, figure out where he went wrong, and fix it.

    A fake master would probably lose his shit, push the slave further (or maybe he would stop) but he'd almost definitely lose the relationship, either by ending it because he's an arrogant, selfish ponce or by the slave leaving because he's an arrogant, selfish ponce.

    Sorry, I kinda lost my temper there... I've had people push me past my comfort zone and I would immediately stop, tell them to sod off, and go complain about them and about how they hurt me. It's not a fun thing to go through.
    Getdare gave me a VERY bad idea of BDSM when I first started. I made so many mistakes that I am so ashamed of them now. I was one of those ignorant people who call themselves Master/Mistress and they hardly have any experience even online. But I did a lot of research and thankfully youtubers, articles and fetlife opened my eyes. I left getdare for about a year after that. Now that I am back, I am happy to see the mods trying to educate people! But not only the mods but also other members seem to have started talking about important topics like limits, consent, topping from the bottom etc. The stupidity is still strong around here but it seems like there are a bit more quality posts than 1-2 years ago.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 02:23 PM by lilith_ lilith_ is offline
  6. Old Comment

    A Rant About Limits

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by lilith_ View Comment
    AMEN!!!! People have finally started talking about this. It makes me so angry. Also another thing that drives me insane is people calling themselves Masters when they are 19 years old and have never even had real life experience.... It really takes away the meaning of the word.
    I will admit, I am at fault for this as early as 16, honestly. However, I quickly grew out of it and found that I don't actually like being a dom at all, nor was I any good at it. It does take experience and knowledge to be a good master, I won't deny that. It comes down to essentially accepting the facts that I wrote in the rant: it's about respect and equality, the slave gets just as much say as the master does, outside of sessions. And even then, the slave has the right to end the session immediately if they don't feel comfortable. This is the point where a true master and a fake master starts to show the difference.

    A true master would stop, sit back, help the slave relax, and discuss everything up to that point, figure out where he went wrong, and fix it.

    A fake master would probably lose his shit, push the slave further (or maybe he would stop) but he'd almost definitely lose the relationship, either by ending it because he's an arrogant, selfish ponce or by the slave leaving because he's an arrogant, selfish ponce.

    Sorry, I kinda lost my temper there... I've had people push me past my comfort zone and I would immediately stop, tell them to sod off, and go complain about them and about how they hurt me. It's not a fun thing to go through.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 02:02 PM by BastyTheKitty BastyTheKitty is offline
  7. Old Comment

    A Rant About Limits

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Butterfly View Comment
    I completely agree with you. Limits are something that should be respected at all times. The person who has those limits is the only person who should get to decide when it is time and under what circumstances they decided to push or remove a limit completely.

    I see threads where the whole point is to give tasks that break somebody's limits and I think it is stupid. If it can so easily be broken, it really isn't a limit ...

    I think part of the problem is that half (probabably more) of the getDare community are actually living out a fantasy in a fantasy world. It is all a big role play for them, gathering fap material on a quest to achieve an orgasm. They have no intention of completing the tasks set for them, and/or don't feel as though the person they are giving the task to is actually going to complete it. So why bother with limits?

    Others are simply misinformed. They believe that a slave should not be allowed to have limits. That they are there for the sole purpose of pleasing any person with a dominant bone in their body.

    And of course there is also the case of people who LIKE punishments. They actively search for harsh tasks (whether they are going to complete them or not) because they like the idea of "I was naughty, I need to be punished", and that is fine, but there are a lot of people who take punishment seriously.

    I agree with you that the community needs to be supportive and respectful of each other, but just like the real world, you have to stand up and advocate for yourself as well. Just because somebody gives you a task that breaks a limit or a punishment, it doesn't mean you have to do it. Stand up, tell them to fuck off, and move on. There are always going to be those people here, and in the real world. And it is our job to stand up to them so that they know their actions are NOT ok.
    This is the entire basis of this rant. I kinda tiptoed around the point that slaves are still supposed to have rights, but all in all I think I did a decent job, given my communication issues.

    Overall, I'm extremely excited about the support I've gotten with this! I was expecting quite a bit of backlash, but then, the backlash would come from the people who need to read this and who this is directed at. I just hope that enough people see and read this that it can make an impact on the community as a whole. This isn't a fantasy site, not for all of us, this is a place to sit back, relax, and be ourselves.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 01:58 PM by BastyTheKitty BastyTheKitty is offline
  8. Old Comment
    Joan Sky's Avatar

    A Rant About Limits

    I love these discussions. They are informative, helpful, bring awareness to more people... and is caring to the community and making it better place. Thank you all.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 01:39 PM by Joan Sky Joan Sky is offline
  9. Old Comment
    Butterfly's Avatar

    A Rant About Limits

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Cassandra View Comment
    I have also seen people who have some limits for strangers, with those limits being possible at least with people they build a relationship with over a longer period. It often comes down to reliability and trust. Just saying.
    Yes, I completely agree that having hard and soft limits is acceptable. I actually have all of my limits listed as hard limits to start. However, with Mr. Devious, I have almost NO limits and will do pretty much anything he asks me to try. And other play partners may fall somewhere in between and I may be willing to lift a limit with them as things progress.

    But when you are a stranger who has barely said a few sentences to somebody and you expect them to break limits. This is NOT ok.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 12:27 PM by Butterfly Butterfly is offline
  10. Old Comment
    lilith_'s Avatar

    A Rant About Limits

    AMEN!!!! People have finally started talking about this. It makes me so angry. Also another thing that drives me insane is people calling themselves Masters when they are 19 years old and have never even had real life experience.... It really takes away the meaning of the word.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 11:35 AM by lilith_ lilith_ is offline
  11. Old Comment
    CSasha's Avatar

    A Rant About Limits

    I have also seen people who have some limits for strangers, with those limits being possible at least with people they build a relationship with over a longer period. It often comes down to reliability and trust. Just saying.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 09:57 AM by CSasha CSasha is offline
  12. Old Comment
    Butterfly's Avatar

    A Rant About Limits

    I completely agree with you. Limits are something that should be respected at all times. The person who has those limits is the only person who should get to decide when it is time and under what circumstances they decided to push or remove a limit completely.

    I see threads where the whole point is to give tasks that break somebody's limits and I think it is stupid. If it can so easily be broken, it really isn't a limit ...

    I think part of the problem is that half (probabably more) of the getDare community are actually living out a fantasy in a fantasy world. It is all a big role play for them, gathering fap material on a quest to achieve an orgasm. They have no intention of completing the tasks set for them, and/or don't feel as though the person they are giving the task to is actually going to complete it. So why bother with limits?

    Others are simply misinformed. They believe that a slave should not be allowed to have limits. That they are there for the sole purpose of pleasing any person with a dominant bone in their body.

    And of course there is also the case of people who LIKE punishments. They actively search for harsh tasks (whether they are going to complete them or not) because they like the idea of "I was naughty, I need to be punished", and that is fine, but there are a lot of people who take punishment seriously.

    I agree with you that the community needs to be supportive and respectful of each other, but just like the real world, you have to stand up and advocate for yourself as well. Just because somebody gives you a task that breaks a limit or a punishment, it doesn't mean you have to do it. Stand up, tell them to fuck off, and move on. There are always going to be those people here, and in the real world. And it is our job to stand up to them so that they know their actions are NOT ok.
    Posted 07-12-2018 at 08:58 AM by Butterfly Butterfly is offline
  13. Old Comment
    Diapered_prince's Avatar

    Bladder Training Failure

    Well, I went back and read your other entries and found a pretty common theme. You don't like to drink a lot of water. With that in mind try drinking something other than water to switch it up and give you something to look forward to rather than something that you won't like.

    Also you should not worry about drinking every hour on the hour. The goal that you stated is to not be able to control your bodily functions. What I have found works best it to simply go AS SOON AS you feel the need to go. Don't ever hold it in as that just reinforces your potty training. Obviously, diapers will help with that step as you will truly be able to go in your pants, but if you can't get/wear 24/7 the best thing you can do is just go to the toilet when the need arises (try to keep the time between needing to go and actually going to less than 2 minutes these first two weeks and on the third week shorten it to 1 minute.

    Eventually you will need diapers to continue, but that can be done later if you are still with your parents.
    Posted 05-23-2018 at 11:17 AM by Diapered_prince Diapered_prince is offline
  14. Old Comment
    Forrest's Avatar

    Bladder Training

    Sounds like a swell idea, I should do something similar sometime.
    Posted 08-27-2017 at 11:42 PM by Forrest Forrest is offline

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:58 PM.

getDare - Archive - Privacy Statement - Top
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions Inc. - Also check out Kink Talk!reptilelaborer