So you want to be my slave?

Thanks to this post about the difference between a submissive and a slave I've decided to get something off my mind by writing it down. Sine I joined getDare over half a year ago I have seen plenty of requests from potential slaves compared to very few from potential Masters and Mistresses. Partly it's the lack of effort that I cannot stand, I have written about that, but even more, I oppose the myth or thinking pattern which stands behind such attitude:

I want to be your slave, so you surely want to be my Master/Mistress because you get all the benefits without effort.

In good will I forget about the peak of arousal, that let many people forget their good manners. That leave's the question: What is a slave? What are you offering in detail when you offer yourself as my slave?

So do you want to be my slave as my property? That means I own you, as well as all your property. Slaves don't have any property. They are their owner's property so all their property is also their owner's one. In this case, first of all sell all your property immediately and transfer all your money to my bank account. Since selling yourself is illegal in most states now I set you free. That's what you wanted, isn't it?

Not? Ah, then you mean 'slave' in the BDSM context. Let's have a look:
So you want to be treated like a slave, not be one. In fact, that means you want a (sexual) roleplay or a relationship. So you want to play with me. Fortunately, any game or play requires consent from all participants. I am glad you asked and didn't order me.

I am even more happy that you easily accept when I politely refuse and don't spam me with further requests. In a play we are equals, yes, even in a master-slave-roleplay, though it might look differently. It's even more true for a relationship. Equal means that I don't have to mistreat you in any way or at any time you think I had to and vice versa. As a potential player or partner you compete with any other potential players and partners as well as real life and activities for my time, effort and mood. Behave yourself!

One more word on Masters, Mistresses and Tops. Usually, they are expected to lead and manage. Good leadership and management are rare. They involve much more than just giving out orders. Among many other required qualities and efforts are thoughtfulness, empathy, care, very good communication skills and decisiveness. Try it yourself. It's not as easy as you think, and certainly not without plenty of effort. It's not only an issue of personal preferences! Like in dancing, make yourself pretty and interesting for the ones offering to lead a dance. Pretty doesn't have to be physical or only physical. Exercise. Care for yourself. Be an interesting character instead of just another aroused and bored slave. Be educated. Show virtues. Don't be bored. Don't be boring. That's exactly how you ask to be a slave: Offer yourself, but not in shameful written requests! Do it with your profile, your blog, your comments, your threads, your posts, with your behavior, with every single activity on getDare!

Be a slave, a servant to others. Don't ask to become one.