I claim you are not getting nearly as many and as good replies to your messages to people as you could get, especially to potential partners in sex or life.

Inspired by a an older blog post, I like to share an actedote from my personal life:

I was about the age of 16 and with my older brother and his friends on a LAN party. For those too young to know, LAN stands for Local Area Network party, which meant everyone of us young people brought their chunky, heavy PC with equipment...

Hello lovely new user,

Yes, you, fellow human being!
We highly appreciate you here.
Hopefully you stay with us for longer.
I wish you the best and that you find what you are looking for.
Here are my personal tipps to improve your experience on getDare.

getDare is a community around truth or dare, possibly dipping heavily into BDSM - bondage dominance sadism masochism. It always is based on consent and consent, messaging someone included. So everything...

Hello friends and readers,

When I recommend how to get in touch and get dared, I almost forget about the other option. Plenty of people only want to look around, have a partner, and don't want to get messaged by random strangers, let alone be dared.

One of those reached out to me asking for advice.

First of all, make sure you didn't post or blog anywhere to get dared recently, and anywhere you did...

Hello friends and readers,

This time a blog post caught my eye. I'll quote it in my own words. Forgive me should I get anything wrong.

My impression by your blog post is that your English is sufficient. Yes, it could improve, as could mine, but I think I clearly understood what you tried to express and I didn't get eye cancer reading it. I don't think that's the root of your problems. I'd recommend that...

Hello dear readers,

Another letter from a getDare user reached my office:

With the missing pretext, it's about getting responses to the most polite messages even with an avatar!

While I might have answered that before, I try to address the issue in short:


NEVER message random people!
Never request friendship without further communication.
Never...

So you took together everything it needed, created an account, and just posted what you like to get by us other users here. But, nobody replies. So much nobody, that you start to bump your thread. Once. Twice. Maybe even a dozen times. Still, nobody replies, or at least you don't get the answer you are looking for.

Here's why, just to help you out.
There seems to be no gate...

We all know there's no pretty, short or comfortable way to deal with inappropriate requests. We can only educate those to do better who read. Anyway, I'd like to try once in a while like this.

Recently I got another request via PM. Nice avatar. Good signature. But:

- No greeting
- Just this sentence: "Punish me" or something along that

My plain answer: "No, thanks." And here is my main reason for that reaction:

Never...